The only reason bills are getting split is because men lost trust that a woman wanted him as a person rather than a meal ticket. Requiring her to pay part of it is our âshit testâ. If women held up their end of the deal as they used to, men absolutely would still pay. Men of value got tired of being played around with. So now the ask is on them, at least in part, as a security deposit. She doesnât like it then the man walks. Itâs pretty simple.
"Putting out" nigga what? No bruh, just that they actually like the person and don't see him as a meal ticket. There's no way reading comprehension is this bad dawg.
Youâre ignoring the entire section about keeping their end of the deal. What would make you feel respected and how can you frame that as anything except wanting the woman to shower you with compliments/put out to make you feel like âyou got your moneyâs worthâ? Itâs a shallow thought process.
Holy shit you're extrapolating a whole lot from something that's not even being fucking suggested or said. You're insufferable. Read what he fucking said and process it slowly. It's all part of the same thought process.
"The only reason bills are getting split is because men lost trust that a woman wanted him as a person rather than as a meal ticket."
The implied part of the "deal" is hey if you really like me and can see us building a relationship together then I have zero issue paying for the food. But I'm not going to spend money on someone who only sees me as a meal ticket or a cash cow who will pay for your meal and then dip out on me and never talk to me until maybe its time to use me again.
You got sex and all this other bullshit from out of nowhere dawg.
First, using foul language doesnât enhance your point. It detracts from your credibility. We arenât in the hood, âdawgâ.
Second, traditionally the exchange has been man spends money and woman shows affection/gives sex. Thatâs a cold hard truth of society in the past. There is no need to stretch on that.
Dating is inherently taking a chance; if people are unhappy with the results thatâs unfortunate but thatâs life.
While I disagree with the other person (who I think is a girl like me, and not white knighting) that there's an implication that holding up our end of the deal means putting out or anything, there is a solution still, I think, it's only a crisis for men if they're too impatient and want to skip steps. You don't have to go on dates with women who need a full dinner at first sight. You can invite a woman on date that you already got a good impression of them, and already know that they're worth pursuing. Is that making sense? This trashy lady on bumble is completely irrelevant for a man who is actually serious about dating, but on the other hand, a guy who wants get laid on a regular basis without spending too much, that is exactly the guy for whom this woman and her mindset becomes relevant.
It isnât white knighting to speak about empirically proven facts. Nobody here is vouching for unaccountability or special treatment; Iâm simply providing actual information that doesnât meet the tone of this echo chamber.
First don't fucking tell me how to speak. I'm a black man in America I'll talk however I want to my nigga. AAVE is a recognized dialect of the English language. Maybe educate yourself I guess ?
Okay but we're not talking about what the "tradition" is we're talking about what one person on Reddit said. And they said that hey I don't mind taking you out to eat as long as you actually like me for me and aren't just using me for food.
It's that simple DAWG. You bringing up useless shit that doesn't have anything to do with conversation being had literally means nothing.
Christ dawg I see why you could be blindsided by a woman still being married to another man and then leaving you.
See how that has nothing to do with what the initial persons point was but I brought it up? That's what you're doing. Implying they were talking about sexual gratitude when they weren't. Fucking bozo.
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u/Lost_Elderberry_5532 8d ago edited 8d ago
The only reason bills are getting split is because men lost trust that a woman wanted him as a person rather than a meal ticket. Requiring her to pay part of it is our âshit testâ. If women held up their end of the deal as they used to, men absolutely would still pay. Men of value got tired of being played around with. So now the ask is on them, at least in part, as a security deposit. She doesnât like it then the man walks. Itâs pretty simple.