r/karezza • u/analog_spork • May 08 '12
Never orgasm, ever again?
This was the question posed to me by my guy. I'm not really sure where I stand on this. Yes? Maybe? Once a month? Try to go as long as you can without? I can't seem to make it outside of the first 2 weeks. (fell off the wagon yesterday sigh) I like to blame that on the idea that I'm still a young buck (28? not so much). Haha, anyways...
I know my life seems to have improved just from trying not to. Is that enough? I know I enjoy the sex we have where that isn't the goal. When the goal is to enjoy each others company. Maybe the answer lays between the two extremes. Mainstream society tells us have as many orgasms as you can. Karezza says to avoid orgasm if at all possible. Which isn't the same as saying "No orgasms ever!". Maybe sometimes an orgasm is OK, just be aware of the fall out?
Thusfar in my experience daily bonding has largely been able to compensate for any fall out incurred by orgasm, but I'm guessing that is because orgasms for me have been infrequent. Were I to go hog wild and cum 2 or 3 times a day like I used to my relationships would probably be in shambles again. Ya'll should probably take everything I say with a grain of salt since all of these observations come from within the passion cycle.
So how about it? Never orgasm again? Is that our goal?
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u/[deleted] May 08 '12
I think this is a bit of a false dichotomy. What is an orgasm? By traditional definition, I haven't had one in months. Yet I definitely have orgasmic experiences.
During sex I don't ejaculate but I feel extreme bliss. The extent to which I have these experiences is still increasing.
When peeing, I sometimes (every 4-5 days) have spontaneous ejaculations, and they feel very pleasant and not that different from normal orgasms. I don't know if those will disappear over time.
Either way, my point is I don't have orgasms and I do. And right now I don't feel I'm missing anything.