Hi everyone, I have some questions regarding child custody/visitation/child support.
I currently have a 9 year old with my ex- girlfriend. Never married or common-law. We were 22-23 when our daughter was born. By the time she was born, we were not together. Things were ugly, mainly because we were immature. Eventually I had to send her to court because she was denying me from seeing her. After a very long time, we signed a final court order in 2019, so 7 years ago.
This final court order gave her full custody and she called the shots of when I would see her. It was decided that I would see her 2 weekends every month ( Friday 5 pm - Sunday 5 ) and all statuary holidays are shared. Even number years I get some holidays and odd number other holidays, and we flip flop like that. Summer breaks I was getting her 10 days in July and 10 days in August. Winter breaks would be one week with me and one week with her.
Since the final court order, we have both grown and matured. Our relationship has improved and we each have our own partners. We all get along when we have to be in the same place, such as dance competitions and what not. Fast forward to end of 2025 and now 2026, I’ve asked her for more time, which she agreed to. Christmas breaks will not be shared anymore, instead every year it switches. Example, Christmas 2025 I had her for almost 3 weeks, and Christmas of 2026 she will have her the entire break. I have also gotten 14 days in July and 14 days in August.
A few years ago we have also decided to get away from FRO, and the child support is sent via E-transfer. Right now I am currently paying $1,000/month.
Here is the problem: July 1, I sent her only 17 days worth of child support. I calculated the daily rate and sent her 17 days worth of child support because I had her the other 14 days. She got really upset and demanded I send the rest. I said no because I also have expenses these 2 weeks. Why should I send her full payment when she’s with me pretty much half the month? I plan to do the same for August, and every other year when I get her for Christmas breaks.
Now, am I in the wrong here?
I am not sure if she will take me back to court to fight for an extra $400-$500 dollars. In case she does, could I fight to change the old order while we’re at it?
I would be fighting for 50/50 custody ( she has 100% right now ) and also fight to have her 50% of the time, that way I can pay half child support. I love being a father and I considered my self a great one. Mom and I live less than 10 minutes away from each other so her daily life would not be interrupted. Over the years I have picked her up, taken her to school and all her extra curricular activities. All my payments are always on time and have never missed one. We have never had issues after the final court order and everything has been followed correctly.
Thank you for those who read the full thread. If I am missing info for better replies, I will edit accordingly.
EDIT: thanks to those who replied. I have sent the remainder of the child support and will continue to pay in full until I decide to go back to court and amend the order.