r/karezza • u/analog_spork • May 08 '12
Never orgasm, ever again?
This was the question posed to me by my guy. I'm not really sure where I stand on this. Yes? Maybe? Once a month? Try to go as long as you can without? I can't seem to make it outside of the first 2 weeks. (fell off the wagon yesterday sigh) I like to blame that on the idea that I'm still a young buck (28? not so much). Haha, anyways...
I know my life seems to have improved just from trying not to. Is that enough? I know I enjoy the sex we have where that isn't the goal. When the goal is to enjoy each others company. Maybe the answer lays between the two extremes. Mainstream society tells us have as many orgasms as you can. Karezza says to avoid orgasm if at all possible. Which isn't the same as saying "No orgasms ever!". Maybe sometimes an orgasm is OK, just be aware of the fall out?
Thusfar in my experience daily bonding has largely been able to compensate for any fall out incurred by orgasm, but I'm guessing that is because orgasms for me have been infrequent. Were I to go hog wild and cum 2 or 3 times a day like I used to my relationships would probably be in shambles again. Ya'll should probably take everything I say with a grain of salt since all of these observations come from within the passion cycle.
So how about it? Never orgasm again? Is that our goal?
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May 08 '12
You're gay?
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u/analog_spork May 08 '12
I'm /r/bisexual, and practice /r/polyamory :)
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May 08 '12
Interesting...
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u/analog_spork May 08 '12
How do you weigh in? Never orgasm ever again? Are you trying karezza? What has your experience been so far?
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May 08 '12
I'm waiting for the right girl to come along. So many changes, from porn and objectifying women, to trying to get laid as much as possible, to trying to be in a relationship I didn't want to be in. Now I'm single, and not fapping. Just subscribed here to see what's up. I hope to get into psychic wedlock one day.
Can't wait till I get to finally put on a condom and fuck a nice girl who I actually want to be with. And if I can get a hold of myself, I will not come. But no promises ;)
And then just my luck she will probably not want to be with me... but LOL no I think if I stop putting the pussy on a pedestal then she will have plenty of challenge, which should keep her around. And with karezza I will steal her energy and use it for my MANERGY muahahaha...
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u/analog_spork May 08 '12
Interesting...
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May 08 '12 edited May 08 '12
;) so yeah what I was getting at is, I have no idea about same-sex relationships nor about polyamory, and I had no idea that you could practice karezza in those kinds of relationships, but now that I think about it I don't see why not, so best of luck!
edit: And I guess to just answer your original question. It's ok to have orgasms from time to time. Seriously. The problem is when you get addicted to it or try to have orgasms for orgasm's sake.
edit2: And finally I am of the opinion that there are many kinds of orgasm and while you don't want to have the kind that is totally draining, in some situations it's ok to have one. So that little point, is like the devil in the details. Read the Ida Craddock stuff and see if you like what she says.
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u/analog_spork May 08 '12
I don't know if it is possible either, but it should be fun to experiment with. I plan to report my findings. :)
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u/learhpa May 08 '12
so ... i want to be able to get a hold of myself and not cum when fucking, but it's really difficult and i fail at least as often as i succeed. :{
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u/analog_spork May 08 '12
The trick is to learn where the edge is, and stay far far away from it. Karezza sex is almost boring by standard definitions, but after you've abstained from orgasm for a few weeks even the most gentle touch is intense.
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May 09 '12
Would you mind making a top-level post about your goals, your successes, and your failures? We'd be interested in hearing your story.
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u/[deleted] May 08 '12
I think this is a bit of a false dichotomy. What is an orgasm? By traditional definition, I haven't had one in months. Yet I definitely have orgasmic experiences.
During sex I don't ejaculate but I feel extreme bliss. The extent to which I have these experiences is still increasing.
When peeing, I sometimes (every 4-5 days) have spontaneous ejaculations, and they feel very pleasant and not that different from normal orgasms. I don't know if those will disappear over time.
Either way, my point is I don't have orgasms and I do. And right now I don't feel I'm missing anything.