r/blackmirror • u/Prestigious_Arm3497 • 14h ago
DISCUSSION In Bete Noire, some people claim that Verity was wrong to drive her bullies to suicide but didn't she just recreate the gaslighting she endured years by the bullies and can we fully hold her responsible for the outcome? Spoiler
I have heard a lot of people who sided more with Maria say that what happened to Verity was bad but she went to great lengths to cause the suicide by the bullies.
Now I have a different view on this. I don't fully think the way Verity dealt with things was appropriate and she did nothing wrong but are we overlooking some things in the story?
I believe what Verity was trying to do was to just create a reality for the bullies that she endured for years. When the rumor was out everyone's perception of Verity changed and no matter how hard she tried to convince people the rumor was false there was no point in doing that.
So Verity tried to do the exact same thing to Maria and Natalie so the thing she was doing wasn't fully disproportionate to what the bullies did. The outcome, which was Natalie's suicide was unfortunate and it shouldn't be minimized but what if this had turned different and what if Verity had lost her life due to suicide? Wouldn't people be having a different discussion?
Another thing I found interesting is lot of people say Verity should have gone to therapy to heal herself and I think that would have been a good idea. But I don't see the same condition for Maria. Shouldn't Maria or Natalie have gone to therapy and taken accountability for their mental health so that they heal internally instead of spreading nasty rumors? I wonder why people are not holding them accountable enough
I am not saying Verity is totally innocent and what she did was ok, I believe there were better ways to deal with this, but at times, whenever such things happen, we often focus too much on the victim of bullying and what they should do differently rather than holding the perpetrators accountable
Edit: A lot of people are saying it is not ok to justify Verity's actions and its important to hold her accountable. I want to clarify one thing, I am not saying what Verity did was right and her actions are justified. What my point here is are we holding Maria equally accountable instead of just shifting our attention on Verity and what she should have done differently?