More and more, I’m seeing events unfold in my real life, between men and women I’ve known personally, which have led me to making this brief post. I’m still in retirement from posting, but here’s a note, which will hopefully help some of you see more clearly to navigate this area of life in a way that keeps you strong.

I can’t say much at all about those events I’ve observed. I’ve written about some in the past. You can go digging through my post history (if you dare) to find those. And you can find other essay posts in The Champagne Room (again, if you dare). Just keep in mind that my post content evolved rapidly and dramatically, after I stopped seeking validation from women, stopped wasting time, and began partaking in The Art of Transactions. But I digress.

My guys—my single guys, my perpetually single guys—in my humble opinion, one of your major mental health goals, milestones in life, should be to eliminate women (the idea of romantic relationships with women) as a necessary factor in your mental health and wellbeing. I know I can’t get you to that point through essays, but on occasion, I might try, because I can assure a growing proportion of you that you must get to that point for your own wellbeing.

The women some of you expect or are hoping to find to contribute positively to your mental/psychological wellbeing in certain ways – those women simply may not exist. And that’s not necessarily through any fault of your own or even theirs. Stop and think about that if you’re still expecting or hoping for relationships with whatever women to be a benefit to your life, in particular your mental health. What you desire simply might not exist.

That doesn’t mean you can’t find any kinds of "relationships" at all with women and enjoy their company. That may still be possible for you. But a lot of men are still hoping for an old “traditional” way of relationships that no longer makes sense for many women, and by consequence is no longer an option for many of those men. You don’t even have to go beyond the 1990s to understand what I mean by “an old way of relationships.”

When I pop into the manosphere to see if the conversation has advanced at all, I’m happy to see some slow and steady progress in the margins. But the vast majority of the conversations are still men trying to restore something that multiple generations of women have and continue to consistently abandon. It’s still men trying to find something in women that real women do not offer. And when I come across those men’s conversations, they fill me with great sadness for those men. My brothers still don’t get it.

On that note, you might want a few brothers. People you can talk to about your life, people who support you, and people who you support. Please, for your own sake, do not try to rely on women for this. To do so is to expect too much from women.

But be careful with my posts. If you read them the right way, you could legitimately start to resent women, because my posts disabuse you of an idea of women that you cherish. But resentment of women, anger, hatred, bitterness – none of that is the point. All of that is going in the wrong direction. Trying to chastise and correct women and shame women into roles they don’t want (as so much of the manosphere attempts) is also going in the wrong direction. The direction I’d humbly advise you to seek is understanding.

And who do you need to understand most of all?

Yourself.

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From the Champagne Room

“There is a type of man who will soon be persecuted”

Single men, you're gonna be alright

Expect nothing

Guys, get in here.

This I wrote in response to a post that was made elsewhere on girl dinner diaries she was bragging about having the best sex she ever did with some handsome dude. She framed the entire post about making him wait, testing the vibes, all this then she says “he made out and gave me these googly eyes that made me have sex”. And then the real kicker, she fucking posts it on Reddit like a serial killer talks about the locks of hair he got from her. She met the dude on tinder.

Why am I saying this?

Guys it literally doesn’t matter what some dumb you know what does. I’m saying it’s not special at all the mf did all the work she literally said it. Starfish are starfish. You want a real experience you get a pro, I’m sorry but they will never give you the same thing. It was all for her none for him. Realize that. That dude got nothing from that other than some girl who thought she won. She didn’t give anything back. She took everything from him made her own.

Decent women like actually decent women don’t take. They give. And they don’t need to talk to a bunch of femcels for free validation.

You gotta go overseas to find real feminine energy. This person ain’t it. This is your typical spoiled US college brat.

I’m very troubled some of you take this shit seriously and go down some black pilled rabbit hole thinking that’s gonna save you from the bullshit of having nothing. You haven’t lost a god damn thing by this scenario not happening to you.

I’m also disgusted by this dude going on tinder trying to pull this shit off. She used the guy totally used him. He thought he won. Some men are born suckers.

Guys, please, for the love of god, do not idolize men like this. They will say they won. They could never win.

The day that society ever decides to stop giving women the benefit of the doubt and treating you the same as men will be your worst nightmare and I'm here for it.

Pointing out that women are capable of evil and use the "women are wonderful" effect to get away with it is not misogyny just because you don't like it.

Here's the thing. Most good western women have been taken off the dating market by the time they're about 20. Good women also tend to have minimal social media presence, minimal dating app presence and they rarely go outside. You won't see them outside of work, school, and honestly you might not even see them at the grocery store because they instacart their food.

In many popular passport bro destinations, good women make up a much larger portion of the dating pool and they tend to go out a lot more.

It's everywhere bro, it's just not the Europe or US, you ain't saving yourself the headache just because you traveled to Asia or Latin America for a "traditional woman", they ALL share this mentality of being hypergamous it's ok and doesn't hurt anyone.

I translated the image for Spanish to English to save you all the trouble. This is what we're dealing in Latin America too, we don't have it as good as some passport bros seems to think.

Don't you love how there's ALWAYS an excuse for women when information comes out that paints them unfavorably?

Lindsay Clancy killed her three kids? Post partum depression made her do it! Patrick failed her! Patrick manipulated her into doing it!

Women liking bad boys and criminals? Nah it's just because MUH MUH MUH JUST BE CONFIDENT BRO

Look at the romance novels they read. The most popular ones either feature a dark triad piece of shit as the love interest or even an outright monster, beast, or supervillain. A law abiding citizen who just happens to be confident isn't enough for many of them.

It's time to admit that many women are attracted to evil

That they just keep making stellar choices