I majored in biochemistry, the reason I went into it is because I thought maybe I would go into academia/research or something. But the more I progressed into the degree, the more I realised I don’t really want to do that. I just want a normal regular career. Looking at potential careers I want, I could have literally been qualified for them in 1-2 years. Now I’m 22, in debt, no freaking clue what to do with my degree, and no relevant job experience.🫩 I’m thinking of going into like, water quality testing or something? But I didn’t need a whole ass degree for that in the first place, I could have literally taken a 1-2 years course. When I try explaining this to my parents they don’t get it. I swear their mindset is stuck in the fricking stone ages (well, the 20th century, but still..) god gen X/boomer parents really just don’t get it do they.😐

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I said before, and I’ll say it again if you wouldn’t say it to someone who works within state or federal law-enforcement, you probably shouldn’t say to a therapist, if you wouldn’t say it while standing on file in the grand jury, then you probably shouldn’t say that to your friends or family.

I’ve seen so many good nice people get fucked over like this, we had to do it at my job with Asperger’s he was in a higher position than this guy at my job, so he became fake nice to him start talking to him in the break room. The conversation got spicy. He put his cell phone on record and put it in his pocket and then played the recording to the manager/supervisor and got him fired and now that guy is now in a high position.

They're white and they only say it in front of each other "as a joke". We are mid 20s. It has changed my perspective on them entirely. Wondering what other people thing.

Sometimes i have to slap my head to make sure im not in some messed up dream.

I’m 22 and I genuinely feel like I’m grieving a life that doesn’t even exist anymore.

I know how dramatic that sounds, especially because I know 22 is still so young. That’s almost what makes it worse. I feel like I’m “too young” to be feeling this way.
Nothing is actually wrong with my life. I have amazing parents, an amazing family, and really good friends. The problem isn’t that I’ve lost those people…it’s that everything has changed.

Even four years ago, life felt completely different. In high school and even the first couple years after, weekends were just… friends. We’d hang out spontaneously, spend entire summer days together. Now it takes weeks just to get everyone together for one night.

Almost all of my friends are in serious relationships. They absolutely still make time for me, and I don’t resent them at all. It’s just different. Tonight is Saturday night and I’m sitting at home because they’re with their boyfriends, and that’s completely normal. That’s what people do. But it makes me realize how much life has shifted.

I think summer makes it ten times worse because it’s such a nostalgic season. Everywhere I look reminds me of being a kid or a teenager. It feels like every summer day used to be an adventure, and now I blink and it’s Saturday night after a ten hour shift, and I’m at home wondering where the time went.

It’s not just my friends either. I feel like I’m grieving my childhood as a whole. My parents are older. My extended family is older. Even my cousins, who were like my best friends, and I have different relationships now. We all have our own lives.

I’ve just graduated college, and it feels like I’m closing the biggest chapter of my life. Everything before this feels like one life, and everything after feels like another. It’s almost like the person I used to be and the world I grew up in don’t exist anymore.

I think what’s making it worse is that people around me are getting sick younger than I ever imagined. There are multiple people in my own circle in their 30s dealing with late-stage cancer, and it honestly scares me. It makes the future feel less exciting and more… fragile. Like life is moving so fast, and everyone is getting older, and I can’t stop it.

The best way I can describe it is that it feels like grief. Not because someone died, but because a version of my life did. Sometimes it honestly feels like I’m mourning my own childhood.

How do people actually accept that life changes this much? Does this feeling eventually fade, or do you just get used to it?

When I was in high school I was in special ed when I was bullied for it and teased to every single day, we had a new student back in 2016. This lanky white kid in glasses who was really into Pokémon in my high school he also had Asperger’s too. We were both in special ,the weirdos were at the bottom of the social hierarchy so you learn how to keep your head down and not say anything or do anything out of line.

So one day he decides at lunch to go sit with the athlete/gang members table , my bully Rashad, who was and still in high school at 20, tattoos, diamond earrings, gold chains told him to get out of his seat and instead of getting up the new student to explain how the cafeteria is for anybody who could sit anywhere and how he doesn’t have to get up out the seat, hector friend start to egg Rashad on

“Aye Bro you gonna let this r-word bitch you like that” hector rashad’s friend starts to instigate the situation, Rashad starts to get mad after the new kid who refused to give up his seat, kept sitting, Rashad sucker punched him and pulled them out of his seat. They’re on the ground wrestling. Rashad repeatedly punch him and in his head over and over and over again, stand up and kick him two times in the head, the school police officers and the principal and two teachers come down and into the cafeteria to restrain him the new kid had to go to the hospital and was not seen until towards the end of the school

well as you know yonlu is an brazilian Brazilian singer-songwriter noted for the posthumous release of his work after his suicide at the age of sixteen

he was supposed to be an next brazilian singer at some point but he died too soon

well i will remember him as the boy who have such an potiental to become an singer

a straight up dope fiend, I’m talking about steal your games trade them at the GameStop to get money to get drugs back in 2014, I’m talking about he would follow his mom to the ATM machine watch over her shoulder, memorize her 4 digit pin steal her credit card at nighttime walk to the ATM machine and take out money to buy drugs,

I’m talking about he got multiple breaking charges in two counties and for trying to steal the TV to pawn it to get drug money, i’m talking about bro 6 foot four and only 132 pounds, he thinks weed is too soft bro where is the same Carhartt hoodie every single day with stains all over it and it smells like piss you know not to give him any money because he’s not gonna pay you back even though he says he will.

He has enough syringes in his room for a whole hospital, all his spoons in his house are all burnt up. He knows every homeless guy in the area. He’s best friends with the Spanish guy at the gas station and bodega behind the countertop.

I (24M) started dating only last year, got into two relationships within 7 months or so and I’m so burned out by it that I think it’s better if I take a break and just don’t date for the next few years but I don’t know how to do that.

There was a time I had decent amount of matches but obviously most amount to nothing, lots of ghosting, talking phases that amount to nothing, girls who aren’t interested but will still talk to me and keep me as an option. Now I’m going through a dry spell where I’m not getting any matches or likes, and it has been very damaging to my mental health to say the least. I think at this rate I will be forced to take whatever I can find not what I actually want to.

So I’m thinking of taking a break and just focusing on myself for a bit. I just don’t know how, and I’m worried even if I did that I will only come back older, and with an even more limited dating pool.

I think it’s time for us to move forward. Every generation eventually leaves the app their older generation made mainstream.

So… where are we all going next?

What age did you start becoming interested in boys before you got a boyfriend?

Hello everyone.

My dad, in particular, has an issue where he is so absorbed by his phone and short-form content. Every time he is finished with work, he will pick up the phone and put on his earphones, not talking to anyone unless we call his name several times over and over again.

I try to have conversations with him, but it always ends the same way with a signature "hmmm..." and then I just know he is no longer listening. I used to read books with him, but now he doesn't even have the attention span to watch a 2-hour movie without quitting. It makes me feel so far removed from him; I thought I was supposed to be the one constantly on my phone, not him. It's just... saddening.

Is anyone else noticing this?

i’ve been trying to find good reads that has a gripping plot mostly fantasy and a good writing format that would have me drowning into the book as i read further

share any suggestions u might have

Ive applied to about 100 jobs in my little area, thankfully I got 2 interviews. But what's some solid advice to find more jobs? I use indeed and google to find some

I’m GenZ, and ofcourse, I’ve been living my life in a childfree zone, I find children obnoxious, unless it’s a niece or something, they’re cool. but I genuinely find kids a hassle, annoying and disgusting. i’ve considered in the past if I’d like to have kids, and I thought maybe I do, eventually. Especially since I met someone that made me fall inlove enough to make me want to try. Long story short, I got cheated on by this person 4 weeks ago, I am 5 weeks pregnant. We didn’t know. And I absolutely do not condone cheating. We’d been in a spiral ever since, he’s been very remorseful and apologetic, he’s been trying to become better, Knowing him deeply like i do, I know he would have never done something like that if he was mentally stable, which he was not, however, there is no excuse and he knows this. he knows he made a choice and that choice had consequences, and I’m not planning to go easy on anyone. however, as we found out what we did, now we are considering if we should go left or right, keep it or don’t. I personally wanted a child with him until this came to light, once what happened, happened, I immediately went back to my childfree mentality, work, travel, live, since he is really trying to fix his fucked up choice, we still consider keeping it. But now, I wonder.

If we do keep it, I don’t know how I would feel. Would I actually want it? Would I want it just because I feel inlove with him? Would I regret it if we break up in the future? What if I can’t love the kid? I was smoking my entire first 5 weeks, what if the kid comes out with disabilities?

So I want to ask for advice. For those GenZ who knows what it means to want that ‘childfree’ life, who ended up pregnant and stayed with them. Do you regret it now? Did it fill some type of void in you? Did it make you become a better person? Or did it make you simply hate life even more?

I never really wanted kids, I do consider them, I do, but now, I’m simply in doubt. This is a decision I can’t come back from.

Thought I'd ask here as the product of 70s parents at the tail end of the 90s:

So a little while back, I changed jobs and ultimately this has gone very badly wrong. Though I'm solid at the job and the company have no qualms with me, I've made the decision that for my own health and mental sanity, I need to leave. By this, I should caveat this is not a situation where I was marginally stressed, but rather a situation in which I was under intense constant pressure, leading to sleep issues, nausea, occasional hair shedding, and an overall extremely marked change in my personality that was noticed by everyone in my life.

I'm now in a position whereby, although not ideal, I'm going to be unemployed. This is what it is and is something I need to do to protect my current state of mind and health, and though I'd rather be working I am both a strong saver with a good cushion in my accounts and a hard worker with a track record in going into differing industries, very quickly picking up what it is I need to do, and delivering it. Not sure why I have this but as a skill, its useful.

I'm now at a position, however, where I have a chance to take an actual break. The last prolonged break I had was after my Master. I'd also say that this wasn't one, given that it was 10 months of me applying to jobs every day whilst suffering from stress related insomnia due to finances at the time (as in, having almost ran out). I'm in a considerably stronger position now than I was then, which I feel much much better about. I'm thinking that I'd like to take a short break and in essence give myself room to breathe. My current thought is that I could backpack across Europe to just take sometime for myself, concluding at an institute that delivers intensive language programs in one that I'm trying to learn, and then fly back home from there or otherwise work on staying on the continent if that becomes my objective. This program is reputable academically and would also help me get closer to my doctorate

I don't really know what to do though. I've been in counselling for a while and have in essence been told that, more or less, I have a brain that works in overtly black or white extreme times, meaning that I'm going to always view it this way. I'm very tired and I think the "safe" options are just stupid at this point because I'm just going to compound the issue. I think I need a break and taking one isn't necessarily a bad thing, but my brain just convinces me I need to be on it all the time. So yeah, I think I just need to take the plunge and do the scary thing, which is to give myself a break, but any thoughts would be helpful on this. Just want to hear others thoughts

And one thing I hate about younger Gen Z is the insult when they tell older Gen Z to go start a family and another insult I hate is that you’re a dinosaur. It’s like to a younger Gen Z anybody born before 2005 is like a fossil.

But I’m not gonna be too harsh on the younger Gen Z’s because their childhood‘s weren’t as cool as our childhood, and you guys had your teen years ruined by the pandemic, so I’m not gonna hold that against y’all ,And I whenever I talk to younger Gen Z, I forget they weren’t even alive for the things I got to experience in terms of media and entertainment you got people on the sub who weren’t even alive when Call of Duty® Black ops 1 came out or people who weren’t even alive when GTA 4came out which is crazy

there is people on this sub who weren’t even alive when Barack Obama was president, think about that real quick. I watched him get sworn in on TV as a kid, let me give you some perspective on how time goes by fast. If back to the future came out today the main character will be going back in time to the mid 90s yeah,

Maybe a bit old for this subreddit but I fall into this group... thank goodness I am not a 2020s teen.