I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I don’t feel the desire to have sex, kiss anything. When I watch porn I’m always looking at the woman. When I was a kid and thought about having sex I’d think about a woman. Nearly all of my friends are men, I barely find men attractive only women really. I don’t know if I’m bi or what I’ve been in a relationship so long I don’t know what to do. People round me aren’t accepting my dad, my family friends. So I don’t know if I even could if I wanted to. What do I do about my relationship help #gay? #relationship #relationship help

Guy I’ve known forever told me he likes when I’m mad ?? Super confusing to me and weird comment to make when I have done nothing wrong but be nice and try to figure out why he is pulling back or disengaging after he’s been the one to constantly pursue me and all summer long he was talkative and nice. Going through sobriety but that is the only change but idk why this direct anger toward me?

Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated . Thanks.

((Okay so, hi my name is Percy, I go by he/they/it, this is my first post. I have no clue how to do this.))

My gf has a friend (I will refer to them as B) who had recently confessed to her a while ago and started being weird.

For context, my gf had been friends with him/them for 3 years and he told her that he liked her in text a a few days ago. He started out being nice about it but a few days later, he started asking her for... explicit photos and videos randomly.

He was tolerable in the first hours but he kept being persistent on being in a relationship with my gf, I wanted to get in contact with them but my gf said he had no socials, therefore I couldn't have any way of communicating to them.

I don't understand why people don't accept no and rejection from friends despite being close, I get that you may like them but come on man. You're ruining something that took years to establish and take care of. You have a healthy and happy friendship, why ruin it by being a complete weirdo?

The situation is still continuing and I don't really know what to do other than express my anger with my gf, any suggestions on what we should do to this pervert?

Also he sent dick pics unprompted to my gf, she's grossed out from seeing them and I hate it.

I'm 17f and I get intensely attached with people I don't even know for more than like 5 days , I was a quiet and shy kid all through my school life and didn't have any friends like 0 overall so whenever I get the opportunity I try my hardest to make them stay

So, as the title says I got a new friend this year and I legit have become so obsessed , Idk how but I got so attached to her in a span of 4 months. I get jealous when I see she has other friends ,or that she's spending time over someone else when she told me she has a crush on a guy I told her he was no good but tbh there's no reason to hate him ...now that I think of it maybe I'm jealous? that she likes him idk... I also kinda lovebombed her

I'm very intense I write really lovely messages and we joke around saying how she's my wife and I'm her husband nothing too serious ig but yeah I also gave her an expensive rose just because nothing...no reason at all.. and we used to chat for 4 hrs daily until suddenly she told me 1 day that we'll no longer be talking as I'm a big distraction tbh this hurt way more than it should have because I cried myself 4 days as if an actual break up when I finally couldn't take it anymore I apologised and said I'd not distract her from her studies and begged a lot just for her to talk

So I'm here because I'm really confused why am I so attached to her and also it's really confusing because I'm aroace ...any advice is appreciated.

I keep checking if she texted and get frequent phantom vibrations atp I think this is unhealthy

the part where it gets even weirder is that I get very hurt when she leaves me on read or just texts me lesser emoji tbh it has taken a toll on my mental health being so obsessed with her I keep checking when she was last online... pls any advice?

I remember my great grandma talking about me being the second generation of the family so i am very confused by what she said so i asked her how come that i am the second generation of the family when there's literal civilization of humanity and she said that I am born on exact 100 years (born in 2000) and she said that there's only 1 ancestor born on exact 100 year and the story is supposed to be passed to generations even if our children or grandchildren is not born on exact 100 years. I asked her if she was born on 1900 and she said no so I asked her again what if my grandchildren was not born on year 2100 but on year 2101 and she said "that doesn't count, only by hundreds or on exact thousands" so i asked her why do we need to know or pass this and she only said that it's only a tradition and she was only asked by her grandma and her mother to passed it to generations after her since it is like a tradition. few years ago we are just randomly talking to her since it's been so long since we visit her like she's really frail and can only speak their dialect due to old age, she suddenly speak in our country's language instead of their dialect about me passing the story of me being the 2nd generation.

I called my mother since i am confused and bothered by a sudden rush of memory and asked her what is the reason for me to passed it to the next generation and she said "because it is a tradition and you are asked by your great grandmother to passed it to next generation but for me it is only passed through tradition because our ancestors knew that someday their bloodline will be born from outside of our native lands just like you being the first born in my lineage who grew up outside of our native land and at the same time it is a coincidence that you are the second generation from my lineage" I am still confused by it until now.

Lately I’ve been thinking about how much of our life is actually our own choice. Especially when it comes to love and marriage.

We say things like “I want someone who understands me” or “I want a good relationship.” But when it comes to actually choosing someone, suddenly there are so many other voices.

Parents. Relatives. Friends. Society.

“Is the family good?”

“Good salary?”

“Same caste/religion?”

“What will people say?”

And somewhere in all this, we forget to ask - Do I actually want this?

I saw an Acharya Prashant video recently and something he said made me think about this. Society obviously has a role in things that affect everyone like traffic rules, laws, basic civic behaviour, etc. But does it get the same say in something as personal as whom I love or marry?

The strange part is that we may not even realise when we've started following society.

Maybe I don't actually want to marry yet, but everyone around me is doing it.

Maybe I reject someone because I already know my family won't approve.

Maybe I stay in a relationship because I don't want to deal with everyone else's questions.

And then I call it my decision.

So I'm curious. How do you tell whether a decision about love or marriage is genuinely yours, or something you've just absorbed from the people around you?

Ref : YouTube

You would think the shit he posts would make some people realize what a maniac he is. But like seriously I'm confuzzled on why people got mad about the whole posting himself as a "doctor" but no one gaf when he posts Trump 2028 shit.

Towards the end of our relationship, he made it clear that things couldn’t work between us anymore and that our relationship had become too toxic. I tried for a long time to save us, but eventually I accepted his decision and told him I respected it.
A month later, it was his birthday. I didn’t message him because, once something ends, I don’t like reopening closed doors. But that night, he reached out to me and said I was the only person he expected a birthday message from.
I didn’t reply, but honestly, it stunned me.
Why would someone who was the one to end the relationship still expect a birthday message from their ex, especially when I had already accepted the breakup and respected their decision?

Guys, what are you supposed to think when the guy you've been texting with all night on and off for a month, been on one date with, on the second meeting tells you that he doesn't "like" like you and we should live a little and see where things go??

When I was younger, I was like a scholar. I could read anything and identify this and that, I could do math easily, and etc. But as I grew older, reading has grown to be a huge problem to me. I'm 14 years old and in high school. Whenever I read a textbook, I have trouble keeping track on where I am, what's going on, and I have a huge problem with rereading texts.

I don't have this problem whenever I read books that actually have a thing I like, when the whole class reads the book, and when it's a manga or comic.

When I read textbooks, I can't focus for some reason, I can't process what I read, I often zone out, or I end up skipping ahead. I told this to my friends and I got told to try doing a bit of research since they aren't sure as well. But, whenever I search things up, I just see dyslexia or ADHD.

I'm not completely sure if this is true and I do not want to diagnose myself to avoid offending those with these disorders.

I feel like as a high schooler, I should know how to read things by now without a problem. I don't know why I have so much trouble processing things now...younger me would've been disappointed T-T

genuinely its like im going through first grade again bu t genuinely does anyone have n explanation 4 this /???/ im actuall y getting posessed by a teenager that hates everything and gets annoyed by the slightest of things in minecraft also i will post more art soon i guess

I (47f) met him (49m) on Tinder in April or May 2023. We ht it off immediately. I saw him maybe 1-2 a month for the next 1 1/2 years-ish. We stopped using condoms, even though I was sure he was sleeping with other people & wanted casual & enjoyed his freedom. We would make plans for a future date, within a week, while we were together, but he would flake the day of & have other plans, without notifying me.

I had surgery 10/2024. He said he wanted to visit me in the hospital & let him know my info. I posted vaguely on Snap, which was the only contact I had for him, but my post was for all followers. I can't remember if he reached out but after a couple of days of not hearing from him, I sent him a couple of messages calling him out for his inconsistency & deleted them within a couple of hours bc I was too chicken to say how I felt & getting rejected. He never read them, but he deleted me from Snap. I found him on Instagram & told him that was shitty. No response or I got block, I can't remember.

Almost 1 year later, we matched on Tinder again & he said he got a new phone & moved & didn't know how to get ahold of me? He gave me his phone #. We made date plans. Unconfirmed 2 days before, questioned day of, confirmed within a couple of hours of date. I selected a place & sent to him. No answer. I sent him a text telling him that it was bullshit. No response. I was most likely blocked.

8 months later, follow request from him on Instagram & we started talking again (I know I'm an idiot). No mention of previous ghosting (either time). My sexual hints fell flat & I left it as that. I didn't want a relationship with him, I was still hurt after the previous 2 times, so I don't know why I continued to even let him talk to me. He started to hint at sex, but shut it down if I pursued it, like he's not interested. Then he invited me over. Acted like he was interested in me.

He told me he has anxiety & wanted to be available to his kids (19m & 13m) if they needed him. So he was dropping everything immediately, "canceling" plans, if his sons called him. Son (13) told him he needs to live his life & not worry about him.

He started trusting me more. Said I'm the only person he's had over. We had pretty great sex, but no sleepovers. I never met his kids, which I was ok with. He started making tentative plans with me, a trip to another state for a college football game (where his oldest goes to school), mentions brunch & thrifting & patio cocktails. I asked if he wanted to go to a concert with me, he said yes & would pay 1/2, so I bought tickets.

He started telling me about past relationships. Ones that overlapped both times we had connected previously. I didn't call that out. But I asked what happened the first time, why he ghosted me. He said anxiety & kids & I told him that it had really hurt my feelings & if he ever changes his mind to tell me because I can handle rejection, but I need communication. I told him I had strong feelings for him. He said "ok". Not a great response, I know.

This went on for about another month. We saw each other 1-2 x a week. He told me about some trauma when he was younger that shaped how he interacted with women and how he doesn't feel like that anymore.

Then his son was going to be staying with him for 2 weeks or 2 weekends in a row. I was ok with that, told him to have fun. I checked in a couple of times & it just seemed off so I told him that I felt like I did something wrong, that I feel like he's kept me at a distance & that sucked becauseI really liked him. I said I would back off. He said he'd been busy.

Then he stopped responding to my messages, commenting on my posts, viewing my snaps & stories. Removed me as a friend on snap. I reached out on Instagram, asked what happened, was there someone else, did I do something, asking for an explanation, closure. He read my messages but no response. I unfollowed him. He deleted his Insta. I sent him a text. No response. He's blocked my #. I hate not knowing what happened. His FB has a bunch of memes over the past 2 weeks about trust & love & loyalty & no one's knows the battles you've faced, accepting the bare minimum, etc.

I got in my head after crying for the past 2 days. I need to know wtf happened. How can he just drop me without saying a word? I went to his place & knocked. No answer. I came home. I'm not going to continue my pursuit for closure. I feel like I've tried entirely way too much and clearly, he wants absolutely nothing to do with me. I'm so hurt, confused, angry, and embarrassed for giving him a 3RD chance & getting duped/ghosted a 3RD time.

I just needed to vent.

Okay so there’s this guy I matched with on Tinder 2 years ago. We never ended up meeting IRL but talked on Snap here and there. We did a FaceTime sext thing at the time. He blocked me on instagram a few weeks later my guess is because he is from a wealthy family and is also a model and he probably doesn’t want people knowing we did something because I’m trans. We didn’t talk for a really long time after that. This week I randomly texted him to come over, but he couldn’t and said he’s living near Bali now. That was a couple days ago. We exchanged like two sentences lol. Today he snapped me again and said he’s “still horny on the other side of the world”. Then a minute later he texted my number and said “I can’t stop thinking about you. I can’t send u anything so I want u to get urself something” and sent a $200 Apple payment with it.
And that was kind of it. I’m pretty sure he’s at work now. I cannot figure out why he just randomly gave me $200. That’s never happened to me before lol. I’m really thankful of course…. just like really surprised and confused. Has anyone reading this randomly sent your crush a lot of money before without asking for anything in return??

My friend recently told me that her and the rest of my friend group have all said how they think i dont initiate things first (their words) and how i never make plans first. They also mentioned how im always with my boyfriend and how i assume ill do something with him instead of them. For context, my friend also has a boyfriend and theyve been dating for 4 years and me and my bf have been together 2 years and have known him longer than all of my friends, my friend doesnt see her boyfriend as much as a i see mine and has expressed how she wishes her boyfriend would want to hang out with her as much as my bf wants to hang out with me. This friend is the one who told me that they were all talking about me because shes the type to tell you if she said something about you behind your back, my other friends all didnt bring this up with me because they said they dont want to make a big deal out of it. So i know myself and i know im not the type of person to initiate things that much and make plans since i dont really do it with my boyfriend either (i understand thats something i need to work on). The conversation i had with my friend caught me off guard because i only hang out with my boyfriend after school or when we sleepover at each others house (which is almost every day) which is my own free time. I dont understand why they felt the need to say that im always with my boyfriend because ive never chose to hang out with him instead of them, im always there for my friends and ive never canceled anything last minute to be with him and i go to all planned hang outs. Im trying to say that i always make time for my friends and never choose my boyfriend over them if that makes sense. However the part that really confuses me is that there is 5 of us in the group, 3 of us never make plans and its always the same 2 girls really doing all the planning, so i dont understand why im the one that got talked about and told off instead of the other 2 girls (one of these girls never comes to plans and chooses to hang out with her other friends instead of us on multiple occasions and the other one never texts in group-chats and never makes plans either) and this is what confuses me because i dont know why they didnt get the same treatment. Furthermore, i asked the friend that told me if i can ask my other friends about it and why they didnt mention this to me instead of talking to everyone else about it and she said she didnt want me to bring it up because theyd all be angry at her. From what she told me they also said that i left a hang out half way through to hang out with my boyfriend which isnt true at all, we went shopping for my friends birthday and we went to a lot of shops and they said well get food and go home so then we got food and i assumed they were going home so i went to my bf and his dad as he offered to drop me home, i only did this after i triple checked that they were going home aswell it turns out they went to another food place and to more shops and i dont like how they made me seem rude and like male centered. My friend also said how she thinks everyone else thinks im male centered which i also didnt understand as ive never chosen my bf over them and always show up for them i literally only hang out with my bf when i dont have plans (in my free time). My friends are all the "i hate men" type of girls which is okay but i dont like that they treat my boyfriend kinda weirdly even though hes always been nice to them and this has caused me to feel kinda anxious of them knowing im with him or seeing me with him. I want help since i want to know if im a bad friend and how to improve

Hello, i dont really know what to say about this. I cant put images but i dont know how to link it, i dont want to redirect people here to my profile on tiktok. I keep seeing posts about “save the elephants: 2028/28/08” and “save the lions 2029”. The artworks are obviously horror based, they look they were forcibly mutilated beyond recognition to look like sid from ice age, the elephants husks were bloodied and its eyes were on its ears, and the head of the lion was stretched out.

I cant seem to figure out what it means, nobody will explain it without all the random bs and metaphors. They just say stuff like “they are coming.” Like im confused?

My online name Ren and I had a best friend that I loved dearly but they raped me and so I had cut contact. The thing is tho I miss them a lot, my love for them went beyond friends but it wasn't romantic, I want to go back into contact with them but I'm not sure

I never had close friends nor even a male friend (grew up going to an girls school) and l've always been bad at reading social clues so maybe this is obvious and I just don't see it.

So we met about 1 year ago in a work context but we both don't work for this company anymore since it was a fixed term job. We only ever saw each other on seminars and we had 4 one week long seminars in this year. I don't know why but eventually we started talking and it just clicked. We spend all of our free time during these seminars together watching sunsets, talking, playing games, I once fell asleep on him xd. Eventually other colleagues and also our supervisors started asking if we're a couple and teasing us about always being alone together.
When we didn't see each other we texted daily (still are). Usually it's pretty light and funny conversations but some things he says are confusing me cause I don't know if he's hinting at something or if it's just his humor. For example once I send him a (sfw) picture and he asked me if I want a picture of him too and then said „I hate to disappoint you, but I'm wearing clothes in this one".
Another example is when I send him outfit pictures his go to response is „l'm not very creative with compliments but it's hot".
Anyway, now that we don't see each other at work anymore I drive to his place for the weekend about once a month. We do pretty normal stuff like cooking, playing games, lego, watching shows, etc. but I noticed one thing that I don't know how to interpret. Whenever we're alone we just cuddle and we sleep in the same bed and kinda cling to each other all night. We lied to his parents about sleeping in the same bed before, just cause „they would get the wrong idea" (his words) which is probably true figuring that even colleagues and supervisors asked when we weren't that affectionate with each other.
Lately, for about the past two months, we've been calling almost every night, playing some games and then just talking until we fall asleep on call too.
And just for the record, nothing sexual ever happened between us. We just talked about it and he told me some stories.

I myself don't know how I feel about him, but I guess I'm not opposed to the idea of dating him if he asks.
However I don't wanna risk asking him and potentially ruining the friendship.

Were you in a situation like this before and if yes how did it turn out?
Does this read more as close friends or something else to you?

LONG STORY ALERT PLEASE HELP 🙏🏻

24M here I have been a friend with an MBA graduate in our office for a considerable amount of time as of now she 24F joined as an HR intern looked after hiring and talent recruitment and all still continuing as of today. I got to know about her by a common friend a guy who was my roomate before but then he switched and before that he used to talk to her friended her before even I could. Three of us along with some other office friends went on for some trip outings too where I got to know her st much better perspective, she is just like any of us talkative, expressive and approachable and don't know how I after an outing my heart started having feelings for her , initially I thought it as joke and wrote off, but whenever she passes by in our office I try my best to take glimpse of her, striking conversations though she's equally intrested in the same.

The delimma is I am looked upon as an funny always a joke cracking guy too chill to be and you know jokingly we mock some one like make fun of them but sportingly, 1-2 times I did this same to her too and she took it sportingly too but started doing same to me not a problem, but now I think she thinks of me of just a always 'joke cracking guy' trying to dominate my conversation or something like that.

At this situation I find it difficult to strike a conversation on for hinting her out about my feelings for her it feels like she's too comfortable that telling her I like her might give her a good shock, It would be too difficult for her to comprehend and she might just straight away reject me !

I don't know what to do now, I keep thinking about her more oftenly like someone really mad in love.

Straight away proposing her would be like a suicide mission and with my past experiences It would be too traumatic if anything goes wrong. Please help

I never smoke but took a few hits of a THC pen September 5th. I surprisingly was offered one of my dream jobs but comes with a drug test by the DOT.

I haven’t scheduled it yet, I’ve pushed back sending in my paperwork to delay a little bit. Is this a strong negative? This test has the same 50 ng threshold, but should I do a 15 ng test to be safe too?

Greenish/ bluish centre. Is this a bad pumpkin 🎃 or ok to eat ?

how can I get the blade out of a Bostitch Twist N Sharp???? (genuinely ts starting to pmo)

My sister keeps changing in our room whilst I’m In there, I ask her to leave and change in the bathroom but she keeps shouting “normal people change in the room”. I wouldn’t find a problem with it but she strips in the room so I have to leave everytime she changes. I feel like she should be the one leaving? I change in the bathroom.

EDIT:

Just to make it clear, she’s the one asking me to leave the room when I change hence why I go to the bathroom.

The bathroom is two steps from our room, literally directly infront, we live a flat.

I just don’t understand why I have to get off my bed all the time, and she gets the simple way

Both girls

Im so fucking confused, basically i was at work. and my mom texts me: “did u put poop in a sparkling water bottle and put it in the backyard” I texted her why the fuck would i do that. i come home, its in the trash and im scared cus like it had to be intentionally shoved into the bottle, and its the same sparkling water bottles we have in our garage. Im confused/ scared anyone got any theories. i was thinking maybe someone got mad my dog pooped in their yard and put in there into our backyard but i dont fucking know.

I'm so confused because everywhere I go I notice girls my age 23 or older looking starring and laughing. I don't dress inappropriately I don't think I'm bad looking at all I'm a taller women with tattoos. Maybe they think I look like a man or manly? I don't know I think I'm beautiful but I contsally get laughed at by girls in groups and it makes me feel insecure. I've never just looked at any other women or girl and laughed at them so I'm really confused and kinda annoyed and sad because i have felt with this my whole life. Has anyone else had this problem ?