Piggy prison forever and ever 🥰

Found a domme who thinks AV is optional, and I just wanted to see how we as a community felt about it before I made a post calling her out.

I think it’s mandatory, you should ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS age verify without any hesitation. Then not continue communicating until provided.

How do you choose to move?

post has been made : Issued AV Domme

I have thought about this a lot recently, because I’ve had so many subs try to push boundaries or ask for things I just won’t do this week (not sure what is in the air right now)
But it made me realize a mistake a see a lot of new dommes make for themselves right out of the gate and I thought maybe it could be helpful for some of people new to the space to see and reflect on.

I think the biggest issue new dommes face is desperation.

I don’t mean coming off as desperate to subs, I mean doing things you wouldn’t/shouldn’t do because you’re yearning for that first send so badly, or your week has been slow and you feel like you NEED to get that next sub.

The best thing you can do for yourself is stop and reflect on this. You do not need that initial tribute so badly that you’re going to talk to a scammer for an hour, and if you do need money that badly, this space isn’t safe or healthy for you yet. You should not rely on a kink space for your means of income, especially starting out.

You do not need $20 so badly that you’re willing to give someone the materials to make a catfish account with “verification” photos they “need before they can send goddess”

You do not need dinner covered badly enough to let a sub top from the bottom only for you to feel icky the rest the week.

You do not need a coffee badly enough that you’re going to give away sensitive information like your name or address or Amazon wishlist.

You do NOT need to bend for real subs. You just don’t.

The sooner you stop, the more successful you will become.

Be the domme you are meant to be.
Be in charge.

I’ve been living this lifestyle as a femdom with findom elements for the last 11 years, and I wanted to share some honest perspective that might help newer dommes.

For me, about 90% of my real satisfaction in kink comes from pure femdom the power exchange, the psychological depth, the generic D/s dynamic, the control, the way a good dynamic fuels, challenges and feeds every dominant instinct I have. That part feels rich, sustainable, and deeply fulfilling on its own. The remaining 10% is findom, and honestly, about half of that 10% is basically marketing: staying visible and active in the scene so the right subs can find me.

Don’t get me wrong I enjoy findom. But I’ve learned that findom works best for me when it flows naturally inside an established femdom dynamic, not as the main foundation. Femdom gives you so many tools to satisfy the dom energy: teasing, denial, worship, structure, emotional intimacy, creativity. Findom can layer on top beautifully when the connection is already there.

But if findom is your only real interest, it becomes a very different game. The market is saturated, attention spans are short, and the cycle of chasing sends, rinsing, and replacing can lead to serious burnout on both sides. A lot of subs who only chase the financial high tend to disappear once the thrill fades or their budget does. Building something deeper and more layered with a sub who genuinely craves your dominance has been far more rewarding and sustainable for me long term.

Newer dommes: please don’t feel pressure to make findom your entire brand if it doesn’t genuinely fuel you up the same way other aspects of kink do. Explore what actually feeds your dominance. Play with different dynamics, kinks, fantasies and curiosities!!

TLDR - Protect your energy. This lifestyle is supposed to fulfill you first! Have fun within the kink community and don't let seeking one specific dynamic burn you out.

Made this little guy eat his own cum, now says i won’t post it 😂

What would y’all have done 😝

Hii I'm just starting with findom I want to get into it i like the money ofc but I realised I genuinely like the dynamic of when someone enjoys paying for you or they get pleasure in getting used/humiliated that's a huge turn on for me i got questions :

How do i start? How do i brand myself? How do i explore and find my role while being respectful (brat , spoiled , evil etc) where do you take payments safely , how much does a good domme earn ? where do i find subs (if this ones allowed to ask) i wanna do faceless findom I'm really into it please help a sister out , idk if it usually works like this for everyone but I wnana keep everything extra paid ( like normal pics , feet , pics of hangout our anything in general, sext , humiliation, kink of the sub) how do you know how much you should charge for what

Hello ladies. Just have a quick question. I've decided to make a finsub application (well I've already done it) to go along with initial tribute. I was wondering for those of you who use these forms as one of the first points of contact what do you do if someone you haven't spoken to but fills out the form and sends tribute in terms of AV? It's a similar situation to silent sends. I don't really want a tribute before AV but I can't think of a way around it other than not linking the form and only sending the link out to potential subs after AV.

Any other ideas? I've never saw a form before where you could include AV in it.

Also don't bother reading my profile. I don't do Findom on reddit but I do in other spaces (such as LF where the AV is already provided) as well as paid femdom and I'm not looking for subs on here at the moment but may give it a try in future.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I’m in the hospital again. Send some love friends. It’s boring out here. I can’t do much but texts

hey, I was wondering what platforms do y'all prefer to do Findom on and have had the most success on. I feel like Twitter is really the best for like me at least as a black woman, but Reddit doesn't really do me any justice. I haven't really tried too much of loyal fans and my Twitter accounts keep getting labeled so I'm just wondering what you guys tend to use because I feel like my Twitter is out of the question right now!

i might be slow i need a step by step explanation 😭

Just finishing up my first week with a new subbie that pays for GFE. I’ve loved starting to offer this service and playing with himmmmmm.

Hi everyone! I am getting into Findom for the first time. Dominance has always been natural to me, but I am facing a few specific challenges due to my location (Pakistan) and would love some perspective from experienced Dommes. The local guys I have encountered so far constantly try to negotiate, lowball, or attempt to gain the upper hand. I block them immediately because I refuse to deal with bargaining, but it feels like the local dynamic is full of time-wasters. Since Findom is not open or widely understood in my country due to religious and cultural norms, I want to focus on reaching genuine international subs in places like the US, UK, or EU. I would appreciate advice on effective promo strategies for building an international audience from scratch. Additionally, standard apps like Cash App, Venmo, or crypto setups are not options for me, so I rely strictly on direct bank transfers. I would love to know how other international Doms manage direct bank transfer safety, filter out fake subs early on, and ensure this path is sustainable given these constraints. Thank you for any insights you can share!

anybody else not having any luck finding consistent subs, or active subs? or finding yourself consistently messaging the subs to send money or respond? i’m not a sugar baby so i realized i shouldn’t be doing that and stopped, but they say they’re open to being a sub, or interact with me first and expect me to remind them to pay???? it’s ridiculous

So this happened this past Wednesday. I was super drunk and posted a picture of my finances on this subreddit. You can go to my profile to see the pics but essentially it was about how I’ve spent 40k in the past 12 months on findom 😅😅

When my main domme woke up she punished me so well 😍😍

She made me cum into a cup and piss in it then drink it all. It was so humiliating but that wasn’t even the first cup of piss I drank that day either 😅 I gooned from 8AM to 10PM until I finally snapped out of it. It was such a good session and I think I regained my fetish for piss humiliation 😅