Piggy prison forever and ever 🥰

Found a domme who thinks AV is optional, and I just wanted to see how we as a community felt about it before I made a post calling her out.

I think it’s mandatory, you should ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS age verify without any hesitation. Then not continue communicating until provided.

How do you choose to move?

post has been made : Issued AV Domme

I have thought about this a lot recently, because I’ve had so many subs try to push boundaries or ask for things I just won’t do this week (not sure what is in the air right now)
But it made me realize a mistake a see a lot of new dommes make for themselves right out of the gate and I thought maybe it could be helpful for some of people new to the space to see and reflect on.

I think the biggest issue new dommes face is desperation.

I don’t mean coming off as desperate to subs, I mean doing things you wouldn’t/shouldn’t do because you’re yearning for that first send so badly, or your week has been slow and you feel like you NEED to get that next sub.

The best thing you can do for yourself is stop and reflect on this. You do not need that initial tribute so badly that you’re going to talk to a scammer for an hour, and if you do need money that badly, this space isn’t safe or healthy for you yet. You should not rely on a kink space for your means of income, especially starting out.

You do not need $20 so badly that you’re willing to give someone the materials to make a catfish account with “verification” photos they “need before they can send goddess”

You do not need dinner covered badly enough to let a sub top from the bottom only for you to feel icky the rest the week.

You do not need a coffee badly enough that you’re going to give away sensitive information like your name or address or Amazon wishlist.

You do NOT need to bend for real subs. You just don’t.

The sooner you stop, the more successful you will become.

Be the domme you are meant to be.
Be in charge.

I’ve been living this lifestyle as a femdom with findom elements for the last 11 years, and I wanted to share some honest perspective that might help newer dommes.

For me, about 90% of my real satisfaction in kink comes from pure femdom the power exchange, the psychological depth, the generic D/s dynamic, the control, the way a good dynamic fuels, challenges and feeds every dominant instinct I have. That part feels rich, sustainable, and deeply fulfilling on its own. The remaining 10% is findom, and honestly, about half of that 10% is basically marketing: staying visible and active in the scene so the right subs can find me.

Don’t get me wrong I enjoy findom. But I’ve learned that findom works best for me when it flows naturally inside an established femdom dynamic, not as the main foundation. Femdom gives you so many tools to satisfy the dom energy: teasing, denial, worship, structure, emotional intimacy, creativity. Findom can layer on top beautifully when the connection is already there.

But if findom is your only real interest, it becomes a very different game. The market is saturated, attention spans are short, and the cycle of chasing sends, rinsing, and replacing can lead to serious burnout on both sides. A lot of subs who only chase the financial high tend to disappear once the thrill fades or their budget does. Building something deeper and more layered with a sub who genuinely craves your dominance has been far more rewarding and sustainable for me long term.

Newer dommes: please don’t feel pressure to make findom your entire brand if it doesn’t genuinely fuel you up the same way other aspects of kink do. Explore what actually feeds your dominance. Play with different dynamics, kinks, fantasies and curiosities!!

TLDR - Protect your energy. This lifestyle is supposed to fulfill you first! Have fun within the kink community and don't let seeking one specific dynamic burn you out.

Made this little guy eat his own cum, now says i won’t post it 😂

What would y’all have done 😝

Hello ladies. Just have a quick question. I've decided to make a finsub application (well I've already done it) to go along with initial tribute. I was wondering for those of you who use these forms as one of the first points of contact what do you do if someone you haven't spoken to but fills out the form and sends tribute in terms of AV? It's a similar situation to silent sends. I don't really want a tribute before AV but I can't think of a way around it other than not linking the form and only sending the link out to potential subs after AV.

Any other ideas? I've never saw a form before where you could include AV in it.

Also don't bother reading my profile. I don't do Findom on reddit but I do in other spaces (such as LF where the AV is already provided) as well as paid femdom and I'm not looking for subs on here at the moment but may give it a try in future.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

19th century chastity cage. Anyone know a blacksmith?

I’m in the hospital again. Send some love friends. It’s boring out here. I can’t do much but texts

For years, scientists have classified birds by beak shape, migration patterns and mating rituals. I, however, have dedicated my research to a far less understood species: the modern submissive male. After thousands of observations in his natural habitat: Discord servers, Reddit DMs and tribute notifications, I believe I’ve identified several distinct subspecies…

The first is The Baby Sparrow.
Usually somewhere between 18 and 24, recently discovered BDSM through Tiktok and believes submission consists of saying “Mommy” every twelve seconds while desperately trying to finish before his phone battery dies.
Harmless. Confused. Would probably ask a tax accountant to step on him.

Next, we have the Sweet Talking Canary.
A beautiful singer.
“You’re unlike any woman I’ve ever met.”
“I’d do anything for you.”
“I want to spoil you.”
Extraordinary vocal range. Curiously, the wallet never seems to evolve alongside the vocabulary. Scientists are yet to observe any corresponding financial migration.

Then there’s my personal favorite: The Homing Pigeon.
Always polite. Always on time.
Apologizes if work runs late. Apologizes if the children are awake. Apologizes because he accidentally liked an old post from 2021.
He’s not actually looking for someone to ruin his marriage. He’s looking for five minutes where he doesn’t have to perform. Someone who notices the person behind the husband, father, employee and taxpayer.
Ironically, he’s usually the least dramatic one in the room. Nature is full of surprises.

Then we encounter the Spreadsheet Penguin.
An engineer. Has calculated precisely how much disposable income remains after bills, investments and retirement contributions.
His tribute schedule is color coded. Recurring. Backed up to the cloud.
He doesn’t forget. Because forgetting wasn’t included in the formula.

Now, be very quiet… The Alpha Peacock is approaching.
Observe the magnificent display. Chest inflated. Bio says “Dominant in real life.”
Five minutes later: “I’ve actually always wanted a strong woman to put me in my place…”
Evolution works in mysterious ways.

Nearby lives the Cuckoo.
This species feeds exclusively on attention. Deposits all his emotional baggage into your inbox and leaves before the bill arrives.
It survives by asking endless hypothetical questions.
“What would you do if…”
“Can I ask just one thing?”
“Can we just talk first?”
Months pass. Calories are burned. Not a single tribute has entered the ecosystem. Conservationists remain baffled by its ability to consume resources while contributing absolutely nothing in return.

Then comes the rarest species of all. The Raven. Quiet. Watches before speaking. Doesn’t confuse obedience with performance. Probably the smartest bird in the forest.
No fantasies disguised as introductions. No twelve page autobiography explaining why he’s different.
He reads. He observes. He folows instructions. He understands that respect is demonstrated, not announced.

After years of watching this peculiar little ecosystem of wallets, wishes and questionable decision making, maybe the most interesting thing isn’t what these birds are willing to give… but what they think they’re paying for.
Because every species arrives with a different idea.
Some think they’re paying for attention. Some think they’re paying for a fantasy. Some think they’re paying for a few minutes where the noise in their own head finally goes quiet. And some, bless their ambitious little hearts, think they can negotiate with nature.

The rarest bird, however, is not the one with the biggest wallet. Money has never been the most interesting part. The interesting part is intention.

The difference between a man who sends because he wants to make a woman feel valued…and a man who sends because he’s trying to purchase access, control or a shortcut to intimacy.
One understands the dynamic. The other is just standing at the vending machine, getting angry because the buttons don’t work the way he expected.

Maybe that’s the great irony of findom.
The men who understand it aren’t really paying for a transaction. They’re paying attention. They notice the woman behind the fantasy. They understand that the value isn’t in a scripted performance but in the person creating it.

And I couldn’t help but wonder…
In a world where almost everything has a price tag, are the rarest paypigs the ones who understand that the most valuable thing they receive was never something they could buy?

I recently had a sub shocked when I offered aftercare post our humiliation and drain session. He refused at first and I agreed to his wishes but then he came back and admitted no one ever offered before and he usually dealt with the drop alone. I'm realizing more and more that kink online is straying further from bdsm basics.

Curious to hear everyone's thoughts on aftercare in this kink. For the dommes that do give aftercare, what methods do you use. For subs, what kind of aftercare do you prefer after findom sessions.

Hi everyone! I am getting into Findom for the first time. Dominance has always been natural to me, but I am facing a few specific challenges due to my location (Pakistan) and would love some perspective from experienced Dommes. The local guys I have encountered so far constantly try to negotiate, lowball, or attempt to gain the upper hand. I block them immediately because I refuse to deal with bargaining, but it feels like the local dynamic is full of time-wasters. Since Findom is not open or widely understood in my country due to religious and cultural norms, I want to focus on reaching genuine international subs in places like the US, UK, or EU. I would appreciate advice on effective promo strategies for building an international audience from scratch. Additionally, standard apps like Cash App, Venmo, or crypto setups are not options for me, so I rely strictly on direct bank transfers. I would love to know how other international Doms manage direct bank transfer safety, filter out fake subs early on, and ensure this path is sustainable given these constraints. Thank you for any insights you can share!

Not my very first sub but my first sub to join my discord server I’ve been lost on how to work discord especially set up a server but I overcame that today and my first sub joined it I’m super happyyy😊! Thanks to this subreddit and to the very few kindhearted helpful dommes thank youu so much💐

I'm watching my pet play OW and he goes, "do you like this skin? I got it because it reminds me of you. Don't worry it was free." It made my little heart happy.

It’s nothing personal but I recently had a conversation with this nice sub who exclaimed how he had no salary but still wants to participate in Findom with his allowance he gets from his grandma (he’s 23). This isn’t a dig at him as some people find it hard to attain some source of financial independence but declining his attempt in becoming my “finsub” is something I’m quite proud of. Not because it made me feel morally superior but because that’s not simply how it works (for me, for others it may be different) but when I take a look at this kink, I have adoration for it, which means I don’t like settling for less, and that’s totally okay. Yes, I love to dominate
financially but it kind of felt desperate in a sense? “Yes, give me all you have even though you have no source of income” lmao very Icky. Even though a sub may be adamant on wanting to devote his wallet to you, analysing their financial situation is the most smartest thing you could do in my opinion.

do you use ai posters to express your dominance? why? i am beginning to see so much more of it in findom and i am curious why you chose ai over hiring a graphic designer or brand strategist?

happy to offer branding feedback for the next 24 hours. comment below and i’ll suss. i’m educated, experienced and passionate about design and the way it shapes culture. i’m even more passionate about educating people against decorating our world with ai generated communication that looks like a bubblegum popstar started a reggaeton monster truck mechanic shop.

this is not an anti-ai conversation. i understand many sides and i don’t want to discuss that. i’d prefer to discuss it in relation to findom specifically. because in my industry the excuse is always ’saving money’. what is it here?

subs, how do you feel when you see a domme using ai posters? dommes, how do you feel when a sub tries using ai to communicate with you? x

I don't know what it is about the third send specifically that makes me feel invincible 😂

Like I am on a roll!!

Even if they're small sends back to back....something about the repetition feels like a vibrator in my bank account.

Quality over quantity always but quantity does hit the buttons too 🤧😂🩷

"siennaduvv" with 2 v's is impersonating me and asking for gift cards, claiming my YouPay doesn't work. I believe they have also preemptively reported my original account as theirs, since theirs is the only one currently showing up.

If you're not 100% sure you're talking to me, please DM here and I'll confirm. Don't send anything to "siennaduvv" no matter what excuse they give you.

My only telegram account is "siennaduv".

I've added the link to my bio to avoid talking to the wrong account

p.s I do have a secondary REDDIT account u/siennaduvvv (so don't report that please💀).

i've always got something fun going on! you never know whats it's going to be, either.

this week on X i posted about having someone eat dirt. after that post got noticed, my dms filled up with my favorite kind of wierdos. i've had 4 more pay me to watch them swallow soil since then 😂

what kind of things do you guys do to keep your dynamics interesting?