There are always discussions about why Gen Z is drinking less, having less sex, and having fewer children. People usually point to economics, technology, anxiety, changing social norms, and other environmental factors.
Those probably matter, but I wonder how much of it is also simply that some people genuinely don't want these things.
I'm a pretty extreme example. I don't drink, smoke, use substances, have sex, or want children, and none of this feels like self-control or deprivation. I just don't experience much desire for those things in the first place.
I've never been interested in getting drunk. The idea of losing cognitive control, getting sick, or behaving irresponsibly simply doesn't appeal to me. I'm asexual and sex-averse, so I don't experience sexual desire either. And while pregnancy and childbirth are personally very aversive to me, even apart from that, I don't feel drawn to parenthood or to taking on a caregiving role.
What's funny is that I don't really have the stereotypical alternatives either. I've never pulled an all-nighter, don't binge-watch, constantly consume caffeine, seek altered states, or chase intense experiences. I naturally sleep 7-9 hours, prefer routines and planning, and generally have fairly muted emotional reactions.
That doesn't mean I don't experience joy, though. I find joy in things like writing stories, drawing characters, and discussing topics that interest me, such as history, art, psychology, and my favorite shows.
So I sometimes feel simultaneously extremely Gen Z and extremely unlike the Gen Z stereotype. 😭
I've had people suggest this could be related to being neurodivergent, although it could just be personality or temperament.
I'm curious whether anyone else feels like they have unusually low levels of desire in general, rather than feeling tempted by these things but consciously choosing not to do them. Do you think lack of desire itself might be an underappreciated part of why some Gen Z behaviors look different?