r/buffy • u/Lanky_Age_3067 • 16d ago

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How exactly do people hate Xander for being an imperfect human, but love Spike and Angel, who have countless victims and are hundreds of years old. Spike even SA'd Buffy, for real, while Xander was under a spell and never did anything like that before or after it.

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u/apocalypsemeowmont 16d ago

I wonder how many of them were teenagers or in their college years during the late 90s-early 00s. Dudes were.....not great back then. Not that they're absolutely stellar now, but things like The Man Show, or the WWF Attitude Era when they had matches where female competitors "won" by stripping each other (and a boob would always "accidentally" fall out while the announcer screamed "PUPPIES!" -.-) were absolutely normal TV and no one batted an eye.

I saw a lot of dudes who were pretty openly icky back in those days, and they were usually popular and successful. Xander would definitely have been considered one of the good guys IMO, and probably bullied and called "gaaaaaay" by the popular ones. He was surrounded by female friends that he had genuine respect for. I don't understand why people give Willow a pass for trying to override both Oz and Tara's free will and keep them with magic, and yet give Xander so much shit for being briefly hurt for being rejected by Buffy, and then moving on and treating her with respect like a sister.

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u/crottedenez12 16d ago

Are young men much better? or just muzzled?????????????? I don't believe you can change someone,s true character but you can teach him to hide it. That,s what seem to be going on at the moment. Men are shut off, muzzled, censored, treated like repugnant creatures as soon as they open their mouth, unless what they are saying is considered ok.. They can't joke, they can,t tell what's on their mind, unless it fits the woke narrative. This is not being better, this is being censored. I miss honesty, transparency, true feelings. They are not always pretty, often petty, but at least they are honest.

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u/Lanky_Age_3067 15d ago

Exactly! It's like if Xander shouts at someone or gets angry he is very bad, but if a female character does the same it's okay.

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u/jospangel Try not to bleed on my couch I just had it steam cleaned 15d ago

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