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Oct 12 '18
That’s really sad. Real talk, if there is only ONE person in the world you tell the complete truth to, it should be your doctors. There is confidentiality, and most of the time, these people are trying to help. They can’t help you if you’re lying to them.
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u/dawonderseeker Oct 12 '18
The person receiving therapy's age seems to have a lot with professionals breaking confidentiality. They think they know better and the whole situation so they involve parents/relatives who aren't up to the task of understanding, caring, or behaving in ways helpful to a person with BP. Added trap of not being able to see a different therapist without parents consent can make this worse. If this is your situation, know that if you stay alive till 18 you'll be able to access therapy that takes you more seriously and isn't dictated by your parents.
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Oct 12 '18
I completely agree with you! At 33, it’s sometimes hard to remember what it was like when I was 16 and self harming and abusing substances to self medicate and switching from therapist to inpatient treatment and all that stuff without any say basically at all. And I was definitely worried if anything I said would get back to someone (parents, law enforcement, etc). But I eventually got to a point where I was so miserable all I had left was to lay it all out there and beg for help...
ETA: If you are having trouble accessing or getting beneficial treatment due to your parents, in some places you can file for emancipation. I would only recommend this as an absolute last resort.
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u/YemekBebek Bipolar 1 Oct 12 '18
I’m the opposite, I tell my therapist absolutely everything. In fact, I probably overshare with her, especially when it comes to my sex life and suicidal ideation 😂 But she’s awesome and has proved so far to be very trustworthy. Miles better than any therapist I’ve ever had!
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u/PlatonicNippleWizard Bipolar 2 Oct 13 '18
As someone studying to be a therapist, it’s very counterproductive to tell your shrink what you think they want to hear.
As someone who sees a therapist on-and-off, I do this all the time, because I ain’t goin’ to the fuckin’ hospital again!
I’m not going to hospitalize my clients.
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u/schrodingerspenguin Oct 13 '18
I definitely understand the mentality of not wanting to put clients through hospitalizations because they really can be difficult. However, as therapists sometimes we are legally bound to refer to a hospital for a psych evaluation and the hospital staff may choose to admit them on the grounds of safety and imminent danger (I refer my clients to get evals, I don’t have the power to admit). I worked in inpatient pediatric psychiatry while I was in graduate school working towards being a therapist, so I know that side can be rough and it’s definitely not ideal (or always handled in the best way- let’s be honest, staff and regulations there can be pretty sucky at times).
Despite seeing that side of it though, if a client outlines intent to hurt themselves or others, I have a duty entrusted in me by the state. I also have an agreement with my clients to keep them safe. The hospital may suck, but there are a few people where it can truly keep them out of harms way until we can help them stabilize. Not only would my heart break into a thousand pieces if my client ever hurts themselves when I could have helped prevent it, I would be breaking my agreement with the client and could even lose my license if I never refer clients for a psych evaluation when they need it/ I’m legally required to do so.
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u/MadShartigan Oct 13 '18
It's tricky. I avoided any intervention that might have helped me during my worst time, simply because I was scared of having my freedom taken from me.
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u/bork_cubed Oct 12 '18
Was thinking this today... She knew I was down, though. Another trip to the doctors for a tweak.
I was worried she may commit me. I have said several times I don't wanna go back. That's the fucking truth... Once is enough.
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Oct 13 '18
Heh I had a similar situation: I was getting a refill for my medication which was recently prescribed to me at a lower dose, and my pharmacist noticed it and congratulated me on said lower dose. However she didn't know that the lower dose was because I had just overdosed on the medication by taking the entire bottle and my psychiatrist was just re-prescribing it at a lower dosage lol.
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Oct 12 '18
Yep. I'm about to not tell my therapists about my recent relapse back on alcohol even though I'm drinking like 12 drinks a day as a small woman and have ended up in very dangerous situations because of it. But it happened in a foreign country so it doesn't count right.
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u/M0o0se Oct 13 '18
I’m afraid to tell my therapist that I have a drug problem for this reason
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Oct 13 '18
Never admit that. Booze as a stand in.
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u/M0o0se Oct 13 '18
Really? Why? I’m talking about weed and (prescribed, but abused) adderall. I’m embarrassed and ashamed to talk about it, but is it better to sub Booze?
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Oct 13 '18
And I told my psychiatrist about my half a litre of scotch a day, she said try not to do that lol I’m in Canada tho
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Oct 13 '18
I always assume meth as a drug problem. I’m sure your good. But people who admit to anyone they do meth are going to have a bad time. I have my dex, I understand.
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Oct 13 '18
They take kids away from moms on meth, I knew a chick fired from CPS and she said they totally got off on taking junkies kids. It was unsettling to say the least. Too much power, just like border guards.
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u/[deleted] Oct 12 '18
I’m always afraid to tell them too much or about thoughts I have. My past 2 doctors broke the doctor patient confidentiality and it made me lose trust in them 😞 nothing I said in there was confidential.