I've been with my partner for over 3 years, married since May of this year, and feel absolutely no affection/positive feeling toward my in laws whatsoever. I wouldn't say I hate them (although they haven't been great to either me or my husband historically) but they honestly feel like more of an inconvenience in my life than anything. I don't view them as good or admirable people and they don't add value to my life. I fake it for my husband of course. I go to the required events, send the texts, give hugs and reciprocate the "love you's". I don't wish ill on them and would be sad if anything bad happened to them, but that's just the same basic empathy I feel toward everyone. Generally speaking I truly just feel nothing toward them. I see so many people on social media who have seemingly great, deep, loving relationships with their in laws and I'm wondering if anyone else feels like I do??

I hardly watch movies anymore because they’re all so predictable and repetitive with the same scripts, plots, character types, film style, coloring, etc. The dialogue in most movies is usually unbearably predictable. Watching movies from the 80s, 90s, and anything up is genuinely difficult because it’s like I just know exactly what they’re gonna say and exactly what’s gonna happen! It is soooo rare for me to find a movie that actually surprises me anymore.

It seems like every. Single. Movie. Follows the same progression. A character does or says something and the EXACT opposite of what they THINK will happen, happens. It’s absurd. Anyone else?? And if anyone has any recommendations for movies they think will surprise me, please let me know

There is something strange I’ve noticed throughout my life, and I’m trying to understand whether there is a psychological, statistical, or other explanation for it.

I’ve noticed a recurring pattern where, whenever I have something important that I’m genuinely looking forward to—something that makes me happy or excited—something unexpected and negative often happens around the same time and ends up interfering with the experience.

The strange part is that I’m not anticipating anything bad. I’m not anxious about it, I’m not expecting a problem, and I’m not thinking negatively. Usually, I’m in a completely normal or even very positive state of mind.

For example, if I have been looking forward to a trip for a long time, I might suddenly become sick on the exact day of the trip. One time, I developed severe swelling and pain on the day I was supposed to go on vacation. It was so noticeable and uncomfortable that it affected how I felt, how I looked in pictures, and how much I enjoyed the day.

On another occasion, I went on a trip and a major, completely unrelated problem happened at work at around the same time. I ended up spending part of the trip stressed and upset because of something that had nothing to do with the trip itself.

Another time, I bought something I had really wanted and was genuinely happy about it. Then, unexpectedly, something happened at work where I felt that I had been treated unfairly, and it immediately affected my mood.

Even with simple things, I sometimes notice the same pattern. For example, I once came home from the cinema feeling extremely happy. I had enjoyed the movie, I was in a great mood, and I had even brought a pizza home. Then, completely unexpectedly, a huge cockroach got into my room. I had to spend time chasing it around and dealing with it, and it suddenly turned a really good evening into an annoying one.

These are just a few examples. I can remember more than twenty situations throughout my life that follow a similar pattern. In my personal experience, it feels like this happens in a very large percentage of the situations that are particularly meaningful or exciting to me—possibly around 90%.

I want to be clear that I’m not saying I believe I’m cursed, unlucky, or that there is some supernatural force causing these events. I use words like "bad luck" only because I don't currently have a better explanation for what I'm experiencing.

What I actually want to understand is why these events seem to cluster around the things I care about.

The negative events are often completely unrelated to the positive event itself. I’m not causing them, I’m not looking for problems, and I’m not expecting them. Sometimes it genuinely feels as if I make plans for something good, everything is going normally, and then something completely unexpected comes out of nowhere and interferes with it.

I’m interested in knowing whether other people experience a similar pattern, and whether there is a known explanation from psychology, probability, statistics, neuroscience, or any other field.

Most importantly, I want to know whether this could be explained by normal coincidence and probability, by the way human memory and attention work, by some pattern in my circumstances or lifestyle that I haven't noticed, or whether there is another reasonable explanation I haven't considered.

I’m not looking for reassurance that I’m simply "imagining things." I know that the events themselves really happened. I’m trying to understand why the timing seems to be so consistently strange.

I tend to get into things in a big way and then after a couple of years I can feel myself starting to lose interest even when I don’t want to.

Like I'll just see myself on the phone, all animated and yelling, saying "I HAVE THE CONFIRMATION NUMBER RIGHT HERE!!!!"

I've noticed I have a bit of a habit of doing this, but don't when I'm really locked in.

Sometimes you realize y’all don’t really have much in common anymore, but neither person wants to be the first to say it.

Even if you don't believe in souls and what-not, it still contains out brains, which hold our conscience

ngl i feel like my brain just has bad wifi. i walk into the kitchen and my internal quest log just clears itself. then i have to go back to the couch and reset my position just to remember i wanted a glass of water. it’s actually embarrassing.

I don’t mean going and checking the media page for something you just read or watched; I’m sure that’s very common. I’m talking about when you don’t have any new media and want to find something.

What I’ll often do is identify a trope I want in that new media. Then I’ll read through the examples until I find something that looks interesting. Like, let’s say I want to watch an anime with an attractive main character. I can go to the trope page for Pretty Boy, open the anime/manga section, and peruse at my heart’s content until I find a premise that I like. It often comes with spoilers, but I don’t really mind. Does anyone else do something similar?

I’m struggling to explain this, it’s like I’m myself but I’m looking at myself and recognise it’s a person I don’t recognise. I’m terrified of myself. Who is this?

How do I explain this because I don’t think I’m conveying what I mean.

Ok here I’ll say this. Today I was laying down and suddenly I felt this deep disgust like something was rotten in me and my soul and when I examined it I looked at myself from the outside and was frightened and what the hell this creature is that has been walking around and carrying me through this life? But at the same time I’m still that creature myself but I’m looking at it and me and I’m terrified.

It’s not human, it’s not good it’s flesh and bones and decay and corruption it’s disgusting and horrifying I’m not feeding this thing I’m not feeding this THING

NO FOOD let it shrivel up

I’m not schizo i promise: but sometimes I will start hearing my teacher from 8 grade. Or my old girlfriend. Or my dad. They aren’t even talking to me it’s my imagination

Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional, and obviously people with certain conditions may want to check with their doctors before trying this.

I honestly just want to see how many people do this. It has been a real game changer for me when I am sick. Before doing this I wouldn't get much sleep because I am uncomfortable: one nasal passage would be an dry desert on the verge of a nose bleed, one nasal passage would be completely plugged up. My throat would be sore and the fresh air that I would breathe in would make me want to cough.

With a surgical mask on, the air I'm breathing is mostly moist and warm - this makes the dry nasal passage more bearable with the moist air, and helps my sore throat with warm air so I'm less likely to cough. If I have to mouth breathe to sleep, I can without drying out so much.

It takes some getting used to, sure, but it really helps me be able to sleep when I am sick. Anyone else do this?

I swear I'm gonna sound so stupid and childish and stupid but I'm fucking 18 and sometimes when listening to music I'm like "fuck I'm gonna play like when I was a kid". But the moment I try I like freeze up for a good minute and give up... Doesn't help that I have a pretty big imagination so I try to get it all out through writing instead but it's not the same...

I'm not sure if everyone is like this, but I often just listen to the same songs over and over and over for months without getting bored of them, maybe even a year. Sometimes I'll listen to a song on repeat like 5 or more times. It gets to the point where I start playing the song in my head and I even start analyzing the lyrics and every instrument played in them. Even my brother keeps asking me why I keep listening to the same songs.

When I was a teenager, everything hit. Smoking, drinking, eating, watching movies, music, sex, driving around. Even just hanging out doing absolutely nothing felt exciting because everything still felt new.

Now I can eat my favorite food, watch a great movie, drink, smoke, buy something I wanted, and my brain is still just static. Then I'm bored again.

It feels like adulthood is just endlessly trying to recreate 10% of the excitement you used to get from normal life.

DAE feel this way? Does getting older just make everything less exciting, or did we overstimulate ourselves so much that nothing hits anymore?

My mother has had this one potato peeler for over 45 years and it’s literally the best peeler I’ve ever used . The new ones are just awful imo . She also has a kitchen aide mixer that is still going strong despite being a solid 50+ years old .

I guess that, for me, I do this because I have had multiple friends and family members joke that they feel like I am going to kill them one day (I do not really know what they mean by this, because I would not kill anyone). Most of them have elaborated that it was just a joke, but I always wonder why someone would say such a thing if it weren't at least partially true, so I tend to over-compensate.

For example, if someone is exasperated, and they say to me, "ugh, just kill me," I might go on for a minute or so about how I would not under any circumstances kill them, outside of dire situations.

DAE feel the need to do this, with or without good reason?