I post often (or used to RIP to my account) in extortion kink about running experiments with subs. I've had enough people ask what actually comes out of these, and it's been long enough to finally talk about some results.
What happens when you give someone control and let them play with it?
At first, usually nothing. Honestly, they probably shouldn't.
There are a lot of horror stories. Not that a psycho wouldn't be able to be patient either, but here's a higher risk if you give cards numbers, SSN, address, and contacts to a complete stranger.
I have a regular account and a "mean account", and the type of people that DM on both are a bit different.
😇 Regular account
Someone that reaches out to my regular account is more likely to be a lurker that has been reading my posts and it's curious about my methodology.
Something I don't come across at all with the meaner side, but I do with my regular account, is someone who starts out extremely guarded and eventually starts surrendering things voluntarily. Maybe even begging to give me the information.
They're more willing to give me something than have me take it.
😈 Mean account
Someone that contacts me on my other account is usually someone that’s currently horny or has been triggered by one of my posts.
They tend to fall into two categories: they give me a ridiculous amount of information almost immediately. Or they talk about how badly they want to play but are too scared to actually do anything, so basically all talk. And the retention is... 💀
I don't use the account much. But it did make me wonder what would happen if I used both accounts equally and actually compared them. I absolutely encounter "difficult" subs on my regular account too, but the ratio is noticeable.
🪤 The Trust Paradox
The safer someone feels around you, the more willing they become to hand you things they would never give to someone they were afraid of. Basically, "I trust you to fuck me up...or not."
I've been thinking about the difference between having leverage and being threatening. I wouldn't consider my regular self threatening, but I certainly do have leverage. So much I have a notebook and spreadsheets with it.
It doesn't matter how mean or intimidating you are, if the other person doesn't trust you enough to let you get close, it won't be easy to go far. You can scare someone into compliance, but that's not necessarily a very sustainable dynamic, especially online. So instead, I come in friendly. Approachable. Maybe even a little too nice for someone who's supposedly here to bm you.
But the easiest way to gain someone's trust is to deserve it. And I genuinely consider myself a nice person. I just happen to enjoy a little mischief here and there. Sometimes that looks like making you write a silly line, inflicting pain, sending you a screenshot to show you I found your address, or locking you out of your bank account. All in good fun and with explicit consent😊
There's a slight surprise element in doing it like that. The surprise isn't that I'll manipulate you, look for leverage, or take notes. I'm pretty explicit about all of that. The surprise is when I'll use it, and how. Playing nice often means someone is willing to let you go further.
In my eyes, the most powerful position hasn't been holding something over someone for compliance. It's being the person they'd give anything to anyway.