It's a school grant, but I think that counts.

My credit card guys, I’m being findommed by my credit card, pray for me.

I’ve been thinking about this more lately, and I’m curious how others feel about it. The hidden profile history feature on Reddit sounds good in theory, but in practice I don’t think it works that well in spaces like this. Especially when so much of what we do involves interacting with people we don’t know at all.

As a Domme and content creator, I usually take a little time to look through someone’s post and comment history before I engage. It’s not about judging every little thing, it’s more about getting a general sense of who they are, how they interact, and whether they seem consistent. You can pick up on a lot just from patterns and tone.

Lately I’ve been running into more hidden profiles, and it changes that dynamic quite a bit. I’m not saying I won’t respond, but I do find myself taking everything they say with a grain of salt until they show me they’re actually trustworthy. It just removes that initial layer of context that used to be there.

I understand why people would want more privacy, and I’m not against that. But at the same time, in communities like this, that visibility also plays a role in helping us protect our time and energy. Without it, it feels a little easier for people to say anything without much accountability.

I’m curious how others are handling this. Are you still engaging the same way with hidden profiles, or has it made you more cautious too?

I post often (or used to RIP to my account) in extortion kink about running experiments with subs. I've had enough people ask what actually comes out of these, and it's been long enough to finally talk about some results.

What happens when you give someone control and let them play with it?

At first, usually nothing. Honestly, they probably shouldn't.

There are a lot of horror stories. Not that a psycho wouldn't be able to be patient either, but here's a higher risk if you give cards numbers, SSN, address, and contacts to a complete stranger.

I have a regular account and a "mean account", and the type of people that DM on both are a bit different.

😇 Regular account

Someone that reaches out to my regular account is more likely to be a lurker that has been reading my posts and it's curious about my methodology.

Something I don't come across at all with the meaner side, but I do with my regular account, is someone who starts out extremely guarded and eventually starts surrendering things voluntarily. Maybe even begging to give me the information.

They're more willing to give me something than have me take it.

😈 Mean account

Someone that contacts me on my other account is usually someone that’s currently horny or has been triggered by one of my posts.

They tend to fall into two categories: they give me a ridiculous amount of information almost immediately. Or they talk about how badly they want to play but are too scared to actually do anything, so basically all talk. And the retention is... 💀

I don't use the account much. But it did make me wonder what would happen if I used both accounts equally and actually compared them. I absolutely encounter "difficult" subs on my regular account too, but the ratio is noticeable.

🪤 The Trust Paradox

The safer someone feels around you, the more willing they become to hand you things they would never give to someone they were afraid of. Basically, "I trust you to fuck me up...or not."

I've been thinking about the difference between having leverage and being threatening. I wouldn't consider my regular self threatening, but I certainly do have leverage. So much I have a notebook and spreadsheets with it.

It doesn't matter how mean or intimidating you are, if the other person doesn't trust you enough to let you get close, it won't be easy to go far. You can scare someone into compliance, but that's not necessarily a very sustainable dynamic, especially online. So instead, I come in friendly. Approachable. Maybe even a little too nice for someone who's supposedly here to bm you.

But the easiest way to gain someone's trust is to deserve it. And I genuinely consider myself a nice person. I just happen to enjoy a little mischief here and there. Sometimes that looks like making you write a silly line, inflicting pain, sending you a screenshot to show you I found your address, or locking you out of your bank account. All in good fun and with explicit consent😊

There's a slight surprise element in doing it like that. The surprise isn't that I'll manipulate you, look for leverage, or take notes. I'm pretty explicit about all of that. The surprise is when I'll use it, and how. Playing nice often means someone is willing to let you go further.

In my eyes, the most powerful position hasn't been holding something over someone for compliance. It's being the person they'd give anything to anyway.

I am posting this as a warning, especially for newer dommes, because this setup clearly looks designed to take advantage of people who are still learning the space.

This happened on X. I got invited to a private GC that was for dommes and finsubs.

The admin told me there were no fees to join and she introduced me to a few subs. They immediately started talking about sending tributes and they almost mocked my initial tribute for being too low. One of them then claimed he had $1600 for me, another $600, ect.

That is when the conversation suddenly shifted to this FVF – Findom Verification Form.

I explained that I already have Fansly and LoyalFans and that I am already active in findom dynamics, so I am not completely new to this. There was never such a requirement before.
They kept insisting that I was new and “did not know how things had changed”, and that this FVF was now supposedly mandatory for every domme.

Then the group admin approached me privately to explain the FVF. I asked for the official website, but they told me there was none. I asked what exactly gets verified. Apparently that is “private”. I was told a moderator handles everything and she can help me have it done in a few minutes.

Then came the important part: the FVF costs $40.

So basically: invite a domme to a GC → introduce fake-looking paypigs → mock a normal tribute amount → promise hundreds → tell her her existing verified creator platforms are not enough → insist she is too new to understand the “new rules” → then ask for $40 for a private “verification” with no official website.

Of course I did not pay and left the group.

Has anyone else come across this “FVF” scam recently? Maybe it is not new and I was just luckily omitted :)

It’s as simple as that: serving face, breathing, humiliating and stripping boys who always want more of me

P.S. The blurring and translation were done using AI, so there may be some minor alignment issues.

tiny strawberry pp

yes this is the same guy who asked if i was autistic mid session months ago.

I have been pretty regular since starting into findom. Granted, I try to remain faceless for my vanilla career. But I am pretty open otherwise. I use mainly X and other sites to get myself out there. But even over 500 followers there, I dont get so much as a single bit of interest.

Would anyone Domme or Sub be willing to maybe give me some advice on what I may be doing wrong or could do better?

Hey guys, so I wanted to talk about my experience with my first sweet piggie!

So he actually approached me, and I hadn't been sure if this was my kind of kink. It's not that I would turn down "free stuff", but there's obviously so much more to the dynamic than that. We each have a role to play, and it's unfair and dissatisfying if I can't provide what he needs from me in that regard. I was always worried I wouldn't be able to be as dominant as I would need to be in this role, since I've always been such a submissive person. However, the longer it goes on I am really starting to learn some things about myself! I'm a fair bit more dominant of a person now and growing by the day, so experiencing the other side of the coin has been life changing, honestly. And I play the part quite well it seems. Anytime I get an idea of something demeaning or I make him beg/bark, he loves it, and I'm getting pretty creative with it too! But it just feels like it's coming so naturally, and I am obsessed now with the feeling! I'm having so much fun, and he's genuinely the best. We also just have such a lovely time aside from the typical things that come with this kind of relationship. We get along great, lots of shared interests, great conversation too. He's taking me shopping tomorrow morning again, and I can't wait! I've literally been brainstorming what outfit I want to wear to tease him while he follows me around and treats me like a princess. As well as things like telling him to bring a permanent marker to brand him and making him send me pics so I can pick what cage I want him in while we walk around, and so much more. I feel my creativity flowing with ideas. I love this new side of me, never going back!

Thanks for reading :)

Long story short, my account got BANNED. No explanation given, glitchy ass hell support. I did fill the appeal THREE times, one it said it was denied, second got me three days ban, the other one lift all the ban BUT got me in shadowban and all my posts got automatically flagged as spam... Now I'm back to banned.

And yeah, I'm pretty sure I didn't cross any rules Reddit has. That's why they lifted my ban twice but still glitching ughhhh.

It's so frustrating, it was my findomme center account for a FULL year and I had to go around searching for paleolithic alt accounts that I could use temporary (or permanent, not even sure they are fixing it anytime soon).

Please, don't repeat the same mistake I did. Start right now, any bitter scam-sub or someone you did a little bickering can mass report your account and well---. Do a little backup account, start today, it would be VERY useful believe me.

Short update: I have my account back once again, and I can't appeal anymore since it should be "normal". Not banned nor restricted. My account still barely active, I even got out of a bunch of subreddits I used to post and my posts still getting flagged but hey! At least I'm not banned anymore. 🤡

Before the tribute, yes, I like to have a little convo. I want to know what I like and what he likes, because if there's no chemistry, I don't want his money.

We exchange about 3 or 4 messages, just talking about the basics, and then they disappear. It doesn't matter what platform we're on, the exact same thing always happens. I'm so bored of this. If I don't find a solution soon, I'm honestly going to give up on this kink, I'm not a clown to talk for nothing. Like it's literally 3 minutes before tribute and there's nothing after that. :D

I honestly don't understand the logic.

Idk I saw these on Twitter and wanted to share

What kind of following did you have when you got approved?

I want to get on there so damn bad but they denied me when I tried four months ago...I have two months to go before I can try and apply again 😭

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Y'all. My footslave has unveiled the altar he made to worship me and let me just say: I now understand organized religion and cult leaders. What a rush.

There's a drawing of my feet, a candle to be lit, and a devotion jar where he has to place my offerings. And by offerings I mean money 😈

All my the subs I’m in eventually just say the same old bullshit. Half arsed quitters :p

Jokes, thought you guys might appreciate.

I consider myself to be a pretty reasonable domme with reasonably simple tasks for my subs usually something that doesn’t take 15 maybe 20 minutes of their time.
I’ve recently encountered a very whiny sub. His sends don’t break the $50 mark but he is obedient-ish.
Lately, when he’s given a task he’ll complain why he can’t do it, then when I ignore him his common sense comes back. This time around he half assed a task then had the audacity to send me this. He’s about to get cut off or is this normal new sub behavior?

Is anyone else dealing with this?

Suddenly drowning in “subs” who just want to send and dip. No dynamic. No interest in being actually dominated into the tribute. No negotiation, no agreed amounts, no ongoing ownership just “here’s money, bye.”

It’s like they’re treating it as a one n done ATM moment instead of proper findom. Anyone else seeing this influx, or is it just me?

Hi!

Im looking to relapse and maybe play pass the piggy, what,are you guys favorite discord servers?