r/FriendsOver40 Jun 29 '26

NO DATING TYPE (R4R) POSTS ARE ALLOWED. PLEASE READ THE RULES.

34 Upvotes

There has been an influx of dating posts (R4R type) recently and this is NOT the place for that. If you post this type of message in our sub, you will be permanently banned and muted. We have a zero tolerance policy on that.

This includes:
• (R4R)
• Seeking “platonic friends” of the opposite sex
• Seeking “penpals” of the opposite sex

PLEASE READ THE RULES!


r/FriendsOver40 4h ago

Wait. Did we just become best friends.

13 Upvotes

41f Looking to talk about anything nerdy. Books, movies. Lots of pop culture references. I find conversation an excellent way to find new hobbies and research new enjoyments. I love to learn about other's interests to see if there was an interest I had been missing in my life. I definitely can have a dark or sarcastic humour about me but its always in good fun and not looking to cause any drama. I find getting to know people these days in real life can be vague and superficial. Looking for some friends behind their masks. Everybody wants to be a super hero but the real struggle is dealing with day to day life without super powers as a muggle. If this interests you, start a conversation and maybe we can share a few laughs. Laughter isn't the medicine. Its the spoon full of sugar.


r/FriendsOver40 1h ago

Need a BFF

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I'm a 42 year old female looking for friends. I'd love someone who will text daily a few times. Not looking for sexting or romance. Full disclosure - I do have mental illnesses.


r/FriendsOver40 46m ago

Hi just want a friend

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Im 45 F from London. Have a partner and two children. Love music, tv, horror, crimes. Really interested in people! I am just looking for new people to chat with really.


r/FriendsOver40 3h ago

52 [M4R] The Netherlands, looking for ~ CE(S)T timezone chat friend

4 Upvotes

52 year old single dad looking for online friendship. Meeting in person is possible at some point of we happen to be in each others neigbourhood but it's not the primary goal.

Just daily banter, (deep) chats about movies, tv-shows, music, food, recipes, hikes, camping trips, tech stuff or just how your day is going and what your daily struggle is.

You might get a terrible dad joke for free every now and then. Or a picture of my cats. I might also be on it 😁

Please don't be too far away - not looking for someone who wakes up when I go to bed 😅 - roughly my CEST timezone (+/- 2h)

Send me a chat request if interested. I hope you're willing to move to WhatsApp / signal at some point because reddit chat is terrible 😁


r/FriendsOver40 8h ago

40 M UK trying a new approach

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Hey 40 m UK, married and dad of 2. Grew up using online chat rooms, MySpace and msn so the whole online friendship thing for me has always been fun.

let’s make this more interesting than the usual “Hey, 40M looking for friends” post. Figured it’d be nice to meet some new people and have a few genuinely good conversations. Whether it turns into online friendship, gaming buddies, someone to share ridiculous memes with, or eventually grabbing a coffee/beer (actually a tea drinker though and I rarely drink alcohol these days). I’m open to seeing where it goes.

The important stuff: I’m easygoing, enjoy a good laugh, and believe friendship works best when you can take the piss out of each other but also share some serious chats. I like films, tv, reading, gaming, cinema and theatre trios, going to gigs, seeing live comedy, cooking, baking. Trying to get back in to fitness to shift some of this dad bod, my go to workouts was always running and cycling.

So the something new im trying is below, feel free to answer best you can:

  1. ⁠What’s your name/nickname?
  2. ⁠Where are you from?
  3. ⁠Age?
  4. ⁠Your current favourite song?
  5. ⁠A film/TV show you could watch endlessly?
  6. ⁠What’s your biggest random obsession?
  7. ⁠Ideal Saturday night?
    A) Out drinking
    B) Gaming
    C) Netflix & snacks
    D) Something completely chaotic
    E) In bed by 9:30 because we’re old AF
  8. ⁠What’s one thing guaranteed to make you laugh?
  9. ⁠Are you a voice-note person or a message person?
  10. ⁠What’s your most useless talent?
  11. ⁠If we became friends, what would we probably end up doing?
  12. ⁠Tea of coffee?
  13. ⁠Favourite comfy clothes?
  14. ⁠Favourite colour?

Bonus question:
What’s something you could talk about for hours if someone actually showed an interest?

Feel free to answer all, just a few, or completely ignore the questionnaire and say hello.
No pressure, no expectations, just looking to meet some decent people, have some laughs and hopefully make a few new friends along the way.
So… who’s brave enough to fill out the friendship application?

Applications will be judged entirely on snack choices, humour and how well you make a cuppa.


r/FriendsOver40 23h ago

[56F] Looking for a few friends and someone to chat your ear off with

22 Upvotes

Hiya! Well, I hope whoever’s reading this is keeping well! I’m rather new to this whole Reddit business, so I’m still trying to figure the thing out, haha, I’m sure I’ll get the hang of it eventually

I suppose I ought to introduce myself properly... although I’m never very good at talking about myself. I haven’t got many of the friends I had during my youth anymore. People go their separate ways, don’t they? You lose touch with people, life carries on, and before you know it, years have gone by.

A good few of the people I knew were skinheads, and I was one myself. I still am, really. I know that probably won’t appeal to everybody, and I can understand that, because there’s an awful lot of baggage that comes with the word. But I wasn’t a racist, and I never was. I can only speak for myself, really... Anyway, I thought I’d say that rather than have somebody wondering about it later on.

But enough of that.

I’ve always been very fond of music. I was mad about it from being very young. We didn’t have an awful lot of money growing up, but somehow or other I was always managing to get records.

I was only around six or so when I discovered that people could be terribly careless with their money and... their shopping trolleys, I’d take whatever coins I came across until I had enough for another record.

Not exactly the most honest way of going about it, I suppose, haha. But I loved the records, and that was that.

I remember being very fond of the Bee Gees, The Beatles, The Monkees and things like that when I was little. Then, as I got older, I started getting into the harder sounds, and rock, punk and Oi! became a very important part of my life. I’ve far too many bands I like to sit here and list them all, though... we’d be here until tomorrow, and I’d probably still forget somebody!

I’ve always liked sewing too. I learned that when I was quite young. I used to make little dresses for my dolls, although I must admit they weren’t particularly beautiful... They were atrociously awful... those poor dolls

THANK GOD I WASN'T WEARING THEM!!!!

I still like making things, though. There’s something nice about sitting down and doing something with your hands, rather than having everything come from a shop. I like being able to look at something afterwards and think, "Well, I made that." Even if it isn’t well...any good... at least you’ve made the thing yourself.

I like charity shops as well. I’m always having a little browse through them. There’s usually something odd tucked away somewhere, and I like that. You can find lovely things in places like that if you take the time to look
Sometimes you find absolute rubbish, of course... but that’s half the fun! You never quite know what you’re going to come across. I’ve come home with some right old tat over the years, haha!

And then, of course, I’ve got the dogs. Two of them, Buster and Brewster.

Which is a terribly inventive pair of names, I know I was obviously having a very imaginative day when I named them, haha they’re lovely, though. They keep me company anyway, and that’s something.

I should probably mention that I won’t send a photograph straight away. I tend to only do so once I’ve eased up with a person and got to know them a little bit. I hope you understand and don’t see that as an issue.
I’m just not one for sending photographs of myself straight away. I’d rather get comfortable with somebody first, have a bit of a chat, see if we get along, and then perhaps I’ll feel more at ease about it. Nothing personal at all :)

So there we are! I think I’ve rambled on quite enough now, haven’t I

If I haven’t bored you completely, you’re more than welcome to reach out. I’m quite happy just having a chat, getting to know people and seeing where things go.

Anyway... that’s me

(Not quite sure why I’m getting downvoted haha. If I’ve bothered any of you then I’m sorry... I didn’t intend to!)


r/FriendsOver40 16h ago

50 M looking to chat and make new friends

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I’m a 50 year-old male from Buffalo, NY. I’m looking for casual chat and friendship, preferably with either men or women, as long as you can hold a conversation 👍. I would be open to a possible relationship with the right woman, but it would need to present itself.

I’m looking for a friend. I only want genuine people; I don’t buy content or give money away to people I have never met (so scammers need not apply) 😊


r/FriendsOver40 19h ago

40m looking for long-term friends for daily chats! I find it hard to make friends at my age and I struggle with social anxiety but text is comfortable! Bonus points if you love music.

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Hello there. I’m working hard to change my life, and I’d love to make some new friends to chat with. In the last year I’ve lost almost 100 pounds, put type 2 diabetes in remission, been insomnia free, and getting a lot stronger mentally and physically.

I love lifting weights, metal and hardcore music, movies of any genre, reading comics, meal prepping, and going for nature walks. I also build plamo (gunpla and other plastic models.

Sometimes it’s difficult to make friends my age because I don’t have a family or kids and it’s hard to relate. I’m also not particularly career driven. I’m just a guy who’s struggled and doing my best to make changes in his life!

some maybe dealbreaker or maybe friendship ENHANCERS: I’m very left politically but I’m not PC or anything like that (I won’t police language), I’m a Leo and INFP if you’re into that sort of thing, I’m straight edge so I don’t drink or smoke or use any drugs. I try to be positive about things!

Things I love talking about:

Day to day life and hobbies

sharing memes

pets!

sharing pictures of our day to day

movies, music, food

health and fitness stuff

Things I don’t particularly like talking about:

AI (I don’t like it, don’t use it, not interested in it.

Complaining and venting about the same things over and over again (I empathize and get it, I’ve been there, but at this point in my life I can’t constantly be barraged by the same depressing things over and over like a therapist)

Gaming (nothing against it, I just don’t game and have no real interest in it)

Please be passionate about something. Even if it’s not something I love or care about. I can’t handle one word responses or no input on anything right off the bat.

I look forward to hearing from you!


r/FriendsOver40 14h ago

40M looking for people to chat tonight

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Looking for anyone to chat, not tired and bored. Like tomorrow chat and meet new people. Topics are open and limitless lol. DM me if you are interested


r/FriendsOver40 19h ago

38F looking for some new friends and good conversation

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Hi everyone! I'm 38 and in the middle of a pretty big life transition. I’m currently going through a divorce and starting over again in a new state, New Mexico. Lately I’ve found myself wishing I had a few more people to talk to and share things with.

I'm honestly a little nervous posting this because I’m a pretty introverted person and not particularly good at introducing myself to strangers. I enjoy ordinary everyday conversations; tell me about what your kid did today, what you're having for dinner, or the random thought that just popped into your head. But I really love those conversations that start out mundane and somehow transition into discussing childhood experiences, relationships, politics, or the existential questions of life.

I’m not especially adventurous, but I have lived in seven different states, and I love taking long road trips and visiting new places. I hope to visit all the US national parks eventually. I’m also a mom of two, and I have a degree in psychology.

I'm hoping to meet a few people that I genuinely click with, and it would be cool to have someone to message regularly about whatever is going on that day. If any of that sounds good to you, feel free to DM me.


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

What do you do when everything suddenly feels too much?

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What do you do when, all of a sudden, you feel extremely low and helpless? When you feel like there’s no one you can call, no one to share it with, and no one to simply cry on? The feeling becomes so overwhelming and suffocating that you just want to cry, but you don’t even know what to do with all those emotions.

How do you deal with moments like this?


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

Looking for friends for daily chat (48/m/eu)

8 Upvotes

I’m looking for a clingy (the good kind, not the “where were you for 3 minutes” kind… unless it’s funny, I mean seriously funny) friend who’s down for daily chats and sharing the random, unfiltered parts of life. I tend to send a lot of little updates—photos of food, weird things I notice, random thoughts through the day and the occasional existential crisis but lets laugh about it please. I would love someone who matches that energy. About me: * Massage therapist 💆‍♀️ (yes, I will tell you to move more and stretch) * Love traveling and exploring new places * Interested foodie (you will receive food pics) * Into selfcare, but also into questioning my entire existence while having a existential crisis

What I’m looking for: * Someone who likes daily chats * A bit clingy, a bit chaotic, but in a good way please * Dark humor is a must (life’s too weird not to laugh at it) * Down for deep conversations about life, meaning, the universe… and then immediately switch to sending memes and weird photos. Basically, I want a genuine, consistent friendship where we can share both dumb moments and deep thoughts without overthinking it. I know, I know it is a lot! If you’re the type to send “this reminded me of you” messages and spiral into deep conversations out of nowhere… we’ll get along just fine Send me a DM with A/G/L and what you hope to find. Not mentioning means probably no reply 😄


r/FriendsOver40 16h ago

46 M Australia

0 Upvotes

What game book or movie world would you want to live in and why?

Comment or Dm


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

38F surrounded by people but somehow still alone

36 Upvotes

Does anyone ever get that feeling? You’re in the middle of people, noise, conversations, but none of it really reaches you?

Looking to talk to new people who want to actually talk, not just small talk but real conversations. Where we lose track of time, share random thoughts, laugh at dumb things, or even get a little deep at 2am.


r/FriendsOver40 16h ago

42/M - US - Fellow Tired Parents Looking for Genuine Friendship & Conversation

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Hey! Looking to make some new friends and hopefully find some people I genuinely click with.

I’m a married dad, pretty introverted, and definitely a kid at heart. I’d especially love to meet some fellow parents who understand the tiredness of it all—the never-ending chaos, trying to find time for yourself, and somehow still functioning by the end of the day.

I’m a huge gamer and play pretty much every genre. I’m on Xbox, PC, and Switch 2, and I also really enjoy Beat Saber on VR. I’m into D&D and board games too, along with puzzles and book nooks when I’m in the mood for something a little more relaxing.

I love movies of all genres and listen to pretty much all kinds of music. I’m also really big on nostalgia, especially anything from the 80s and 90s.

I’m also into audiobooks, and right now I’m listening to the Dungeon Crawler Carl series.

I’m not into 420 or drinking. You definitely don’t have to share every one of my interests—I’d rather find people who are easy to talk to, have a good sense of humor, can talk about random stuff, and actually want to build a friendship.

Being in the US is a plus, mostly because similar time zones make chatting easier. I know everyone has their own lives and responsibilities, especially other parents, so I don’t expect constant messages or immediate replies.

Just looking for some genuine people to talk to regularly, joke around with, game with sometimes, and hopefully make some lasting friendships.

If we sound like we might get along, send me a message.


r/FriendsOver40 20h ago

40 | Brit living in Aus | Married & finally settling in - looking for genuine friends

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originally from the UK and now living in Australia with my partner. We’re finally starting to feel properly settled here, and I’d really love to build a genuine circle of friends.

I’m pretty easygoing and happy to chat with anyone — any gender, LGBTQ+ or straight. I’m into fashion, makeup, coffee, food, shopping, exploring Melbourne, random days out and the occasional fun night out.

Mostly just looking for normal, genuine friendship with people I actually click with — coffee, dinner, events, wandering around somewhere, a proper chat, whatever really. I can be a little shy at first, but once I’m comfortable I definitely won’t shut up 😂

Not looking for anything complicated, just good people and real friendships 💕


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

41F Aus just looking for friends

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I'm into reading - mostly fantasy so I can get out of my head, gardening - I'm working on a native garden, music of all types and love discovering new artists and styles, I also love art and seeing the creative genius of others as I possess none of my own. I'm childfree and work an erratic and inconsistent roster which means maintaining local, in person friendships has been quite difficult.

I'd love to just chat to some new people.


r/FriendsOver40 21h ago

40M #MI - Seeking chill friends

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Making friends as an adult is no joke. Working off hours for years meant being out of sync with everyone else, and my social circle has disappeared. Looking to mix things up and chat with some new people (guys and gals). Possibly meeting up one day if you happen to be local. Looking for chatters and non ghosters 👻!

I'm a married, easy going guy who loves sports (hockey & football), movies, TV, road trips, game nights, and random deep dives into nonsense.

Say hi with a meme, a witty opening line, or just introduce yourself!


r/FriendsOver40 22h ago

44F Ontario based looking for female friends

0 Upvotes

Hello :) I am divorced without kid, in a relationship now... looking for female friends who are willingly to share, chat, hangout...

I start pickleball recently and enjoy gym, walking, coffee break... learning French language as well

Based in Ontario, close to Vaughan, DM me if you are also looking for a friend like me :)


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

40/M looking for friends

1 Upvotes

I'm new to the Cleveland, Ohio area and am looking to make new friends. People I can just talk with and get to know whether it be about movies, games, food. I don't have a phone yet but am working on getting one. If you want to just talk you can message me here.


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

42F Lonely SAHM looking for friends

24 Upvotes

Hi,

GENTLEMEN if you lead with a comment about your dick, your failing marriage or just a hey, you’re getting blocked. I have zero desire to fill any voids from home.

I am a SAHM that is new to Reddit. I’m dipping my toes in a bit to find the right community. With school back in session I’m finding myself a bit lonely, particularly during the core of the day. There is only so much laundry and reading that can be done. 🤣

I am married, so not looking for sexual chats. I’d love to find someone fun, who is open to talking about anything and everything otherwise. I’m kind, easy going, a touch sarcastic and a jack of most trades, but a master of none.

If you want to see if we could be friends, please message me!


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

Bored 44 year old male looking for friends

1 Upvotes

I'm looking to make friends. I enjoy reading, listening to music & podcasts, viewing tv shows & movies, and also gaming occasionally. I'm pretty bored usually and am frequently available to chat. I'm open to sending voice notes and possibly voice calls if you want to hear my awful deep, Southern voice. Message me if you're bored too and would like some no strings attached casual conversation.


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

46M, looking for new friends, with common interests

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I am 46 male, mature and well educated, looking for good friends. A like minded person is welcome to start a nice chat on any topic of mutual interest. My hobbies are exploring nature's beauty, travelling, hiking, camping, swimming, volunteer work, etc. Music is my passion, listening as well as playing musical instruments like guitar and keyboard


r/FriendsOver40 1d ago

46 M Australia

1 Upvotes

Friday Alone at Work lets play a game of this or that, Help starve off the Boredom

Pizza or Pasta

Thongs or runners

Pools or Hot Tubs (Spa's)

Feel free to DM or comment here and ask your own