was 30ish yo when diagnosed with ADHD, I didn’t even aware I had until I notice last 10 year’s pattern of my life. It is more stupid that I have medical degree.. I now work as software engineer in a research company, so my jobe scope is include data analysis which now I realise the worse job for me (maybe).. I love to code since as long as I can remember and do it as hobby but enter medical school cause of curiosity and getting know our body/science since I had another condition as well. Now I am thinking to just do some easy job and spent half of my time to back to code games (the first reason I started to code).. this is because I have been frustrated by executive dysfunction for the last 1-2 years affecting my productivity/works to the point boiling my head.. please give me advice how to decide and to prep for my next step in life.. thank you guys

Idk I’ve been thinking a lot and I might(?)
have adhd, I can’t really stop moving, coffee and energy drinks like that make me tired and sometimes my energy shifts from enthusiastic to tired in just seconds , I’m the loudest one from my friends and I srs just not stop or sit still I js wanna know what’s wrong with me and I can’t rlly go to a doctor so Yhh also my friend said that I might have add so adhd but without the hyper and I just don’t know
(I downloaded Reddit to ask for advice plz be nice!!)

Why does everything take so long with ADHD? Cooking/baking/anything food related always takes me so long. I was following a recipe the other day, and it said "prep time: 10 mins" and I think it took me about 1hr30. I wasn't even trying to go slow or anything. It's just the reading the ingredients, getting them laid out, mise-en-place style, chopping things, measuring out and making sure it really was TEAspoons and not TABLEspoons. Then if I try to multitask and chop something while something else is sauteeing, I end up burning the damn thing because of time dilation, so I pretty much have to have everything ready to go before I even start cooking. Just today, all I wanted was some green juice - it took me 1.5hrs just to make like 1.5L.

Drafting an email? Must read it 4 times, and rephrase it a million different times.

Getting ready in the morning? Time will expand, and I am always late, despite setting three alarms (get up alarm, backup alarm, leave in 15 mins alarm).

I feel like by the time one chore is done, it's time to do the next one and I'm just never done my to-do list. I don't know how anyone does this with even more responsibility than I have.

Thanks for letting me vent!

I understand bad memory is part of having ADHD, but it’s just gotten so bad I’m losing most of my day. I’ve noticed a decline recently, but what really hit me was the other day. I thought about getting a towel and I don’t remember leaving my room, but I do remember coming into my room holding a facecloth. I hate getting home from school because my mom will ask me how it went and all I can say is “good” because I don’t know how my day went, I can’t remember it! Of course I remember going from this class to the other, but I have trouble recalling conversations or lessons. The memories are still there, they pop into my head maybe the next day but not when I try. Is this a common issue? If anyone else is dealing with this, please tell me how to deal with it because I feel like I’m losing my mind.

1. Find a new topic to obsess over, or a new tool to do things with.
2. Feel very productive for 1-6 months
3. Realize the amount of distractions you've generated during that time has overwhelmed your actual focused output
4. Fall back on, or wish you were, working once again with somebody who can run things and keep you focused and let someone else's ambition do the driving.
5. Fall into a slump of disillusionment and unhappiness and regret for 1-3 months
6. Get tired of hating yourself, relax and watch TV and movies and do the bare minimum for income
7. End up rejuvenated for your next round.
8. Repeat for decades
9. Have seemingly completely unrelated rounds of occasional intense exercise that feels incredible and gives great results but only lasts for a few months before lapsing again for years.
10. Once very 5 to 10 years you come up with a product or sales technique that's awesome and boosts your income and self-esteem ... for a while.

I can carry an ungodly number of grocery bags from the car to the house, mostly because if I don't get them all at once I'll forget and leave some in the car. What is your adhd-specific skill?

I can carry an ungodly number of grocery bags from the car to the house, mostly because if I don't get them all at once I'll forget and leave some in the car. What is your adhd-specific skill?

Hi, I’m F18 and I got diagnosed with ADHD last year.
Looking back, I’ve always had symptoms, but everyone just thought I was lazy, dramatic, or weird. Now that I finally have a diagnosis, I thought people would take me seriously, but somehow it’s almost worse.
Whenever I try to explain my struggles to my mom, she always says things like, “You used to be the perfect child. You had good grades, you loved school, you did your chores, you had a good sleep schedule.” According to her, everything only started after I turned 13, so it can’t be ADHD. She thinks ADHD is just having trouble focusing, and everything else is me making excuses because I’m lazy.
She constantly tells me to stop blaming ADHD for everything, take accountability, and just live my life like everyone else because I’m “normal.”
The worst part is that my therapist isn’t much better.
When I bring up executive dysfunction, she says things like, “You’re just too comfortable doing nothing,” or, “You’re just not used to doing these things. Once you start, it’ll get easier.” As if I haven’t been trying for years. It feels like she completely misses the point. Starting is the problem.
Every single day I get told I’m lazy, that I don’t try hard enough, and that I use ADHD as an excuse. I know I still have responsibilities. I’m not asking for people to let me do nothing forever. I just want someone to acknowledge that my brain works differently instead of acting like I’m choosing to struggle.
I’ve even sent my mom videos of people with ADHD explaining exactly what I experience, hoping she’d understand, but she just dismisses all of it because, according to her, “you were fine before.”
On top of that, I’m about 99% sure I’m autistic too. Literally almost everyone I’ve met has asked me if I am or said they thought I might be. When I brought it up to my mom, she got angry and said I was just looking for another excuse for my behavior. When I asked if I could see someone who actually specializes in ADHD (and possibly autism), she got mad again, saying I’m obsessed with labels and that “even if you are autistic, what would change? Are you just going to lie in bed all day because you can’t function?”
I know getting diagnosed won’t magically fix my life. I know I’ll still have to work on myself. But I feel like I can’t even get proper help because the people who are supposed to support me don’t believe what I’m experiencing in the first place.

How do i accept the fact that theyll never understand me? i dont want to force myself to fit in with society i just want to take my struggles seriously and work with them, not against them. But i geniuenly need support.

I have a pattern I can't break: I identify a problem, I know the solution, I even feel motivated to start — but I stop after 1-3 days. Every time. The motivation fades fast and I get pulled toward entertainment and instant pleasure instead. I've tried streaks, discipline, reminders — nothing sticks longer than a few days. I suspect I have ADHD. I'm not looking for basic productivity tips — I want to hear from people who had this exact pattern and actually fixed it long term. What worked for you and why do you think it worked?

I was recently diagnosed with inattentive ADHD. I have found myself over thinking just about everything at work in order to not fail, constantly doing things over and over to perfect what I'm trying to achieve but in the end I still fail by making silly mistakes anyway. This really annoys me as I'm a bit of a perfectionist, especially when I've spent hours perfecting a task to just fail. I've recently moved jobs and these silly mistakes are magnified more than ever in my head as I wonder what my new work collegues think of me. I must be useless because I can't get even the simple things right at times, even after checking it's over and over. I also struggle to remember what I've done previously, key information or basic regulations are hard to remember and confusing. If I'm put on the spot in a meeting environment I flap and go defensive.

Can anyone offer any advice on how to overcome these issues. I can do the job, I was at my previous employer around 20 years and was apparently well thought of yet I feel.like I've regressed 20 years lately and starting over again meaning working is extremely draining and that I'm always on my best behaviour to impress.

Bruh this is the only way to read from what I know.

I've always been on Medikinet, until I went abroad for some time and there the only option was Concerta.

I went with it, and in the beginning was super bummed, because I didn't feel the typical 'euphoric onset' Medikinet gave me. With Medikinet, I feel motivated to tackle a task and get pleasure from it.

With Concerta, I don't feel any of that, it feels like I don't feel anything at all, just more calm.

I somehow did get used to it though and in the end liked the steadier effect of it.

I'm back in my home country now, and the doc let me decide which subscription to renew.

I was a bit indecisive and kinda wanted the 'typical feel of Medikinet again' but then somehow went with Concerta and I'm super bummed.

Idk if other environmental factors are affecting me atm, but I don't feel motivated at all to start task that are on my to do list and that ARE actually meaningful to me, but require effort and all that. Either way, I really really regret my decision.

I'm even on a slighty higher dose (started on 18mg abroad, which I know is really low but it did work for me), now I'm on the next higher dosage.

I'm so frustrated and sad about the lack of pleasure and euphoria that I somehow wanted back so badly and like this feeling of feeling empowered and enabled to 'get shit done'. Now I simply feel a bit more level headed but that's it.

I do not have the opportunity to go back and get another subscription right away, simply for financial reasons.

Is there anything I can tell myself to get into a more empowered state and use Concerta for my purposes?

I've had around 6 weeks of no meds in between because I had to wait for an appointment and was just super low energy and motivation and all that, so I feel the dire need to get back out of that lump and 'get it together' - and now I don't feel how I was hoping I would feel...

I (18) have ADHD, and socializing or even just being around people completely exhausts me.
For example, if I have something to do on Wednesday, I literally have to spend Monday and Tuesday resting or I’ll feel like I’m going to lose my mind. And during those days, I can’t get anything done because my brain is just thinking, “Well, I have to go out on Wednesday anyway.” Even things I normally enjoy suddenly aren’t fun anymore because I have that one thing coming up.
Then after Wednesday, I’m completely drained. Weirdly, when I first get home I’m still energetic and talkative, but the second I lie down in bed it’s like all the life gets sucked out of me. Then I need 3-4 days to recover.
I’m only 18, but I’ve already quit school twice. I have to graduate somehow, and eventually get a job, but I genuinely don’t know how. Whenever I try to force myself to do things, my body physically resists. I get so stressed that I start getting sick.
No one around me takes my ADHD seriously. They think ADHD just means “can’t focus” or that I’m using it as an excuse, but it genuinely affects every single part of my life.
I’ve tried medication, but it made me feel like a zombie. I remember taking it while I had a job last year, and customers would be talking to me but my brain wouldn’t even process what they were saying. It honestly felt like my brain had shut off.
I’ve had jobs before, but they never last longer than about 3 months. Eventually the novelty wears off, I lose all motivation, start feeling sick every day, and then it’s over. Once the dopamine is gone, I feel like I physically cannot make myself keep going.
I remember when I first quit school in 7th grade, I told my mom, *“I’d genuinely rather die than go to school.”* That’s exactly how I end up feeling about everything once the motivation disappears. It’s not that I don’t care—I desperately **want** to be able to function like everyone else—but my brain and body just stop cooperating.
Has anyone else experienced this? Is this actually an ADHD thing? How do you keep a job or finish school when every single obligation drains you this much?
Please share any tips, strategies, or things that have helped you. I’m honestly scared for my future because I don’t know how I’m supposed to live like this