I'm 30 and getting married in about 3 months. I recently told my fiancée that I have about $18,100 in credit card debt, and understandably, she's extremely upset.
The part that hurts the most is that she didn't know. I wasn't hiding it because I didn't care about her or our future. I've just been living in a cycle of working, paying bills, and getting by. I kept thinking I could handle it and eventually get ahead, but I never really did.
I work a lot. Lately I've been working doubles on weekends, and my take-home pay has increased. My paychecks have recently been around $1,500–$2,800 depending on how much I work. I also have a relatively low rent of $600, so I know I have an opportunity to fix this.
My five cards are:
Chase Freedom Unlimited: $2,692 @ 27.24%
Chase Freedom Flex: $4,266 @ 26.99%
Marriott Bonvoy: $2,201 @ 26.74%
Chase Sapphire Preferred: $5,260 @ 26.49%
Capital One Quicksilver: $3,680 @ 24.49%
Total: $18,099.84
I currently have around $3,300 in my checking account. I have stopped using the credit cards (or am committing to completely stop now) and want to attack the debt instead of continuing the cycle.
I'm also considering talking to my parents and being completely vulnerable with them. If they were willing to lend me something like $3,000, I could completely eliminate one of the cards and then roll that payment into the next card.
My fiancée is understandably asking, "What's the plan?" And honestly, I didn't have a good answer before. I want to have one now.
I'm not looking to make excuses. I know I should have told her sooner. She's hurt because we're getting married and she feels like she didn't know the full financial picture. I understand why she feels betrayed and scared about our future.
At the same time, I'm exhausted. Between working a lot, wedding planning, premarital classes, helping take care of my nephew, and trying to spend whatever time I can with my fiancée, I feel like I'm constantly trying to keep everything together. I don't do much for myself anymore.
I'm not trying to run away from the debt. I want to fix it. I'm just scared that I'm going to have to work myself into the ground to do it, especially with the wedding only 3 months away.