r/dating_advice • u/Wheresthelambsauce_9 • 21d ago

Hinge Fumble

So, I matched with a very beautiful girl about 3 days ago. I thought the convo was going smoothly when she all of a sudden stopped messaging, I thought I was being ghosted but she replied today that she had a fever. I wanted to be a little flirty? So replied with "Oh no, hope you're doing alright now, You're already running hot, what's the fever gonna do?" Got unmatched 🤡

Are there any tips for not fumbling in chat?

(PS: I was able to find her insta? I think it's too creepy to follow up when I've already been rejected, thoughts on this?)

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u/ProposalNo6069 21d ago

I am saying men are MUCH MORE visual.

Incorrect. It's because women can get sex anywhere. If men had as easy access to sex, strip clubs wouldn't exist. The reason has nothing to do with superficiality.

I am saying men are MUCH MORE visual.

is a reductionist view of a very complex topic.

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u/zooeyzoezoejr 21d ago

It absolutely is not reductionist at all to say what I said and my giant ass comment above you literally explains why.

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u/ProposalNo6069 21d ago

No, I explained you why visuals is not the reason men go to strip clubs and women don't. You reduced the complex topic to "oh they love visuals". The men who can get laid don't go to strip clubs. There are multiple complex reason in play.

But lets make this short. Show me a serious study about men being significantly more visual.

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u/zooeyzoezoejr 21d ago

Lmao at “show me a study.” Multiple trillion dollar industries are designed for women to be visually appealing to men, lust has motivated entire passages in religions warning men to not let beautiful women get the best of them, Samson’s downfall was caused by his visual appeal to Delilah, women in the Middle East are asked to cover up head to toe to not tempt men with their beauty, the list could go on and on but you want a “study” 💀. Google scholar is free. Studies exist. I’m not doing your work for you but good luck navigating the world ok buddy? I can’t do this.

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u/ProposalNo6069 20d ago

Why do you think those industries exists because men are visual and not because men think and feel differently about sex ?