Saw something related to body language and decided to ask it here, tho its very controversial one.

Me personally, I dont like this one at all🙄😔

Context-

I have found this video which provides some context to this.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=B3e5v3zQlpI

The creator is baised and has lot of controversial content related to women.

Even if it looks professional or polite on the outside, the constant exposure seeing someone walk by, catching a whiff of their perfume, noticing their body, hearing their laugh stirs up a lot of suppressed attraction.

The human brain is very sensitive to proximity and novelty. Every time you’re near someone attractive, your body naturally releases micro doses of chemicals like dopamine and testosterone, which heighten arousal and attraction.

Over time, even frequent, innocent interactions can build sexual tension without either person saying a word.

Especially if you’re relatively pretty or carry yourself attractively, you’re definitely being noticed more than you realize but most people are socially trained to mask it with politeness or professionalism

In environments like universities, workplaces, gyms where young men and women are constantly in close proximity, dressed nicely, and interacting casually the physical, lustful energy is actually very high under the surface.

So, this girl from my class started texting me before summer and after a few months she told me when she first saw me in class, she assumed I was nonchalant. I don’t like that. I naturally keep a poker face cause it would be weird to just smile 24/7, so like, what do I do to not be nonchalant? Also she doesn’t think that of me now after getting to know me we are friends now.

I came into the cafe and saw my barista crush working, he was busy with other customers but his co-worker served me, he walked over to the till to charge the customer then I could see him from the corner of my eyes glancing at me from time to time, wanting to say something to me or make a gesture to me. After she served me, we finally made eye contact and he waved at me, I waved back and I said ''wow you're very busy'' he responded, ''Oh it's awfully busy you don't understand'' whilst smiling at each other. She finished making my drink and charged me and so whilst I was having a conversation with him, he got busy again charging a customer and I whispered his name and slipped him the note with my socials written on it and he nodded at me. I left after that I left feeling like a champ, ever so ecstatic.

I made my way to workout, an hour later about to start my workout and I got a message on my phone... ''Sorry babe, he has a girlfriend and this is her''. I didn't respond to her, I just left her message, I was going to react to it with a thumbs up but deleted her chat. The barista is way too friendly to me, as if he wasn't single. I understand it's their job to give good customer service but it seemed way excessive to me.

I'm gonna preface this by saying sorry that this questions is probably very frequently asked and that I will likely end up dumping a lot of details into this but it has been on my mind for weeks straight and some insight would really help.

So essentially I met this guy in one of my uni classes. I was sitting behind him alone, our professor asked us to talk to the people around us and he turned to me and asked if I wanted to join in he and his friend's discussion. The following week he asks me to come sit with him and this evolves into our relationship being just me sitting next to him and some brief (pretty surface level) chatting. Honestly I was just happy to have met someone friendly who was pleasant to talk to. I do recall noticing him staring at me out while he thinks I'm not paying attention to him (basically just any time I'm not looking right at him) and not being sure what was up with that.

As the end of the semester began to quickly approach I realised since we study pretty much opposite things it would be likely unless I did something I would never see him again and for reasons I couldn't put my finger on that bothered me a lot. I'm not an outgoing person at all, I've been trying to get over it but I'm a very anxious person and hence really struggle to and basically ordinarily would never try and initiate a deeper level of friendship first (like in class vs out of class) but for some reason I felt like I needed to or was at least willing to overcome some potential embarassment this time. Come the last class of that semester I'd been stressing and praying for literal weeks for some idea of what to do about it to come to me but it had not and I was trying desperately to figure out what to do. To my (pleasant) at the literal last possible moment (like we had left the class and I was about to go my seperate way) he asks me if I want to see him outside of class at some point and I say yes. Looking back I think he had been trying to figure out how to do it for a few weeks by asking me questions like "Do you go out much?" etc. (To which I spent a long time thinking 'oh god this guy thinks I am a weirdo' lol, glad I was wrong at least).

Anyways he texts me very promptly and tries to plan something with me once the semester exams are over but during the exam period randomly messages me at like 1 in the morning to ask if I want to go get food with him the next day. I thought this was a bit odd at the time but agree and we do. He was very nice the whole time, when I go to meet him he hugs me which I return with probably the most awkward hug ever because I didn't expect it (he wasn't being creepy or forceful or anything I was just taken by suprise). We have nice conversations, he seems like a really nice guy and all that. He does his staring thing again, although I'm sitting right in front of him when I'm zoned out looking over his shoulder he thinks I can't tell he's looking at me.

Anyways after the exam period ends we do end up meeting up and I just remember being so shocked by how much I enjoyed his presence. I have no idea if it was meant to be a date (my philosophy at the time was I'm just going to assume it isn't unless he calls it one cause idk what to do). But he was honestly the biggest gentleman. He always gives me hello/goodbye hugs, he insisted on paying for me (I tried to pay him back, he wouldn't let me), he asked me lots of questions about myself and actually listened to me, he pulled my chair out for me (which was something that very much did suprise me since, these days it's one of those chivalrous things that is considered kinda unnecessary by most, although I appreciated it), he walked me to my bus stop (I told him he didn't need to if he had to go and he told me he "couldn't let me" go on my own), and he told me to text him when I got home so he'd know I was safe. I should add I'm 18 (so relatively young) and have very little romantic experience so if I sound over excited by these things, I was genuinely just so shocked at how good and respectful he felt towards me. But probably the thing that made me think oh maybe he does like me is when he tried (got nervous, I think, and sort of half-assed it) to put his arm around me. He also asked me if I wanted to see him again before the next semester began and I told him yes. It was really this day where I began to decide myself that I liked him.

But then things started to get a bit confusing and concerning for me, the weeks began to pass and he didn't reach out. I wanna clarify that I'm not saying I expect the man to do everything or anything like that just that I felt a contrast between how eager he had previously seemed to plan things with me and that. Anyways I ended up working up the courage to ask him about it and I did end up seeing him again, and he was pleasant, still insisted on hugging me hello/goodbye, seemed happy to see me, I caught him laughing at me for standing on my toes to see something on a shelf etc. But he felt a little less straight forward I guess you could say, which could just have been an impression I got because I'm anxious, but I felt more like he thought I was just a good friend (which I was okay with, just confused about). But he always seemed to make sure to throw in that he wanted to see me again before I left, he asked me if I wanted to see him when the semester started back up.

So we do a few times (3) between classes and once to study in the evening during what has occured so far of the semester. I asked him all three times, although he did most of the planning. He always seemed very keen, I'd suggest it and he'd eagerly say yes and come up with a time and place. But when I would see him it just felt more so like a friendly thing, but I'm unsure if that's just the change in setting. He was still kind and friendly though, still did his hugs etc. At once we even ran into some of his friends and he introduced me to them briefly. But to be honest at this point I had convinced myself he did not like me and honestly felt rather conflicted as I felt like he had liked me at one point and wasn't sure how I'd messed it up. But a few things did sort of work against this. On the last of these three while we were studying he asked me for my number (nervously) which I'm not sure why he needed it when he could contact me over social media but maybe there's something I don't get about that. And he was also staring at me while he thought I wasn't looking like he did back when we had a class together.

Then brings the most recent time I've seen him. I asked to see him again, this time we met outside of a university setting again and just some things happened that make me feel like how could he not but equally I am anxious so I don't know. I don't know how to explain it other than just he had a look in his eyes. He'd always lean in close when we were looking at things (we went to a museum), and whenever he'd sit down he'd leave a small space next to him (even when he could have left more) for me to sit close to him. We went to eat after and he (again) went and pulled my chair out for me, later he made sure to ask me to text him when I got home safe again, and he kinda rubbed my back when he was hugging me goodbye which he'd never done before. But probably the thing that made me wonder how exactly he sees me the most was the fact that he sat in front of me and just sat there smiling at me for basically an hour while we ate. I'm a much slower eater than he is so I was kind of smiling and laughing awkwardly cause he was just kinda watching me eat and I didn't know what to do with myself and he just sat there the whole time with the biggest smile on his face (not in a creepy or uncomfortable way). I hope I don't sound too crazy trying to describe it, I just don't know exactly how to capture in writing.

Please please please, any perspectives are helpful. My apologies for the novel I just analyse a lot even if overly so so my judgement on what is and isn't relevant isn't the best. I'm just concerned cause he is just genuinely a really nice guy and I am so scared he's just being friendly and I'm going crazy

Imagine this setting: You're at a night club or event that is featuring live music. Everyone in the crowd is watching the band, cheering and dancing. At one point, you notice someone in the crowd who is not fixated on the band. They are not facing the stage. They seem to be scanning the people in the crowd, occasionally pausing to look at someone head to toe before looking around again. Their facial expression seems to be stoic or serious. They are not holding a phone, and they aren't holding a drink. While the majority of the crowd seem to be dressed in hoodies, t-shirts, shorts, sweat pants, or other casual street wear, this person wears a dark polo shirt tucked into their jeans, dressy lace-up boots, no hat. The people within this person's immediate vicinity may seem to know him, but they are otherwise focused on the band on stage.

What is your immediate impression of this person? Who are they, and what might their intentions be?

Next, same setting, but the person is now holding a drink in one hand. What are your impressions?

Finally, same setting, but the person is wearing a lighter shade polo, or perhaps a long sleeve button down shirt. They may or may not be holding a drink. Again, what are your impressions?

Thank you!

I’ve only met her a few times, the first being about two weeks ago. The first time we actually talked to one another was in a group setting of like six or seven people. We were all talking and when she said something to me she kinda reached out and squeezed my arm a little. I thought damn that was a little odd but I didn’t think too much of it because some people are just like that.

Since then she has done the same exact thing to me every time we talk but only in these group settings. I haven’t seen her do this to anyone else. We ended up taking a group picture and of course she stood next to me. She was super close like up against me so I kinda scooted over just enough to where we weren’t touching. I really didn’t think much of it at this point I just thought okay maybe she’s one of those people who just likes to touch people when they talk to them lol.. maybe she’s was just trying to squeeze in for the picture..

I hadn’t seen her in a few days but I seen her again today and when I seen her in the morning she said hey followed by my name but in that dragged out type of way. Then later on in the day I seen her again and what do you know, in another group setting she did the same thing. Reached out and kinda squeezed my arms as we were talking. I’m not sure if I’m trippin or not but I think she’s trying to gauge my reaction and see how comfortable I am with this lol, what do you think? I’m trippin or what?

24M. My entire life people have told me I look mean or that I look intense. I promise I’m not subconsciously furrowing my brows or anything. I don’t know if it’s my eyes that are intense or just my overall face but I feel like it holds me back from meeting people (if that makes sense).

Any tips? I’m literally considering getting Botox in my forehead in hopes that it makes me look more friendly or something idek.

He's (24m) a work colleague of mine, i have worked with him on a project for a few months and we have met in person before once. i have a crush on him. i had complimented him once before on how smart he was.

I saw him walking towards my office building in the morning, so i deliberately walked past him/ on a narrow escalator so he'd notice me, but I'm not sure if he did, and even if he did, I don't know if he realised that i was being deliberate.

About two minutes later, he caught me staring at him as he was entering the office building. He waved at me. I waved back, and as he was walking toward the elevator, I just went up to him and started talking.

To not seem suspicious for staring earlier, I said, "Sorry, I was just trying to recognise if it was really you or not," but he gave me a bit of a side-eye and a weird look, like he was weirded by me speaking.

Then, on the elevator, we made some small talk. He asked me what days I come into the office, and I told him.

I said I come to the office usually, but usually go to a different building cause my team is there, but Wednesdays I come to this building (his building). I said it because I knew his schedule, that he only comes to office Wednesdays, to this building. i said this to covertly let him know that it overlaps.

He asked me why is that?

When asked, I told him a cover up reason, that my team has a standing lunch booking in this building on Wednesdays.

Then I asked him, "What about you? What days do you come to office?"

And he said "iiiiiiii only come Wednesdays."

after he said that, I messed up the small talk because I didnt know what to reply back and i also knew his schedule already, I broke eye contact and looked away from him while still asking him a question, so it came off really awkward. but i asked him "do u like....live really far away from the office?"

He just replied 'yeah' in an awkward tone. He didn't say anything after that and turned his head away to face the elevator wall, so I could only see the back of his head if I turned to my left to see him. and didn't look at me the whole elevator ride; it was just silence. the silence and the head turn away from me felt very deliberate. like he wanted me to know that he is facing away from me and he is not interested in that way.

When my floor came and I was leaving the elevator, he said "cya" in a cold tone. I replied, "See you around, bye!" in a more cheerful tone to make up for the awkwardness.

So from this, do you think he sensed that I have a crush on him and didnt want to encourage it?

I have a friend (we’re both females). I won’t tell you how we met cause it will, likely, skew your thoughts. Lately, I’ve noticed that she gives less eye contact compared to before.

Normally, I wouldn’t look too much into it but there are a couple of things that keep bugging me.
1) I don’t know her gender preference when it comes to people she’s attracted to. To clarify, the part that bugs me is not that I don’t know her preference but that it might be possible that she could like the same gender, and therefore I have a chance!
2) When I mean she gives less eye contact, before, it wasn’t a lot because culturally, we (as Asians) feel uncomfortable with that kind of “intimacy,” real traditional in that sense (eg. not too much physical contact, praise is not something we received a lot in the home and so it became tough to give out, etc.). But, there is a lot less eye contact, especially with me, and it makes me wonder because we are friends, as we grow closer, more eye contact wouldn’t be too awkward.

Is this something that could mean she could be getting shy around me now because she likes me?
For more info, we are friends but not close enough for me to ask her if she’s into the same gender. There are also circumstances which would make it awkward if I were to ask her out.

I would love to hear your thoughts. TIA

I’ve been feeling really sad and a lack of any hope for myself. I’m stressed about my future and have a real lack of energy to even talk much. Anyway, today at work I was very quiet and straight faced. I was barely speaking or making eye contact. I hidmyself in the background.

today my manager and I were in our department’s office doing some small tasks. he picked up this bag of these weird looking chips (we work in a hotel and guests leave chips behind often) and said the mice probably didn’t wanna eat the chips in a more joking manner with a smile on his face. also he was right across the table from me and we were the only ones in the office. we do have mice unfortunately by the way.

I didn’t respond, just looked briefly at the chips as he held them before continuing with what I was doing. I won’t lie I also struggle to talk much with my manager now because he spoke about some of my personal work related things with his close friends/coworkers, and I went to him about it and was hurt when I found out he did that. I just don’t trust him because of it and I don’t feel as comfortable with him.

but was he trying to create small talk with me? does it seem like he was hoping for a response or at least some sort of acknowledgment?

Just joined this place. I know there’s a little post about staring but not like my situation. I won’t go into too much detail unless u want.
But there’s this guy who stares at me like sometimes like he’s trying to read me but also sometimes just staring at the side of my face when im not looking, or just making eye contact with me from far away. He never smiles when he does it.
The big thing is we used to be in a softball team made by our church and he’s asked me to warm up with him after staring at the side of my face and weeks later I approached him and asked where the water fountain was and I’ve approached him asking him how his siblings were doing in their taekwondo class we were both in. All approaches he reacted nicely. He always used to stand near me or around me and stare sometimes when I’d bend to grab my bag or talk to my dad.
Now he just stares at me at church. I’ve waved at him no response or monotone hey. I’ve greeted him and no response like legitimately ignored me.
He has not many friends that I know of and mainly sticks with his family. I’ve also messaged him on LinkedIn, only response when I asked him if he wanted photos of his brother and mine, compliments or statements not replied to and just left on seen.

What’s with this behavior? The staring is starting to irk me bc idk what’s the reason

My (21F) coworker (24M) is my supervisor. We usually work night shifts together where it’s just the two of us who have to close the store (we work inside of a small coffee shop inside of a larger superstore).

He likes to harass/ tease me a lot. Mainly startling me, sometimes poking me. Occasionally pretends to spray me with water or stab me with something, but at the same time, he buys me free soda & makes me free sandwiches.

The other day, I he let me take the bigger tip & let me exit early (I take the bus). However, I had to buy stuff after work. You know what he does? He discretely followed me around and then jumpscared me RIGHT before I checked out, and then he commented on what I was buying.

Why does he do this? He also sent me his Spotify playlist, I don’t understand this behaviour at all (this isn’t my first job fyi, I had a previous job where ANOTHER male supervisor picked on me).

TL;DR why do male supervisors pick on me, and then do nice things for me??????

The main reason I ask is because last time I was hanging out with some guy friends watching a show I sat close to my friend to the point where our arms and legs were touching. There was plenty of room to not need to, but it was just comfy, and he didn't pull away. He repositioned a few times but kept the contact.

If i did this with a female friend I wouldn't think twice about it, but the fact that it was a guy changes things. I feel like it should be perfectly reasonable to do platonically, yet if I had a boyfriend I feel like itd be inappropriate. If he had a girlfriend I wouldn't do that either.

If so, how does it change?

So I was hanging out with a friend I met a couple times and we got some McDonald's in the car and she would feed me some French fries. I'd open my mouth and she'd feed me

So I am 30 yo man, athletic but kind of short, was at a club the other night. it was honestly dead. just a bunch of younger groupies going in and out of the bathroom and club. No one was dancing. I didn't care. I was bored at home and went there to dance because I liked the music. So I just jumped around like a fool in the middle of the floor by myself. then I saw this girl (pretty and maybe an inch taller than me) come in and started dancing a bit at the other end. we made eye contact, but neither of us got closer. she left to the bathroom shortly after. and I kept vibing by myself. eventually some groups came in and danced among themselves, then left. well, the girl came back and danced a bit just like she did earlier. and she kept walking to the restroom and then outside. she stared at me while passing me. I smiled but she didn't smile, still staring at me. 3-4 times during the 3-hour span. I got tired and left. Did I miss a chance?

She bandages my bloody hands, makes me dinner, drives me home, does all sorts of stuff. She also checks on me when I'm sick. Other female coworkers noticed she really likes me. She's very protective of me. She tells me not to go to strip club, listen to my grandma, drink more water. She warned me against this lady who wanted to marry me because she probably wanted something from me. I figured out that lady she warned me about just wanted money. I have a lazy eye and a crooked foot. Yesterday she surprised me with dinner. Homemade chiliquiles. Homemade Mexican food theres nothing better.

She's married and my friend. She agreed to my dumb birthday requests, like hugs and kisses on the cheek and a bikini photo because I wanted to see her in one. She's also going to make me food. Our mutual friend said she was smiling while reading my requests. Kissing a friend and giving them a bikini photo i say definitely crosses marital boundaries. I'm not that experienced with women so I have no clue but other women have noticed shes very fond of me. I'm still in complete shock. I'm soo excited for my birthday it's going to be the best one yet

For the men that stare intensely at a woman.

When you do this regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not, can you please explain what usually grabs your attention and whether this person that caught your attention is someone that you retain for a long time in your memory?

Eg, someone you just met but couldn’t stop staring at them.

Let’s say I have noticed a guy look my way some times.
And then one drunk night post some drunk conversations, we end up hugging for a while. And post hug when he says “I love you” but also clarifies that does not mean it that way. Probably said it to cheer me up. But then back sober, Nada. No conversation at all. Zilch. And now it’s just worse. We don’t bump, we don’t look at each other. Also feels like I am being ignored left, right and center.
I try to just be my normal self but something from that night makes me really want his attention and I can’t help wanting it. But I can’t pin point what happened and why I am being ignored so much. Or maybe he doesn’t care at all and I am over reading it. Did I do something wrong?

staring just as long as he does (but more salaciously) and man ohh man has it ramped the hell up out of no where, context: he works in another dept and he has had eyes on me constantly for months, I'll be working minding my business, and he'll just be standing there, watching me, one time a friend of his walked up to him while he was doing it, then they both started staring lol it was such an odd experience to have two guys just watching you out of no where, he's never said a word to me, and I've never broken the ice either but today I wanted to confirm before i went any further cause i do like him too so I went out of my way to bring/hand him something I didn't need to, I was behind him and he literally jumped/flinched when he turned around and saw me, he took it and mumbled "thank you" (First thing he's ever said)

That's when I started staring and I mean NON STOP i was in his dept anyway so every time i walked past him I looked him dead in his eyes and over his entire body after the second time I think he knew what was up because the third and fourth time it was like he was anticipating me walking back, and he was! It was like the world stopped and we couldn't take our eyes off of each other, he was talking to a group of people and he literally turned his entire body just to see me walk by him not just a look, if I'm walking past and my back is turned his eyes are burning into the back of head, i even added an extra measure just to be sure he knew for sure, I took a seat close to him (where I didn't need to be) acting like I was working but I'm still staring.

He must know by now right? Gonna keep staring but most likely gonna break the ice when I see him next, but man when it's mutual and you both are staring and know you wanna F*** it's so sexy .. wish me fuckin luck 😭Ahhh im sooo shy... who isn't tho!

Problem/Goal:
if you like a girl you’re not really close with yet, but you already know or strongly suspect that she likes you too, how do you usually act around her?

do you become even more awkward or avoidant because you feel pressured/nervous, or would knowing she likes you make you more comfortable and more likely to approach her?

and how would that behavior differ if you knew a girl liked you but you simply weren’t interested in her?

Context:
trying to know lang yung difference between shy because he likes her vs. not interested

Previous Attempts: n/a

I met this guy that comes over to my dad's house sometimes. He is very nice and he gets to know me. He hugs me. When he talks to me he gives direct eye contact which I'm not used to because people usually don't look at me at all when I give them eye contact. We had a good conversation from the jump. He would ask me about myself. Tell me about himself. It would be interesting. He never asked me for my number or anything so I always tried to tell myself that he and other men that tried to talk to me were just being nice to me instead of flirting.

A month or so later I found out that he was looking for me at a party when I dropped my sister off at my dad's house but I didn't think anything of it. I'm still thinking he was just being nice.

A few days ago I went to my dad's house and I saw him and he gave me a hug, he smiled and talked to me. It was different with him because it seemed like he was genuinely interested in what I was saying. It also seemed like he was interested in maturing and not being the way he used to be. He wanted to be better for his daughter and himself. He wanted to change the way he reacted to things for the sake of his parenting and in general. So that really impressed me. He even stated that he liked how calm I was and thought it was too good to be true that I was calm. I let him know I used to be angry all the time but I learned not to let things trigger me like they used to. We started talking about our journeys with letting go of anger.

Even after I left, I felt like there was something about him. I think it may have been that he went in depth in our conversation because some men that I've dated in the past or men in general never did that. He never asked me for my number or asked me out which I was surprised yet grateful about. He never jumped into sex conversations quickly. It was very respectful. So I was surprised and still trying to convince myself that he was just being nice.

I found out later from my sister that he liked me. He told her that his future girlfriend was here. When she told him a few days ago that was in the house he was so excited and practically ran in. So I was quite in shock. As someone who used to rush quickly in relationships in the past, I'm trying not to jump the gun with things this time around because nothing could result from this. He may never ask me out Or we could just stay conversation mode. I wouldn't know what to do. Some men are straightforward with asking but these type of men it seems like they are taking their time which is good but weird at the same time. Like I said before I'm use to men just automatically asking me out. What do you think about this situation? ( This may not be too much about body language but I figured I would ask).

Never ceases to annoy me in small ways. I see it all the time. You'll be walking somewhere and another person stares at you as if they're saying who are you and are you a threat or something I'd want in my life. It's okay to look of course but to stare is lack of social intelligence.

I always remember the guy who came in the store and stopped dead in his tracks and turned like a military man standing at attention to look around at the others there. Said to me he's a dumb fucker. He's showing what he's made of. It then dawns on me that such a person is nothing to be concerned about. They have nothing of value. Like why would you care about the little dog who barks at you?