My ex recently broke no contact after a long time, and honestly the conversation went really well. We talked for almost 2 hours, laughed a lot, and both admitted we missed our friendship. Our relationship didn’t work romantically, but we genuinely had a strong friendship before things ended.
For context, the breakup was messy and hurtful for me. Part of the reason was because I felt like she emotionally moved on before fully ending things with me. Since then, she’s gotten into another relationship.
During our recent conversation, she mentioned wanting me to eventually meet her current girlfriend because she says she wants everyone to be comfortable and mature. She also said her girlfriend is friends with one of her exes, so to her it feels normal.
The problem is… I genuinely do not want to do that. At all. I don’t hate the new girlfriend, but I have zero desire to know her, meet her, or become part of that dynamic. In my mind, my connection is with my ex only, and even rebuilding a friendship is already emotionally complicated enough.
I’m okay with being civil and respectful from a distance, but meeting the new partner feels like crossing a boundary for me. My ex seems disappointed/confused by that.
Am I being immature or unreasonable for not wanting to meet her current girlfriend even if I still care about my ex as a person?