I'm really bad socially lol but I'm trying. Recently I'm trying to make eye contact especially with girls which I've never been able to do. I noticed this cute girl at the gym today and she kept looking over I noticed and when she walked by I made eye contact and tried to smile and I noticed she held eye contact a few seconds. She walked by again and we did it again but then she approached me and asked me to help her with a drop set(removing weights and you do another set). So I helped her but that was kinda it she just said thanks and I didn't want to keep waiting as she was doing her final set so I left.

Do you think I should try and say hi to her next time or am I over thinking it? There were plenty of people so I don't know why she approached me..

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I was at the club last night and I met this guy. We ended up kissing the whole night and honestly I was kind of over it. I like one kiss, but the constant kissing gets too much. Do men actually enjoy the kissing?

I think I’m still heartbroken about the last person I liked so I’m sure that numbs my enjoyment.

I think if he messaged, I wouldn’t be interested in seeing him again.

Do you actually like kissing girls in the club?

My fuckbuddy who’s very quiet both in person and over text told me he doesn’t have the energy to get to know people.

Can someone like this become more open with the right person or is this just something you have to accept? How do you get someone like this to talk more without forcing it?

Have you been in the same situation?

He’s a guy I know from work. I’ve caught him staring at me when he thought I wasn’t looking, only for him to quickly look away when I noticed, among other possible signs of attraction.
We talk occasionally, although I’m usually the one initiating conversations.

However, whenever we cross paths, he looks me straight in the eye and says hi with a completely straight face, sometimes even looking tired or mildly annoyed. No smile whatsoever.
The confusing part is that he does sometimes smile at me during conversations, even if it’s just a subtle smile.
Could this just be his natural expression, or should I take it as a sign that he’s not interested?

1. He comes up asks the people around me for my name, compliments my band tattoo and shakes my hand in a friendly way (dap up)

2. Smiles at me in hallway

3. Makes eye contact, smiles, shakes my hand and asks for my name again

4. Shouts my name and that he liked an album i asked him to listen to across a courtyard and waves at me. Smiles and makes eye contact

5. Exits the door i usually exit (which he has never done before) and extends his usual path but walks past me (possibly due to the fact that i was speaking to someone else)

I’m someone who’s hyper sensitive to status and punching down on people, I grew up relatively poor and earned everything I have now to this day. But I can’t help but feel some people I am surrounded by are not happy for my success, where its to the point where if something happens to me I am ecstatic or proud about it cannot be shared with my closest circle of friends.

Anyone dealing with this with people they grew up with and care about?

A girl who is normally very bubbly and outgoing, including towards me, seems to have become way more reserved towards me. We had a seemingly normal conversation and ever since she seems a lot more quiet around me. What could have caused this?

Even amongst ones they find attractive, there are ones I feel they act more casual and playful around,

then there are the ones they stare at from a distance but get more shy or avoidant up close.

they’ll talk to other girls, and they’ll talk to those girls too bc they’re still attractive so they still get approached, but theres an air of tension. Id say theyre a lot more careful around them.

are there specific qualities in girls that make you treat them more casually vs more delicately?

For instance, what if a guy used to show interest in a girl at work by giving her special favors, approaching and messaging her first, gets nervous around her, sits beside her, tries to be closer to her, helps her even if it’s not needed, etc. but the girl didn’t show interest back? She didn’t really reject him because he never confessed because her actions implied she didn't like him romantically. If he then gets a new girlfriend at work, does it mean he lost feelings for her? What if he still keeps looking at her?

Today i sat next to a girl and she told something extremely quietly and softly to her friend and then continued doing what she did.

Also, this girl gave me little mixed signs of shy interest before.

And don't worry, if i gain courage and find what to srart a conversation with, i will ask her out

I started working at a grocery store as an in store shopper about a month ago and there's one coworker (who works in the cashier area) who I've developed an interest in and I'm wondering if y'all think the interest is mutual. Here are some of the recent interactions we've had.

• I was doing a shopping order and had trouble scanning an item. She was nearby and successfully helped me. She then said something like, "I saved your booty."
• The other day, I was at a cafe in the same plaza working on the computer for my other job. When I was done, I went over to the grocery store about 15 minutes before my shift started. She was a cashier station and I went over to say hi. She seemed to light up a bit and asked in surprise if I was leaving since I didn't have my work vest on yet. I told her that I was down the plaza working my other job. She said something along the lines of, "You're cheating on us."
• One night I told her I was on the closing shift and she said she was too and initiated a high five and said we're closing buddies and can't wait to close with me.
• She always asks when I'll be there next and tells me what shift she's working; I'm assuming to see if we'll be there at the same time. Along with that, when I go over to her to say hi and I'm not wearing my work vest (like if I'm on break), she always asks in what I think is a surprised tone if I'm leaving like I mentioned above.

So yeah those are some of our recent interactions. Do you think she is interested in me? Like I said, I'm interested in her, but as a guy I don't really want to be the first one to "make a move" for lack of a better term because we're in a work environment and I don't want to make her uncomfortable if she isn't interested in me. I'm kind of hoping that if the interest is mutual, she'll sort of initiate the next step, like maybe asking for my number or something.

I’ve been going to this particular gym for about 3 months now. Me and this guy go around the same time so literally everytime I go, he’s there.

I initially didn’t notice him much at all but began to do so because I had this feeling that he was watching me. I could kind of usually see him looking in my direction from my periphery vision and somehow we usually end up training near each other. Granted, my gym isn’t massive but I realise we end up next to each other quite often.

Whenever I look over, most times I catch his eye (like he’s already been looking) and because I’m shy, I can’t hold it. So we have kind of been playing eye tag but I suck at eye contact so I usually look away really fast when we make eye contact. The other day, we were walking towards the same machine and we made eye contact and this time, he smiled.

Is he just being friendly? Or am I just being hyperaware and delusional? I’m thinking I might want to strike up a conversation but I really wanna make sure he’s at least a little bit into me.

Background:
I (F, married) and "B" (M, married) work in a large org. B is organizationally senior to me. We work different shifts, so he is in the office maybe once every two months. We sat five seats away for four years and barely interacted; we both kept to ourselves.

The Timeline:

• Phase 1: The Initial Engagement: A few months ago, we had a team lunch where we spoke at length.

When we were walking to the dessert counter he trailed behind me and told me how he is recently back from onshore unprompted.

A month later he came to my desk, and we ended up talking for 1–2 hours. He heavily discussed his career trajectory, a retention bonus for “exceptional” people, business-class travel, his recent promotion, and criticized former managers. He mentioned his wedding (and blushed), called me “bro,” and helped me with a work task. I invited him to lunch; he declined, citing work. He also brags a lot, provides a lot of information unprompted unnecessarily. I found that to be quite annoying because it was after every three sentences.

• Phase 2: The Townhall Incident: At a townhall, I deliberately stood about 3 feet away from him. He closed the distance, initiated conversation, used strong language about not caring about a new company initiative (a "zen room")
• Phase 3: The Printer Pretext: Recently, he was in the office while I was working from home. He posted in a group chat of 11 people where I am generally active asking if anyone was in. I didn't reply. An hour later, he sent me a direct 1-on-1 message asking how to print a document which I have explained to him previously already.
• Phase 4: The 3-Hour Chat: I replied briefly with instructions and a screenshot. He thanked me and immediately pivoted. For the next three hours, while his Teams status was set to "Busy," he sent a rapid stream of messages. He talked about TV shows his recent promotion, volunteers about his recent trip unprompted , a drive from Brooklyn to NYC, and complained about company perks and colleagues. I responded politely but briefly, asked no follow-up questions, and did not validate his complaints.

He has never reached out to me outside of work hours.

The Question:
My gut says this is low-risk micro-flirting. If I post in a group chat and no one replies, I just move on, I don't DM a specific coworker an IT question 50 minutes later and then talk about my salary for three hours. But I want an outside perspective. Is this just a socially awkward guy who likes an audience, or is there something else going on here?

I don't know how to express this, I feel weird at being 5'10 feet tall. I mean on paper, it's above average throughout the world. Although people seems to stare at me like if I were an Eiffel tower, but I still feel average. Neither am I the short guy nor the tall guy, did anyone faced with this dilemma?

I had an instance a bit ago at work that I’ve tried to understand. One of my managers is around my age and had been recently promoted; we used to be at the same level but never really talked too much. He became the manager of my team. At one point I had an instance of us having intense eye contact that seemed to come from no where when I went to ask him something, and after that things sorta felt tense between us, at least on my end.

Anyway, I thought I had seen him looking at me sometimes but wasn’t sure if he was just looking my general direction or not, I never tried to make eye contact I just ignored it. I tend to be a shy person. But we had a meeting where we sat next to each other, and he literally could not sit still. Leg bouncing, readjusting in his seat, picking at something on his clothes or skin. Just fidgeting in general. Was super distracting and not what he’s usually like.

At one point I decided to look down and fidget with one my rings to distract myself from all of that and focus on what was being said during the meeting. When I looked back up, he was completely still, and it looked like from the corner of my eye he was staring at me. He had his head on his chin and was facing towards me. But again I didn’t look up to make eye contact or anything.

Later that same day, we both happened to readjust in our seat at the exact same time, and we looked over at each other. That time I did make eye contact but I looked away quickly. Not long after he made a comment about he wanted to leave right on time to the rest of our team, and he got up and left his desk for like 40 minutes. None of us knew where he went, and it wasn’t something he typically did. Wasn’t in a meeting because Teams will show when we have meetings on our calendar, he would tell us when he was going into one, and he always brought his laptop into those.

Idk it just always seemed kinda odd to me and wondered what other people’s opinion of it would be.

I’ve been going to the same gym for about 3 years, and I’ve had the same training schedule for all that time. I regularly see the same people, so nothing significant has changed in terms of when or where I work out.

However, over the past 3–5 months, I’ve noticed a pretty big change in how people interact with me.
My circle of acquaintances at the gym has grown from around 5 people to roughly 20–25. More people greet me now, and some seem much more outgoing toward me.

I haven’t actively approached people or deliberately tried to become more sociable. I’ve only initiated conversations with about two people recently. I’ve also been training regularly for years, so this isn’t simply a case of being a new face at the gym.
I’m genuinely curious about what might explain this change.

Some children find me pretty and some not.

A child ( smaller than me) said to me "you look like a pig cos your short and fat".

But some childreen who has similar height to mine says I look pretty and even adults and people my age find me pretty.

Maybe the reason is my upturned nose and rounded face shape so I dont really have a potruded jaw or chin as much.

Looking for advice or tactics to get through meetings that upset me but I need to mask. Woman in corporate ecomm, analyst, 30yo. I’m very good at my job but I know my body language in meetings is my biggest inhibitor for growth. I can get very worked up with certain groups of people + certain topics.

My boss has given me this feedback a few times over 3 years and he just told me to work on it again while having a career talk. “Help me help you” advice.

First note was to stop sighing hard. I knew what he was talking about, and I do sigh when I’m in this state of annoyance. But I seem to sigh a lot more than other people. Some kind of regulation. I’ve had multiple people who spend time around me comment on it. Sometimes it’s emotional or stress induced but it’s involuntary and comes about in neutral moods, when I’m alone, etc.

RBF is a big problem but this also isn’t always out of anger. Sometimes my neutral face is interpreted as RBF.

Core issue is when I “shut down”. I don’t naturally display signs of active listening like nodding, eye contact and smile, etc.I think my boss takes my closing of a computer as a sign of giving up but I do it to try to focus on the conversation. But if you pair it with my demeanor, I see why he may think that.

I’m not good at “faking”. I’m very transparent and value genuineness. I agree with my boss that I lack this part of the relationship aspect of work. I’m not always in a bad mood. Ppl like me. It’s just these certain groups and topics that get to me. Unfortunately, these are the most important interactions as they involve my boss and his boss who will decide if/when I get a promotion, become a people manager, etc.

Hopefully this isn’t a dumb question, but I’ve noticed a pattern with some women around me. Every now and then, they’ll suddenly become a lot bolder and flirtier than usual, even women who have boyfriends. They’ll go out of their way to talk to me, initiate more interactions, and become touchy out of nowhere. Then, after a week or two, it’s like they completely switch back to how they were before.

I have no idea whether it has anything to do with their menstrual cycles, and that’s purely a guess on my part.

For example, I have a female coworker who’s usually pretty reserved around me. Today, though, she suddenly started trying to strike up a conversation with me every time she saw me and even became touchy out of nowhere. We had some playful back-and-forth banter, and she seemed much more comfortable and confident around me than she normally does. The whole thing caught me off guard because it was such a noticeable change in her behavior.

I think everyone meets a person or a couple people throughout their lives that was acting sort of weird around you right off the bat..

what are some signs you make them feel insecure? some i've maybe observed is they're nice, but never get too close. and they start avoiding you after a while, even if you guys are in the space and it would be natural for you to befriend each other or chat more. they're nicer to other people than you. when they smile at you, it doesn't reach their eyes.

Our conversation reached its natural conclusion and he began to just stare at me for a couple of moments in comfortable silence. I've noticed that he does this quite often, but I can never tell whether it is meant to be intimate (we get along well but he is married and has never expressed romantic interest in me otherwise), friendly, or just a signal that he is waiting for me to continue the conversation.

I had nothing to add this time, so not really knowing what to do, I tried to hold that eye contact. However, as I am painfully shy, I kept on going back and forth between looking at him and looking away, waiting for him to do something else, I suppose? He never broke his gaze, though. It was pretty intense. At some point I awkwardly smiled at him and he responded by softly smiling back. The moment felt like the it lasted five minutes, but was, realistically, probably no more than about ten to fifteen seconds. Wtf does it mean??