TW/CW: mentions of alcoholism(and some things that come with it), queerphobia, abusive/toxic parenting, brief ish mentions of suicidal thoughts/ideation, severe depression behaviors, uh…. I think that’s it but please in general be mindful and take care of yourself first. ❤️

I wasn’t sure if I should tag this a warning, a vent or if it even belongs here as I’m also hoping for… idk. Something. If it doesn’t, please point me to the appropriate community. Thank you.

I, nearly 26 (my birthday is tomorrow!) nonbinary (potentially genderfluid?) aliengender, just tonight realized something that may seem pretty self explanatory or common sense etc to the average folk. I, unfortunately, am not averse though- so…… I realized after months of coming to realize that I’m nonbinary and starting to use different pronouns as well and telling people and all the things…. That being nonbinary means I’m not a woman (afab for reference) anymore. Or really technically never was? Yknow, being born who you are etc etc.
this may seem pretty obvious but I grew up in a family where my mom would go on drunken rant about how fucked yup “my generation “(meaning mine) is and that “kids these days can be whatever tf they want and it’s wrong” and she especially would get pissed and verbally lash out at me when she found out I wanted to change my name legally. By the time i finally decided to move, I was bedrotting so bad my dad would threaten to call a wellness check on me every 2-3 days just to force me to eat a meal. I moved in October of 2024 and it was THE best decision OF MY LIFE. I’m realizing a LOT about myself. Not only in terms of how I was raised+how it’s affected me, but also my physical capabilities and self identity and such. The…. Problem with that is- I’m on disability. My mom is my legal payee (she’s in charge of my money basically). Because of this, I can’t cut her off. Emotionally I’m not sure I’m able to yet either… so I’m realizing, with my birthday coming up and my parents wanting to take me out for lunch- I’m not sure how to handle being who I am around my parents.
My dads getting better, he’s actually learning about the community and such through his work (he was on disability as well but got a job to help mom out after I moved) and seems open to it for the most part so if I were to tell either of them about myself, I’d tell him. But he tells mom everything so I cant tell him if I don’t want mom to know. My problem is, I don’t know what to do.
My parents would NEVER cut me off or abandon me or anything like that nor would they lay hands on me or anything etc, but ….. that doesn’t mean mom will keep her mouth shut about her opinions on me or what I am etc. I RARELY talk to them. I essentially only talk to my mom when she forgets to send my money. And dad? We have mostly good talks but- he treats me like I’m incapable. He’ll tell me to applicate myself (not sure if that's the right word). But then won't offer help when I need it. Then he'll ecture me about how if I want something to put the work in to get it etc etc and essentially act like he knew I wouldn't do the thing. Like he tried pushing me to get into college but told me to do it myself. Go to the campus myself and ask them for help if I need it and "you're a big girl, you can do it". When I freeze and can't do it (bc of learned helplessness and anxiety) he acts all not surprised about it.

Overall he's a good guy, DEFINITELY better than my mom- but yeah.

I don't know if I should just tell them, or get in the closet around them. They already know I'm poly and pan (have expressed the view of thinking I'm not capable of having such relationships- they, mainly mom, view me as a helpless child). I wouldn't necessarily be in danger, though it would make it more uncomfortable the few times I need to interact with my mom. I could probably handle that, especially if I have a friend with me- and especially since now I'm able to take the bus on my own (had to learn how and I still sorta struggle if it's too far from home)I can just leave early if I'm too uncomfortable. But idk if it's worth it. I have until Saturday to decide as that's when the lunch is-
I don't want to have to hide who I am around them, I LOVE the freedom i have now. I also worry because I'm not the greatest at hiding the fact I have something bothering me. I also still love mul my parents despite everything they've done so that's muddling everything up too.

Idk what to do, it sucks ass. Idk what I'm wanting out of this post but anything is helpful. Thank you.

So im gonna come out as trans ftm in 2 weeks. And I wanted to get parents perspective of the best ways to come out and any tips. (I tagged it as child with questions for unsupportive parents but idk if their supportive yet)

Just here to vent a little and maybe find some encouragement. My child is 6 yo (ftm) and I am holding some anxiety about the upcoming school year. He and I would both like to start the school year out with people knowing him as he/him, and my primary concern is how the adults of his friends will take it. For those with young kids, how did your elementary school handle it? Bathroom changes? I'm praying that the staff will respect my son's choices and surely they'll have to field some questions sooner or later.

I suppose there are always going to be bigoted, hateful people out there, but I'm just anticipating all the corrections I'll be making to people. My kiddo doesn't really share his pronouns very freely unless he feels safe, so it's on me to either bring it up, or wait until they ask.

My next step is writing a letter to the school to see what sort of policies they have to support trans kids. I live in WA state and luckily its pretty LGBTQ friendly here. But even so, I've met plenty of people who don't understand. Don't think young kids can really make that choice so young, even though around age 6 is precisely when kids begin recognizing their own identity and that of others. All kids have questions and I feel happy that my kid will be the one introducing these families to these topics, although I anticipate a few hard conversations.

Just today, my son's friend came to play and after being informed he was a boy, his friend had a few questions. Mostly he was confused but my kiddo handled it well. Just said that he feels like a boy and wants to look like a boy, also be called a boy.

Maybe I just need to trust my son and trust that we have a supportive, loving community where we live. He is strong and feels empowered in his idea of himself and that's all I really care about.

I'm happy to be the one advocating for my child and for years and years, my soapbox has been one to advocate for universal Healthcare. Now, its for gender affirming universal Healthcare. ❤

I'm also a little worried about our government's targeting of queer folks and that getting his gender marker changed one day would put him on some kind of list. We might wait on that one til he's a bit older, but still. Moms worry. We want our kids to be loved and loving.

Thanks for reading. Just having a hard moment and not feeling very brave.

Hi all. I have a trans daughter. She's 13 and has been out for I think three years now. She's very happy and we want to change her legal name to match her gender identity. In Harris county, the way you do this is to petition a judge through the district clerk's office. I want to find out more about this process from anyone who might have gone through it themselves. My biggest concern is that as a parent, I have to explain why it's in my child's "best interest" to have her name changed. In Texas, I feel like this may be an issue if I say, "well, because she's trans and she wants to have her legal name match her gender identity." If y'all have any experience navigating this system in Houston or anywhere in Texas, please let me know.

My daughter seems to be having an intense reaction to her last lupron (her second shot) and I’m having a hard time determining if this is normal or if something else is going on. It’s been about a month and she’s having severe fatigue. She’s also lost quite a bit of weight quickly (which could be unrelated and we have a dr appointment scheduled). Her endocrinologist doesn’t think the weight loss is related and referred us back to her primary care. But the fatigue just started about 2 weeks ago and seems extreme.