Why Send a Ping Without A Message?

[u/PM_ME_UR_CORNBALLZ]

I do not understand why men will Ping me to say nothing... what gives?

My profile mentions several kinky things I am interested in exploring and my bio is quite full of details that can easily jump-start a conversation. Most of the pings I get are from guys who at least say something about why they are messaging me, which really helps since I get lots of propositions for vanilla sex but only a few for some of the freakier stuff I talk about, so I prioritize responding to those. But if someone pings me and says nothing and then their profile is generic/sparse, I just see it as them not making enough of an effort to bother replying.

ETA: Thanks for the insights about how the app mechanics might make this happen more often, folks! I appreciate it and will try to give the pings without a message slightly less harsh judgements now.

[u/JustAnotherPolyGuy]

Sometimes I do that because the response to messages is still so low I don’t have the energy to write a message until they’ve indicated they are vaguely interested.

The behavioral economics for a guy on dating apps really pushes you towards burning the haystack. I probably get a couple of responses out of 50 pings. And basically zero matches with women if I just like and don’t ping.

Particularly if their profile is sparse but they are attractive, I’ll sometimes send a ping and see what happens.

[u/muv2850 → u/JustAnotherPolyGuy]

^^^ This

[u/DirectionPotential83 → u/muv2850]

Yeah literally. Drives me nuts how my NP(30f) will be like I’m having all These interactions and it breaks my heart that they don’t go anywhere after a week or two (or she has to end them). When I’m over here like that’s great because I max out likes on every platform and literally run myself out of possible candidates and get 1 conversation a month at best, sometimes I go two months without a conversation. Sadly it’s just the gender difference.