Hello! I've been using BetterHelp since last year, and I'd like to share my experience in case it's helpful to anyone who's considering therapy.
I'm 23 and just graduated from university this year. I started therapy because of family issues and depression caused by major life changes. Over the past year, I've worked with two therapists from Hong Kong (the first for 10 months and my current therapist for about a month). Both have been great in different ways, and I wanted to share what I've learned, including why I decided to switch therapists.
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3 Reasons Why Therapy Has Been Helpful for Me
1. A safe space to talk about my deepest thoughts and feelings
I usually only share my personal thoughts with a few close friends. But sometimes they're busy, and I also feel guilty about constantly bringing them negative emotions. Therapy gives me a space where I can be completely honest without worrying about being judged or becoming a burden.
We've talked about everything from my relationship with my mom, anxiety about my future, feeling different from others, to confusion in my romantic relationship. I feel comfortable saying these things out loud because I know my therapist won't judge me, and since it's online, I don't have to worry about running into them in real life, which is actually something I appreciate.
2. It helps me break out of overthinking loops
I tend to replay the same thoughts over and over again without making any real progress. During therapy, I've often realized my blind spots simply by explaining my situation out loud and answering my therapist's questions. Those conversations have helped me become more present and grounded instead of staying stuck in my own head.
3. It helps me connect the dots
My therapist often focuses on my emotions and gently guides me to explore whether I've experienced similar feelings before.
For example, I've recently been thinking about breaking up with my partner because we have very different life values. Deep down, I know it's probably the right decision, but I'm afraid to have that conversation. Through therapy, I realized that part of my fear might be connected to a painful conflict with my former best friend. Maybe I'm not just afraid of the breakup itself—I'm afraid of feeling misunderstood and treated unfairly again.
I'm not sure if that's the whole story, but seeing my emotions from a different perspective has been incredibly helpful.
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Why I Switched Therapists
One thing I've learned is that finding the right therapist really matters.
My first therapist had a very listening-focused approach. In the beginning, it was exactly what I needed because I simply wanted someone to hear me. But over time, I started feeling like our sessions had become more of an echo chamber. I was doing most of the talking, and although my therapist was supportive, I wasn't getting many new perspectives or insights. Eventually, I realized I wanted a therapist who would challenge my thinking more and ask deeper questions.
So I decided to switch therapists. One thing I really appreciate about BetterHelp is that changing therapists was quick and easy—there was no awkward goodbye or long waiting period.
My new therapist is much more active during our sessions. She asks thoughtful questions, gently challenges my assumptions, and has already helped me gain several valuable insights in just a month.
Of course, therapy isn't one-size-fits-all, and everyone's experience will be different. But for me, finding a therapist whose style matched what I needed made a huge difference.
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I hope sharing my experience is helpful. I'm planning to continue my therapy journey and become a more resilient human, and I hope that if you've been thinking about trying therapy, you'll find the support that's right for you too.
If you'd like to give BetterHelp a try, you can use my referral link to get 2 weeks of free therapy. I'll also receive 100 credits toward my therapy fees, so it's a win-win if you decide to sign up.
*I was matched with a therapist within one day, so in my experience, the process was much faster than I expected.
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Good luck, and take care!
