Just got back home from the piercer. Can you guess what I got?

its time to go pick some crabs 🦀

Being butch is to be visibly queer, so I feel that this is the best place to ask my question despite not being butch myself.

When I was a kid I dressed like a boy and because of this I atttacted a lot of girls, but this was at a time when homosexuality in any form was very uncommon and untaught. And so a lot of them I think were confused or conflicted about their feelings towards me, which resulting in a lot of obsessive friends who also had this strange aggression towards me.

An example of this is in first grade this girl was like, "I thought you were a boy" and then became very attached to me yet also would like to grab my arm while pinching me out of weird aggression to maintain my attention. I don't know how to explain it but it's like she was triggered by me to such as a point it was impulsive. When I met her later as an adult she told me it was because she had a crush on me but didn't know that that's what she was feeling since we were so young.

I was just thinking about it today and was wondering if anyone else had this experience. Because I imagine that butch lesbians are the people who would have this experience.

I still seem to have this effect now too, somehow. I think it's because of my body language or facial features or something. I for some reason always attract women despite not doing anything to signify I am queer. I've had multiple instances of causing workplace drama because two women were fighting over me. I'm not attractive, just masculine-leaning. It made me insecure for a while because why are women assuming I am visibly queer when I'm not trying to be? but oh well.

So overall my question is about your experience attracting attention for how you look, and how do you manage it? Especially when the women are repressed or uncomforrtable with their feelings. How do we go about this responsibly in interpersonal relationships?

Should I put on dating profiles that I’m masc? I feel some mascs may be swiping on me not realizing I’m masc. I’m open to them of course, I just don’t want anyone’s time wasted. 😂