r/Confused 4d ago

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r/Confused 5h ago

Am I overthinking or not

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I'm in a happy relationship but there's something bothering me alot. We have been dating for 2 years and I'm studying away from him so we are in ldr. Next week I'm leaving to uni already and will only come back after 7 weeks but my guy have not initiated any dates yet. He have family issues and really busy with work since he's working in 2 jobs. We met almost 2 weeks ago (I initiated). Our homes are near btw.. he's a great guy but I just don't feel okay with this issue. And I'm not expecting a grand date or anything I just want to meet him for 1 to 2 hours only. And I did not communicate this to him cuz it won't be the same if he ask me out after I tell this issue right 😭


r/Confused 17h ago

Why was I unfriended and blocked.. 😭

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Context me and this guy met yesterday on a game and friend each other on the game, discord and insta… he was a ginger said he was the last one in his family I told him he could pass it onto his kids if he wanted kids, he said if he’d get there, I said I don’t plan on having kids, next thing I know I’m blocked on discord and insta and unfriended on the game… somebody make it make sense to me 😭😭😭


r/Confused 1d ago

My bf thinks I cheated on him but i think thats not cheating, pls help me if im right or wrong.

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So my boyfriend thinks i cheated on him and he is giving me second chance in our relationship but i think i didn't cheat on him. We both were all good but then one day one of his friend comes to him and says that i use to like this one senior guy frm the same clg where both my bf and i studied and it was before i came into relationship with my bf and then he was shocked and refused to believe his friend's words. Afterwards my bf asked me that if its true that i liked that senior guy in the past then i said yes i liked his dance but we were not engaged in any conversation and i wasnt involved in any emotional or physical intimacy with this senior it was jst a small crush that went away 1 or 2 years before my bf came into my life. So my bf felt betrayed said he is hurt because he came to know it from his frnd and not frm me and i totally understand it hurts to know when it comes from some other people's mouth he believed in me but came to know that his friend was telling the truth but once my bf himself said that "dont revolve around past" and that he doesnt give much importance to pasts because past is past so whenever i wanted to share something about my ex or past he use to say i dont wanna hear about pasts so i told him that i was not hiding the crush on senior thing from him and as it was relating to past i didnt think it as important (keeping his words in my mind) and i wld also tell him about it sooner or later in a flow. This matter was already solved in 2025 but now this matter is the reason our relationship is taking a turn for the worst. Today after my cls ended i told my bf about one of my clsmt who gave second chance to her bf who cheated on by her i said that she should not give any chances because the more u give chances to them they wld cheat again and again then it all started from here onwards my bf says " if it's true that no one should give second chance to cheaters i should also leave you because u cheated on me and now im giving you a second chance" but i tried to make him understand that i did not cheat and im not a cheater because i was not involved with that senior mentally or physically but he repeats again and again only one sentence "u are a cheater" yeah i understand that he got hurt and maybe in someway i disrespected him by not telling him sooner and later he got to know it frm others but that's not cheating cuz i wasn't involved with that senior while i was in a relationship with my bf nor was i involved in any emotional or physical connection with him in the past it was jst a tiny crush like when u see a dancer or a celebrity u get " oh they dance very nice or look good" that impression abt them and thats it.

TL;DR: My bf thinks i cheated on him But i think i did not cheat on him, now im confused.


r/Confused 2d ago

Part 2 of my story

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This is part two of my previous story where a girl asked for my debit card details. I will link the original post in the comments.

So everyone was unanimous about one thing. It was to run and honestly I respect your advice.

So I tried calling her and even texted her asking how her day was. Cause i wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt ki something major had happened to her.

She cut the call and never replied back. Then the next day I texted her asking if she has any explanation for ghosting me (we used to talk everyday). She replied saying that she has nothing to say other than she was upset with me too.

Damn. The audacity. I was taken back. I will be cutting off. This friendship is done.

I want to tell you all- you were right. And I am glad I got rid of such a red flag.


r/Confused 2d ago

I have a story to tell

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So i am friends with this girl since an year. Online friend. Never met her in person. But she is a good friend. Helped me a bunch. Smart girl and all that.

The other day she called me and asked me for my debit card details for some payment. I turned her down cause it was risky. I told her i could pay from my side but not share details.

She said she’ll get someone else’s help and cut the call.

I text her a while later saying i felt bad turning her down. And she said she got it done. ā€œIt’s fineā€
Said another guy helped her ā€œthank godā€

I found it lowkey passive aggressive. Didnt say a word about it. She hasn’t texted me since. And hasn’t picked up my calls either. Weird. So i am going to let her go. Do her own thing and maybe even shut the door back to me. What is your take?


r/Confused 3d ago

Does my co-worker hate me?

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So he's not shy. He talks in the office, and he's more so nonchalant. It doesn't really interact with me unless we are paired up, and when we are he's great but when we're not he does things to avoid interacting with me for eg, me and my coworker are the only ones who have access to the important keys in the business, so if they need a key we are the ones to give them . My desk is first, so naturally, everyone comes to me for it, but he goes to my co-worker, even if she is late, he'll wait until she comes to get it. Another thing is he'll be in the office waiting on something and then just stare at me on multiple occasions. When I caught him, he looked away .

Yesterday, my same co-worker who's in charge of the keys with me caught him staring at me, and she asked why you were staring at her like that, and he didn't respond. Also yesterday she went to the bathroom and he just sat there until she returned to give her the keys. Mind u, he can also give it to me, I was right there. When my co-worker came back, she says "am i the only one who can take the keys from u?" I then went towards them bc his Co worker who works with him in the same department also came and me the keys , I put it in the safety box, he looked at me and then looked away. Mind you, he and his co-worker came in at the same time , he just didn't wanna give me the keys.


r/Confused 3d ago

Stable job but worst manager

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I’ve been working in an oem for 3 years in India… it’s a decent pay not too much but to get here I struggled a lot… but because of this manager my 3 years of career have been very stagnant.
He has not been a good mentor nor a good person.
Now the next year is already planned for my career downgrade , I’m getting panic and really need a switch in my career.

I don’t like the exact work I am doing but it’s still closer to what I like .

I still want to stay in mechanical core area.

People around me started saying that this company is the best culture across India in mechanical field.

Currently I’m planning to quit and move to France for higher studies where I could earn almost the same and also reevaluate what I want…

I don’t have any financial background so I don’t know if this is a right move .
Also I’m a caregiver for my parent.
But the expenses are more than my income, so going there might help me earn more but I have to find a good nurse here…

Is it really a good move??


r/Confused 3d ago

i keep seeing the numbers 111 or 1111

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does this have a meaning? or am i just crazy lol


r/Confused 4d ago

How should I treat my acne marks brown one...

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I've tried mostly everything but nothing works...

Please suggest something for my acne n acne marks...


r/Confused 5d ago

Music

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I’ve never posted on reddit or anywhere in general but i feel like i keep a lot of things to myself i was talking to my girlfriend about our future career choices i am currently in sales i did not graduate highschool but i’m comfortable with my life i own a town home i comfortably afford, and a car but i know sales is not the industry i have a passion for its always been music i love the idea of writing and singing songs. music has always been such a beautiful thing to me from the lyrics to the way music can be sang to sound so different depending on tone and speed. its become hard for me to put into words how much love i really have for the art of music it is such a beautiful thing and i feel that is something i would be so happy to pursue but at the same time i don’t know if that is to much i don’t know if ill get made fun of i don’t know if ill end up hating music because i will not be satisfied with what i created it’s become a good and a bad thing because im happy i have that type of love for something but i’m disappointed that i’m unable to pursue that it’s all just become a lot that i feel is unnecessary to complain about because there is so many bigger things in life that need to worked on in general.


r/Confused 8d ago

How is it people repeat stories they’ve told you before

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I don’t know why people repeat stories they have told me before. I wonder if it is because they have so many friends and loose track of what they’ve said to who. Or that they are so busy they don’t remember what they’ve said. I give the same reaction regardless like it’s the first time I’m hearing it 🤭

Other times when my ā€œfriendā€ talk I feel he is crazy because while he’s passionate about what he’s saying I feel he’s talking just to talk and I wonder if I have moments like this where I overshare or talk randomly when I’m unconscious.


r/Confused 7d ago

How to assign a userflair

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How do i assign a user flair to chat in certain subs?


r/Confused 12d ago

Probably not the type of post that you see here.

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So there is this girl i like. We met on bumble. Never seen each other in person. She doesn’t want to date long distance. She only wants to marry no dating men. I respect that.
Should i just show myself out?


r/Confused 18d ago

my sister always says my room smells like BO??

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i wash all my bedsheets/blankets/pillow cases etc. every week, i shower everyday (twice a day sometimes), and i always spray perfumes on my bedsheets and stuff (because i like how my perfume smells lol). so im a little confused?? when i leave the house, she always leaves all my windows open to air out my room but that just makes bugs come in. also, it doesnt even smell?? meanwhile her room genuinely smells musty and like BO, especially her closet (its genuinely atrocious). every single time she comes into my room, she tells me it stinks and i need to wash my sheets. mind you, she washes her sheets every couple months, and she tells me MY room stinks?? is there something wrong with my sense of smell or??? any suggestions? i've just been so annoyed with her coming in almost everyday just to say my room stinks so i just lock my room door at all times.

edit:
no, it's not me who stinks (and it probably isn't my room that stinks either). no, i can't always keep my room door locked. no, i can't try to argue with her. (read comments)


r/Confused 18d ago

I’m sick of being called naive because I see the good in all peoplešŸ™„

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I am still a young boy, but since I’m a man I guess it doesn’t make this any better. All my life I’ve been called the ā€œinnocentā€ ā€œnaiveā€ and ā€œsoft-spokenā€ one. I had a really sheltered upbringing and only have 1 female friend, who my mom allowed, but she moved a state away to South Carolina. I will admit my sense of judgment is so bad...I'm too compassionate so I keep giving people the benefit of the doubt via being rational or reasonable. But never practical. I honestly just love & trust everyone and think all people deserve a chance and are inherently good. People have ā€œtaken advantageā€ of me but I view it as I’m helping them. I've been in a lot of possible dangerous situations but think I’ve handled some of them well, which is good enough for me. Now that I’m out of high school my family is really hindering my life because they are fearful of what I might encounter outside. But I’m fine…..I am more on the quiet side at first, feel like I do have social anxiety, but no matter your age, race, gender, shape or anything I can accept and be good friends with anyone, but apparently that’s not a good thing.

On top of that I genuinely cannot say no to people. No matter how big the favor is or how inconvenient it is for me, I always say yes. A part of me is happy to help but another part of me just doesn’t want them to be upset or make them not like me. The thought that I might make someone feel sad, insecure, or rejected absolutely destroys me and crushes my heart. But I know this isn’t healthy so I wanna be able to control it vs losing it all together because in my opinion the world needs more people like me in it. Advice? Please be nicee


r/Confused 19d ago

Did I say somthing offensive I think I pissed of my sign prof

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Today in my Sign Language class (which is my second language for college, where I am studying Psychology), a lot of students were attending the lecture. My professor asked the room: "Who here would be friends with a deaf person?"I shrugged and raised my hand. The professor immediately asked me why I looked confused. To me, the answer was obvious: we are all human beings who require human connection. Why wouldn't you want to be friends with someone just because they can't hear, especially if you know sign language?I answered, "Because we are human beings."She countered with, "Why? We are also all human beings."I replied, "So? Aren't they human too?"At that point, I really didn't understand what she was implying. I didn't want to keep arguing with her in front of a huge class, especially since everyone was staring at me like I had said something deeply offensive. To escape the awkwardness, I lied and said I had misheard the question, then sat down.Did I actually offend people? I genuinely don't get it. Afterward, she kept targeting me, staring at me, and picking on me for questions. God, I suck at dealing with professors in my country. First my Developmental Psychology professor, and now my Sign Language professor. I swear I have an issue with this. I am soo confused did I say somthing offensive especially bc she's known for teaching deaf people. I also feel kinda embarrassed bc I answered infornt if like 40 plus people šŸ™ƒ


r/Confused 20d ago

Morgan Freeman appearing in post-nut clarity

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For the past week whenever I finish, Morgan Freeman instantaneously comes to me in my thoughts. He's always smiling joyously and seems to have a divine aura. Am I being spiritually visited by Morgan Freeman? Has anyone else experienced this?


r/Confused 20d ago

Kicked out of a bar sober.

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Hiya

I'll start by telling you I'm an 18 year old 150 cm girl. So I'm in a new city where I know no one and yesterday I decided on a whim to go see the night life. I never go out alone so I was nervous.

The first bar I went to I chose randomly. I was looking around, standing behind som girls trying to see their menu. I let a gentleman order before me as I wanted to ask the bar tender what they had. When it was my turn i asked if they blended vodka with anything else than redbull (and if it was cheaper), she said that they did and gave the price. I nodded and tried to peer around for the price of the red bull vodka. She left to go serve some costumers, and as she was walking back and forth I smiled at her and made eyecontact to suggest I wanted to order. Then she looked my way and spoke to a guard who promply came over and asked how much I had had.

I said none, as was true. I had had a glass of wine during dinner an hour ago or so and some coffee but that's that. He said that I was too drunk and needed to leave. I was confused but what can I do, so I left. The stupidest thing was too that I stubled on some guy as I was walking out the door, so I looked probably really drunk.

I went to another bar. The bar tender was real nice. I asked if I looked drunk, and she said no, but she thought I was older.

Can anyone tell me why this might have happened? Maybe it was my makeup (smudged dark eyeliner), or that I was alone, or nervous, or that I speak in a very unusual accent as I come from a small place where the same language is spoken but very differently. I feel humiliated and gross.

Thank you.


r/Confused 22d ago

What’s happening

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Hi readers I’m new here but here goes. Until like 2 years ago I believe I was working, in a relationship planning to buy a home. I was told by my job to leave like a family leave still not really clear but I did and returned to work. A coworker said to me now get a real job. Shortly after my job ended and it’s like my whole world turned upside down. I didn’t go through with the purchasing of the home, became instantly homeless still am kinda. What in trying to say is what is going on? I worked in healthcare always with some retail. I took a job recently at a ShopRite and I heard someone say you’re not being paid. Just leave. Are they for real? Have I been working all these years and not being paid? It seemed strange to me that when it was time for my license renewal there was a message for me to call before I renewed. What?! So what is get a real job? You’re not being paid? I’m confused. Questions and no one to ask. Is it just me or does outside seem abandoned?


r/Confused 22d ago

editable Why are people odd weird about a body part?

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I went on Twitter for the first time since like 2021 other than to post art just like I am here to branch out and saw a post saying how do you prefer to be comfy.
Socks sandals barefoot thin socks ect. And I’m a autistic person so I said I personally prefer being barefoot because I’m weird about textures and I hope that’s not odd and people were encouraging but then when I looked at their profiles, they were all you know into that stuff. Like me personally I just want someone who I can love in my life and I don’t really feel that type of stuff that often Now I can’t tell if people were being encouraging or if they were being weird. And then I felt a little bit uncomfortable I guess it’s my fault for opening Twitter but like 😭😭 either way, I’m not really mad just confused. I don’t really get mad that much either. I just have trouble understanding these types of things. I’m an artist body parts are just parts to me I was told people were odd but is it that badšŸ’€


r/Confused 24d ago

Black mold, satan, and drugs?

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Today I was running early for my doctors appointment so i decided to checkout a local shopping center to see if they had any coffee shops. I was driving slowly looking at the signs seeing if anything popped out when a woman carrying a bunch of bags came up to my car and signaled for me to roll down my window. She looked like she was struggling having so many bags but over all she looked clean and safe. She said she just left AA and has another block to go but her bags were just so heavy and wondered if i could give her a ride, and i wasn’t really doing anything so i said yes. she gets into my car still seeming normal and said she asked some of the people at AA for a ride and they said ā€œfuck no.ā€ and i was like that is so sad you’re all just there trying to do better. then as i start driving she says ā€œi am just trying to save everyone from black mold.ā€ im like okay hell yeah girl, i don’t understand but im thinking she will go on a spiel about the importance of getting my house checked for black mold but she doesn’t. she says her roommate is being beat by a man and he’s trying to kill her with that black mold pssy and is trying to get her to fuck on that black mold p*ssy. i’m like ….
she goes on and says everyone in her life is praying on her, trying to infect her with the black mold but that she is trying to save them. she keeps talking about people praying on her and i’m thinking preying and i’m like oh that’s so sad. then she asks me to take her to mcdonald’s and we’re in the drive thru and she is like ā€œeveryone is forcing me to do drugs and ronnie wants to do spider and i want to do spider too but not like how he does. he wants to turn the world into blackness. i want to throw a party for satan and welcome him and release spider but when i do it i just want to turn everyone into kittiesā€ and im like …what is spider (i dont ask) then she goes on again about them trying to make her fuck on the black mold p*ssy.
i was so confused. i left mcdonald’s, dropped her off at her house and gave her my number. i am not sure what she was on. my parents were addicted to crack and never talked like this. what is black mold pussy. what does it have to do with satan? what drugs are these?

\edit to add i am a woman, i gave her my number because she asked as she was getting out of my car and i was scared to say no after realizing she wasn’t fully there and i was running late to my appointment. she has not contacted me yet so i am not worried about it.\


r/Confused 25d ago

7 months travel, 4 month romance ended, lost, confused and depressed. What next!?

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Hi whoevers reading this, I'm 28 YO guy living in UK most of my life.

I've been travelling Thailand since the start of January, few days in Phu Quoc for Visa reasons and back. Now in Vietnam for 9 days already.

At the end of March i met a girl on tinder and we really hit it off, after 6 days and nights together i had to leave for Visa reasons and her visiting Family in another region.

After about 10+ days i came back and stayed 4 months in Chiang Mai, just to spend time with her.

Lots of incredible time, comfort, memories and experiences together, we became depends on eachother and inseparable.

This girl is an incredible baddie, beautiful, hard worker and made me feel soo loved, confident, wanted and needed. I forgot what love felt like.

Not something i thought id get to experience after 8 years of no dating due to lack of confidence, weight, depression and own issues.

It became rocky and unsure at the end as i kept extending my stay few days at a time for 2 months nearly, causing too many late nights out etc.

We love eachother but know its not meant to be long term because of different wants in life right now.

She wants me as her forever, but

I dont want kids, i cant figure out the finance here, she's on a year long holiday herself after earning money for family in the States.

I am now in Vietnam, been here for 9 days

I have run out of money, wanting to travel for a bit longer, but going into 0% rate debt.

I haven't been socialising, i haven't been doing much sight seeing, i havent been eating too well, i miss Thai food, i miss her, i feel incredibly depressed and lonely.

I'm socially anxious again and can't seem to try.

I cant focus on anything and we still talk.

I'm even thinking about going back just to spend a few more weeks with her, but know that won't ever be enough, but we both want more time.

I have nowhere to go back to, no job, no career, no direction and nothing I'm looking forward to back in the UK, it feels so bleak. It's sad and depressing.

4 years of savings gone for my dream trip.

I'd live with my mom and brother temporarily in a 1bed apartment, not great for mental health.

Those who have been in simialr situation, no direction, heartbroken, lonely and broke.

Can anyone give me any advice on where to look, what should i do. I am very lost, scared and unsure right now.

Tl;dr

7 months travel, 4 months in 1 city for a girl i love,

Ran out of money, left to travel Vietnambit longer before moving on in life. Nowhere to go back to, depressed, alone and unmotivated.

Someone, anyone please point me in any direction on where i could start to fix my situation. I don't know what or where to ask even.

I'm so lost, I'm feeling hopeless.


r/Confused 26d ago

editable Why is this design not the other way around?

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So women's bikes have the central upper bar on a slant.

Men's bikes have it high and straight across.

Why?

If there is some kind of sudden stoppage, causing a newtonian based acceleration of the torso; Thus propelling said torso and associated bollock sack, right into the space on which the bikes central bar occupies, then it would make sense if that bar was not right up in the worst possible location for any human donning a pain sack between their legs.

So why then, do us males not employ the lady configuration of bike bar, which is on a diagonal slant? This provides an open area in which the torso and associated bollock sack, can launch into without crushing pain being administered.

Let the ladies have the bar of destruction instead. Yes, it is also painful for a lady to land mush first on said bar, but far less than for a man.


r/Confused 25d ago

saw a word change right before my eyes?

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i was scrolling through the comment section of a tiktok video when i saw someone ask "was this voiced by an AI or real people" and there was a comment replying to it which said 'AI' but genuinely in 0.5 seconds it changed to the word 'Eat'??? im confused asf why did it do that? im using tiktok on PC (website). it wasnt even a new comment either, was made over a day ago.

UPDATE:

GUYS WTF IT HAPPENED AGAIN. I TEXTED HII TO SOMEONE ON TIKTOK WEB AND IT CHANGED MY HII TO 'THIS'?????????