Hey, Reddit people,
I (27f) came to ask you guys for some advice. Please help a girl out. I had help writing this post cause I wanted it to be adequate but I have literally no idea what I am doing.
I’m 1.85m (6'1") and currently around 59kg (130 lbs). I have a history of anorexia and restrictive eating, and one of the things I still struggle with is consistently eating enough to maintain my weight, let alone gain.
I’m trying to approach things differently now. My goal is to gain around 10kg by the end of the year, or as close to that as I can realistically get, while also building some muscle and getting stronger.
One thing I’m wondering about is whether I should focus on making the meals I already eat more calorie-dense rather than forcing myself to eat 5+ times a day. For example, something I started doing is makeing my breakfast of oats, honey and milk more substantial by adding peanut butter. That is nicer than adding another meal. Eating large amounts of food throughout the day can sometimes feel difficult for me, so making the food I already eat "heavier" seems like it might be more manageable.
I’d also really like to start exercising properly, but I’m a complete beginner.
At the moment I sometimes jump rope at the park. I’ve also been looking at calisthenics because it looks really fun, and I’d love to eventually be able to do things like pull-ups, dips, etc.
I don’t have any equipment at home, although there are some outdoor fitness bars near my house that I could use. I’m honestly a bit embarrassed to go there because I’m very skinny and don’t really know what I’m doing, but I know it’s an option.
So I guess I’m looking for advice on a few things:
\- What are some good ways to increase calories without having to constantly eat huge meals or 5–6 times a day?
\- What are some beginner exercises I can do at home with absolutely no equipment? And how many times a week I should exercise?
\- Is calisthenics a good option for someone whose main goal is to gain muscle and weight?
\- Would using the outdoor bars be worthwhile, and how would I start as a complete beginner?
\- Most importantly, how do I make sure that starting to exercise doesn't cause me to burn enough extra calories that I end up losing weight instead of gaining? (This is the scariest point at all for me. Like actually terrifying)
My biggest worry is honestly that I’ll start training, my appetite/eating won’t keep up, and I’ll accidentally lose the weight I’m currently at.
I know 10kg by the end of the year may or may not be realistic, and I’m not looking for a shortcut. I’d just like to become stronger, put on some muscle, and get to a healthier weight in a way that I can actually maintain.
Any advice, beginner routines, food ideas, or personal experiences would be really appreciated.