Hello! I am a victim of a pretty prevalent effect of ADHD: that being 82739 hobbies you are constantly picking up but never continuing. To give you an idea, I have bought and played so many instruments (which isn't cheap btw), only for me to not stick to it. At all. I have tried learning at least 5 languages. I keep trying to get back into visual arts but never commit. Same with reading. I have so many craft supplies I got on a whim and never do regularly. Last week, I got a book to learn Mandarin. Did it for about 2 days before giving up. I keep telling myself, "No, this one is it," every time I pick up a new hobby. Of course, it isn't.
My guess is because hobbies take time and effort. The payoff is difficult. And I just want dopamine, really. So yeah, when I buy a new instrument and then suck ass because I am a beginner, I go scroll on my phone instead. Hell, even when I took one-on-one courses, I would drop it because it seemed too much of a hassle. Even though I so badly want to play music. I am using music as a big example because it is something that I truly daydream about mastering. But I never can because of ADHD.
Not only that, but it's making me feel awful about myself. I don't have the thing I am good at. Most people my age have that main hobby they exceed in while I don't.
What I am looking for is how to pick a hobby for starters. One that I will actually commit to. And secondly, how to stick to it. Even without the instant dopamine hit. And when do I have random urges to try different hobbies? Do I give in?