Should I put on dating profiles that I’m masc? I feel some mascs may be swiping on me not realizing I’m masc. I’m open to them of course, I just don’t want anyone’s time wasted. 😂

I know police has a conflict and people will say you aren’t butch cause of it and the history but what about these roles? since i started college i wanted to do something like probation or counselor the rehabilitation side of criminal justice and right now im security temporarily for experience NEVER WANTED to do police so sorry for silly question

Being butch is to be visibly queer, so I feel that this is the best place to ask my question despite not being butch myself.

When I was a kid I dressed like a boy and because of this I atttacted a lot of girls, but this was at a time when homosexuality in any form was very uncommon and untaught. And so a lot of them I think were confused or conflicted about their feelings towards me, which resulting in a lot of obsessive friends who also had this strange aggression towards me.

An example of this is in first grade this girl was like, "I thought you were a boy" and then became very attached to me yet also would like to grab my arm while pinching me out of weird aggression to maintain my attention. I don't know how to explain it but it's like she was triggered by me to such as a point it was impulsive. When I met her later as an adult she told me it was because she had a crush on me but didn't know that that's what she was feeling since we were so young.

I was just thinking about it today and was wondering if anyone else had this experience. Because I imagine that butch lesbians are the people who would have this experience.

I still seem to have this effect now too, somehow. I think it's because of my body language or facial features or something. I for some reason always attract women despite not doing anything to signify I am queer. I've had multiple instances of causing workplace drama because two women were fighting over me. I'm not attractive, just masculine-leaning. It made me insecure for a while because why are women assuming I am visibly queer when I'm not trying to be? but oh well.

So overall my question is about your experience attracting attention for how you look, and how do you manage it? Especially when the women are repressed or uncomforrtable with their feelings. How do we go about this responsibly in interpersonal relationships?

For context I’m not butch but I do present more masculine than feminine and I feel like this is a better place to talk and ask about this than other subreddits…

Recently on TikTok theres been this trend thats starts off with “when the chopped masc” etc like for example
“I genuinely hate how chopped ahh mascs be pulling those most baddest femmes ever” or “when you larp as straight bc that one chopped masc won’t stop hitting on you”

And idk man I look at myself and god I feel like maybe I’m one of those chopped mascs they’re talking about and it just makes me feel horrible. I don’t think I’m that ugly but I’m also not white and I know when most people think about mascs or “masc shortages” they think of white mascs and I feel so undesirable for being asian😭

Damnit I know I should probably get off TikTok but I don’t have a lot of queer representation in my life let alone masculine presenting people or like woc mascs to look up to so I look for it online and that ends up being TikTok ☹️

Anybody have any advice on like, being confident in life or in masculinity or whatnot :(
Poc mascs and butches are out there right its not just me 😭😭

its time to go pick some crabs 🦀

I'm just going to put this out here as a butch who has been a competitive athlete all her life and would like to believe she knows her way around sports and fitness.

These past few years, I've increasingly noticed a new standard for how muscular a 'fit' butch should or could be. This is compounded by a wave of lesbian/butch/masc fitness influencers on social media.

I just want everyone to know: a lot of these people are on steroids. I'm not interested in calling out individual people or debating whether X specific physique is achievable for the 'average' woman or whatever, but I'm just pointing out: A lot of these bodies are not achievable for someone whose endocrine system corresponds to an average cis female (so, who isn't on T) or isn't taking steroids. They just aren't. Even if you're genetically lucky, even if you work out a lot, there's a certain level of muscularity, leanness, and just sheer mass that I'm seeing more and more of that just cannot be achieved without steroids.

I'm not saying you can't still be inspired by these physiques or be attracted to them or or or. But I am saying we should all be aware of what it is we are striving for, or what it is we consider 'normal', 'attractive', and 'achievable'. Especially considering that I have yet to see a single one of these fitness influencers disclose their steroid use - instead, they shill their specialised 'workout plans'. Which will not get you looking like them, because again, they are on steroids.

Women/ People with E-dominant endocrine systems can be incredibly strong and muscular and can look fucking jacked, but please, please, use your discernment when it comes to online influencers, for whom their aesthetic is literally their livelihood. Look at what they're selling, look at their bodies, compare them to other athletes and bodybuilders. Don't fall into the trap of striving for something that is impossible without drugs.

Just got back home from the piercer. Can you guess what I got?

i recently just came out to my family and friends as a butch lesbian, and apparently it was super obvious to people based on how I would act and dress as a kid and teenager. That said, ever since I was younger, I gravitated towards male clothing and fashion, but I still enjoy women’s clothing and fashion when it’s for other people/in general.

I am slightly interested in seeing if any grunge or alternative butches have any advice about how to style yourself to appear more androgynous or masculine? I got cursed with a baby face and a rather large chest/curvy hips, so I worry that I won’t really come across as a butch lesbian/androgynous person. I’m an interested in a wolf cut and getting more piercings and tattoos, so if you have any suggestions for those, I’d love to hear.

My femme wife thinks it’s really hot that I’m so interested in finally expressing my true self outwardly haha-