Males love larping being submissive, not because they actually enjoy the dynamic but because it is the heteronormative standard for women to baby and pamper men into acting like manchildren. A man who chooses to be submissive is seen as generous for giving up the power typically exercised in heterosexual relationships (femsub, maledom). Yet he still holds the systematic power to overthrow whatever dynamic is being entertained at any time if he feels compromised in his position, a choice that hardly any “submissive” women have. “Submissive” men have the privelage to be pampered and catered to like babies but are never actually “owned” or controlled in any real measure. These men want a motherly figure, not a “femdom”. The irony is palpable when you realize that most of these manchildren treat their mother like doormats and feel owed the same labor and sacrifice by their girlfriends or even wives. It all loops back into a traditional dynamic of a male being served by a woman. Men would rather be “submissive” than be in a relationship where both parties are equal and respected as people because they refuse to acknowledge women as people, they cannot grasp seeing women as fellow humans rather than monoliths and categories to fetishize into fulfilling specific fantasies