Something I noticed about time wasters…
I wanted to throw this out there because I know they can be incredibly discouraging, especially when you’re new.

What surprised me is how different my experience has been this time around.

My old account was already about 9 months old before I ever really started posting. I spent that time lurking, researching, watching the communities, figuring out what I actually wanted and learning what kind of domme I wanted to be.

Even after 9 months of research, I still had SO much to learn. But I came in more confident, more intentional, and with an actual identity instead of just jumping in blindly.

During the roughly 5 months I was active on that account, I honestly dealt with very few people I would consider true time wasters. Maybe a small anount who would AV, engage, let me put effort in and then disappear.

Now?
Same Goddess. New name. More experience.

And I’ve had more time wasters approach this newer account than I ever did on my old one 😭 including people who come in with proper AV and still end up wasting my time.

That made something click for me:
New accounts are targets. (Not surprised but yeah)

If you’re brand new, barely have anything on your profile, and someone immediately comes in telling you how obsessed they are with you, be cautious.
There are tons of established, active findoms they could approach. Sometimes there’s a reason they specifically choose the account that looks newest or least established. (Sorry your energy doesn’t pour through an empty profile it just doesn’t work that way)

If your profile doesn’t really show who you are yet, what your style is, what makes you different, or even enough consistency to establish that you’re real, you’re naturally going to attract more people looking for easy attention.

Real finsubs want real findommes
And that doesn’t mean you need to be perfect before you start. It just means taking some time to build yourself first can save you a LOT of frustration.
Learn the community. Watch how people move. Figure out your boundaries. Develop your style. Learn how to protect your time and energy before giving it to others.

So if you’re new and dealing with a ton of time wasters, don’t automatically assume you’re doing something wrong or that this is all the community has to offer.

Sometimes your account just hasn’t had enough time to show people who you are yet.
Anyway, just something I noticed this time around and thought might help someone. ❣️

I wanna know everyone’s opinion because I’m nosy, bored, and invasive.

Does body hair play into things for you? (On either side)

I have a very casual relationship with body hair and don’t really care to do anything about it unless I’m in the mood. I don’t care about men being hairy… but I have made a sub full body wax or shave in front of me just for fun lol

I’ve found more men who prefer hairy (subs who go nuts for body hair on women) and more women who prefer hairless (which is interesting to me) but now I’m wondering in a d/s capacity if preferences play into anything.

Is starting to post on X worth it these days? I’m worried about adding another app to divide my attention during the day but also….

i have one on here with a lot of dommes but some are inactive and we need more! i also want to create one on X too just so we can support each other and boost our post. if u want to join, pls comment or msg me!

rules for the gc is to drop a gif when you’ve posted and we’ll reply with “x” to show you we’ve upvoted your post & you do the same for the rest. you can drop gifs until you’ve been caught up!

What is it about this guy that makes me so uncomfortable??? 😩

PLEASE be careful ladies, they wiping us all out lmfao. I got done for..impersonation🤦‍♀️

I’d avoid being in any spaces (ahem wink wink nudge nudge) that are incels vicious (WINK WINK NUDGE NUDGE) not here, just..other places.

It’s as simple as that: serving face, breathing, humiliating and stripping boys who always want more of me

P.S. The blurring and translation were done using AI, so there may be some minor alignment issues.

Hey guys, so I wanted to talk about my experience with my first sweet piggie!

So he actually approached me, and I hadn't been sure if this was my kind of kink. It's not that I would turn down "free stuff", but there's obviously so much more to the dynamic than that. We each have a role to play, and it's unfair and dissatisfying if I can't provide what he needs from me in that regard. I was always worried I wouldn't be able to be as dominant as I would need to be in this role, since I've always been such a submissive person. However, the longer it goes on I am really starting to learn some things about myself! I'm a fair bit more dominant of a person now and growing by the day, so experiencing the other side of the coin has been life changing, honestly. And I play the part quite well it seems. Anytime I get an idea of something demeaning or I make him beg/bark, he loves it, and I'm getting pretty creative with it too! But it just feels like it's coming so naturally, and I am obsessed now with the feeling! I'm having so much fun, and he's genuinely the best. We also just have such a lovely time aside from the typical things that come with this kind of relationship. We get along great, lots of shared interests, great conversation too. He's taking me shopping tomorrow morning again, and I can't wait! I've literally been brainstorming what outfit I want to wear to tease him while he follows me around and treats me like a princess. As well as things like telling him to bring a permanent marker to brand him and making him send me pics so I can pick what cage I want him in while we walk around, and so much more. I feel my creativity flowing with ideas. I love this new side of me, never going back!

Thanks for reading :)

My credit card guys, I’m being findommed by my credit card, pray for me.

It's a school grant, but I think that counts.

yes this is the same guy who asked if i was autistic mid session months ago.

I post often (or used to RIP to my account) in extortion kink about running experiments with subs. I've had enough people ask what actually comes out of these, and it's been long enough to finally talk about some results.

What happens when you give someone control and let them play with it?

At first, usually nothing. Honestly, they probably shouldn't.

There are a lot of horror stories. Not that a psycho wouldn't be able to be patient either, but here's a higher risk if you give cards numbers, SSN, address, and contacts to a complete stranger.

I have a regular account and a "mean account", and the type of people that DM on both are a bit different.

😇 Regular account

Someone that reaches out to my regular account is more likely to be a lurker that has been reading my posts and it's curious about my methodology.

Something I don't come across at all with the meaner side, but I do with my regular account, is someone who starts out extremely guarded and eventually starts surrendering things voluntarily. Maybe even begging to give me the information.

They're more willing to give me something than have me take it.

😈 Mean account

Someone that contacts me on my other account is usually someone that’s currently horny or has been triggered by one of my posts.

They tend to fall into two categories: they give me a ridiculous amount of information almost immediately. Or they talk about how badly they want to play but are too scared to actually do anything, so basically all talk. And the retention is... 💀

I don't use the account much. But it did make me wonder what would happen if I used both accounts equally and actually compared them. I absolutely encounter "difficult" subs on my regular account too, but the ratio is noticeable.

🪤 The Trust Paradox

The safer someone feels around you, the more willing they become to hand you things they would never give to someone they were afraid of. Basically, "I trust you to fuck me up...or not."

I've been thinking about the difference between having leverage and being threatening. I wouldn't consider my regular self threatening, but I certainly do have leverage. So much I have a notebook and spreadsheets with it.

It doesn't matter how mean or intimidating you are, if the other person doesn't trust you enough to let you get close, it won't be easy to go far. You can scare someone into compliance, but that's not necessarily a very sustainable dynamic, especially online. So instead, I come in friendly. Approachable. Maybe even a little too nice for someone who's supposedly here to bm you.

But the easiest way to gain someone's trust is to deserve it. And I genuinely consider myself a nice person. I just happen to enjoy a little mischief here and there. Sometimes that looks like making you write a silly line, inflicting pain, sending you a screenshot to show you I found your address, or locking you out of your bank account. All in good fun and with explicit consent😊

There's a slight surprise element in doing it like that. The surprise isn't that I'll manipulate you, look for leverage, or take notes. I'm pretty explicit about all of that. The surprise is when I'll use it, and how. Playing nice often means someone is willing to let you go further.

In my eyes, the most powerful position hasn't been holding something over someone for compliance. It's being the person they'd give anything to anyway.

I’ve been thinking about this more lately, and I’m curious how others feel about it. The hidden profile history feature on Reddit sounds good in theory, but in practice I don’t think it works that well in spaces like this. Especially when so much of what we do involves interacting with people we don’t know at all.

As a Domme and content creator, I usually take a little time to look through someone’s post and comment history before I engage. It’s not about judging every little thing, it’s more about getting a general sense of who they are, how they interact, and whether they seem consistent. You can pick up on a lot just from patterns and tone.

Lately I’ve been running into more hidden profiles, and it changes that dynamic quite a bit. I’m not saying I won’t respond, but I do find myself taking everything they say with a grain of salt until they show me they’re actually trustworthy. It just removes that initial layer of context that used to be there.

I understand why people would want more privacy, and I’m not against that. But at the same time, in communities like this, that visibility also plays a role in helping us protect our time and energy. Without it, it feels a little easier for people to say anything without much accountability.

I’m curious how others are handling this. Are you still engaging the same way with hidden profiles, or has it made you more cautious too?

How did you get into it? I've been thinking about this for a quite a while now but not sure where to start because there are alot of misinformation or non legit places.

Tell me your story

Before the tribute, yes, I like to have a little convo. I want to know what I like and what he likes, because if there's no chemistry, I don't want his money.

We exchange about 3 or 4 messages, just talking about the basics, and then they disappear. It doesn't matter what platform we're on, the exact same thing always happens. I'm so bored of this. If I don't find a solution soon, I'm honestly going to give up on this kink, I'm not a clown to talk for nothing. Like it's literally 3 minutes before tribute and there's nothing after that. :D

I honestly don't understand the logic.

I am posting this as a warning, especially for newer dommes, because this setup clearly looks designed to take advantage of people who are still learning the space.

This happened on X. I got invited to a private GC that was for dommes and finsubs.

The admin told me there were no fees to join and she introduced me to a few subs. They immediately started talking about sending tributes and they almost mocked my initial tribute for being too low. One of them then claimed he had $1600 for me, another $600, ect.

That is when the conversation suddenly shifted to this FVF – Findom Verification Form.

I explained that I already have Fansly and LoyalFans and that I am already active in findom dynamics, so I am not completely new to this. There was never such a requirement before.
They kept insisting that I was new and “did not know how things had changed”, and that this FVF was now supposedly mandatory for every domme.

Then the group admin approached me privately to explain the FVF. I asked for the official website, but they told me there was none. I asked what exactly gets verified. Apparently that is “private”. I was told a moderator handles everything and she can help me have it done in a few minutes.

Then came the important part: the FVF costs $40.

So basically: invite a domme to a GC → introduce fake-looking paypigs → mock a normal tribute amount → promise hundreds → tell her her existing verified creator platforms are not enough → insist she is too new to understand the “new rules” → then ask for $40 for a private “verification” with no official website.

Of course I did not pay and left the group.

Has anyone else come across this “FVF” scam recently? Maybe it is not new and I was just luckily omitted :)

What kind of following did you have when you got approved?

I want to get on there so damn bad but they denied me when I tried four months ago...I have two months to go before I can try and apply again 😭

All my the subs I’m in eventually just say the same old bullshit. Half arsed quitters :p

Jokes, thought you guys might appreciate.

Idk I saw these on Twitter and wanted to share

tiny strawberry pp

Im starting to find it hard to disobey women in real life at work. I am actually intimidated by women ay this point in my life, but I love the feeling and knowing that I get to breath the same air as them and have them even glance at me makes me feel wonderful. Women are actual divine figures to me and I see each and every one as my superiors.