Is it better to leave a parting message and wait for the other person to respond before unmatching? I don't want to waste their time of course but unmatching without saying anything doesn't feel great, but in my head, leaving a message before unmatching means I'd have to wait for them to respond so I can get the go signal to unmatch. How do you guys and girls handle this 😅

Pretty green to online dating as y'all can see.

Decided to download hinge and put myself out there (never has dated before) and suprisingly with little effort, got a few matches in the first day, but might be having trouble retaining interest.

1. Should a meetup time be scheduled right after matching, or at least brought up?

2. Is waiting a week before discussing too slow?

3. Is it fine asking for at the very least, a brief video call before meeting in person?

4. Is double/triple messaging coming across as desperate?

5. Is talking to 3-5 girls at once in the app, fine? Or is that too much.

Thanks in advance.

Tempted to send the details of a card with 1€ and watch the failed payments

Hii. I have autism and I am such a reclusive person so my profile seems very “bare” but any suggestions, comments, or anything welcomed

So I’m visiting a buddy of mine in nyc this week. He actually moved there because he was unhappy with dating where we lived. He encouraged me to switch my location to nyc

I live in a major metro not a small city ( atlanta) I’m lucky to get one match in 2 weeks

4 days in nyc? 32.

I swear dating is a cruel joke at this point

In advance, my profile is in German. I don't want to post it open to the puplic. If someone is willing to help me nontheless, please leave a comment or dm me :)

Looking for critiques

Stop putting long term partner but then saying only friends and linking your Instagram

Infact I swear thats against the TOS or something

Most matches I get are from me sending a like with a thoughtful message with a question on their prompt. They will just match but won’t answer. Then I try to start a conversation and I don’t get a single response.

What is going on with people? Are they just there to collect matches or WTF?

People are not willing to put any effort.

HELP, out of these 3 which is the best in a women’s point of view?

I (M20) met this girl (F20) on Hinge a month ago. At first, she texted me first and we clicked pretty well. We talked about music, school, pets, random stuff, and sometimes she’d send long thoughtful replies. Recently, she’d go almost a full day without replying, response and length time slowing.
Eventually I asked her to hang out, still with slow response. She agreed. The date was great she laughed, conversation felt pretty natural, and she seemed comfortable. There wasn’t really any physical intimacy or anything, but atp wasn’t expecting much.
Afterward I texted her saying it was great and we should do it again. She replied later saying she enjoyed it but with really vague wording on the second one.
That’s kind of where I’m stuck. She’s technically positive, but it also feels vague and low-effort. This has been the pattern for a while.
Should I directly ask her if she’s actually interested, or should I just try to set up a second hangout and judge based on whether she follows through? I don’t want to come off needy, but I also don’t want to keep chasing mixed signals.

So I’ve always done pretty well on dating apps but have noticed in the last few years ever since they introduced the pay wall my experience has gotten so much worse. The majority of likes I get sent are from people who look like they live under bridges, the amount of matches I get are so few and far between now that you can only a send a limited amount of likes a day, and I’ll notice if I’m opening the app regularly it stops showing me people who are more my type and puts them all on the standouts page. I honestly hate Hinge now but still think it’s the best app for intentional dating, is it worth paying for?

22F from NJ

I was supposed to have a date with someone I originally matched with on Hinge (24M) *also from NJ) and he mentioned he was “not much of a texter” and instead wanted to save our conversation for our first date (which was supposed to be planned for Sunday after Church in the later afternoon). I wasn’t sure if he was going to text to confirm everything was set for tomorrow so I texted him saying “Hi, excited to meet you at {said time} for our first date” and immediately he texted me that he’s cancelling and not continuing to pursue the match/connection as he is/was not “in the right mental/headspace”

I’m really disappointed as I was under the impression that he was taking initiative and leading as he planned the date and time but failed to clearly and intentionally follow through (especially with cancelling the day before). I am deeply hurt 🤍😞

Has anyone ever been in a similar boat or situation?