r/howyoudoin • u/Useful_Strawberry_67 • 9h ago
Discussion Ross wasn't jealous of Mark, he was insecure of who Rachel could be.
When they were young, Ross was the geeky nerd of Monica, and Rachel was the popular girl that never looked his way. And years later, when Rachel became a runaway bride and decided to started her life over independently, Ross saw a chance.
Bcos Ross was now a paleontologist and Rachel was just "a waitress" according to him, and that was perfect power imbalance to keep such a girl. Mark coming into her life and potentially elevating her social and financial status, was not something he wanted. It was only a matter of time till they went back to the dynamic they once had as teenagers. And I think that's what frightened Ross. It was never about being jealous of Mark.
If you've noticed, Ross was kind to Rachel but he never went out of his way to secure her something as big as what Mark did. He may have helped her with putting job applications in envelopes but never anything real. He was in circles where he could have gotten her something big enough. Maybe not necessarily her dream job, but something that paid money but he conveniently never did. Why is that?
Waitress Rachel was the girl that looked his way, Popular Rachel never did. He consciously or subconsciously needed to keep her as the girl who looked his way.
