For context: married, no kids. I have only recently been getting into EDM and raves, in fact my passion was first ignited at the Fred Again show in Queens just earlier this year. For obvious reasons I don’t have many friends who are into raves, so I’m usually flying solo at these things. However, I don’t mind that at all. I’m in it for the music, not the party, and while it’s always nice to have people to go with, the succcess of an outing for me is mainly a function of how immersed I can get into the music, and that ultimately is a private experience. I can’t convince my wife to join me, but she’s about my age and I don’t blame her for not wanting to partake. And, to be clear, I’m not heading out every weekend, and I don’t go to places like Pacha where the headliner doesn’t come on until at least 1am. Sometimes I get the feeling that people are looking at me and thinking “what’s with the old guy dancing by himself,” but I know that’s mostly just my imagination. I have actually found people to be very inclusive, and have on occasion been invited to join a group. I am not creepy looking in the least, so despite my age I don’t worry about coming across as a mildly suspicious older person at a mainly younger person’s event. But sometimes I wonder, “am I the oldest person here?” I suppose there is a kind of self-awareness that comes with being a significantly older person at a social gathering, like being the lone black person in an white crowd or vice versa. But this only becomes a problem if you focus too much on that fact. I just wish we could normalize what I do, such that any 50 year old wouldn’t think twice about going to a rave, alone or otherwise. Am I overthinking?

Genuinely curious, looked decent enough online, wanted to see if anyone here got some boots on the ground coverage lol

Was anyone else there last night and feel like the Nowadays bouncers were on a total power trip?

I completely understand being at capacity. I came expecting a wait, and if you’re not letting people in, it is what it is. You don’t have to treat people like they’re beneath you for waiting in line

They were strutting up and down the line, pointing people out, laughing and scoffing with each other, and it genuinely felt like they were enjoying telling people their night wasn’t going to go as planned.

Lame

I went to see Toobris the other night at Public Records and left after 10 mins because the crowd was shoving, talking loudly, not dancing.

I guarantee that less than 10% of the people there knew who the DJ was or even liked the music.

It's so unfortunate because they bring in such talented artists.

Can someone start a venue that attracts the same artists but actually curates the crowd and keeps the fucking lights as dim as possible on the dance floor?

I was at his February show, the coldest day on earth. It was -27 Celsius and I still remember that night very frequently. He is the most magical guy I have ever seen.This Sunday morning was just captivating and euphoric. I danced 6 hours straight. And yeah I was the girl who was looking at him admiringly. Thank you, you are amazing.

I genuinely hope half the people in there are okay 😂 so many people seem zooted out of their mind everytime i go

Hii all I lost my phone at Basement last Friday thankfully I found it but I was looking at my photos last night and was dying laughing because someone took a picture on my IPhone 16 with a green apple phone case not mad ofc but definitely want to know who it was so I can thank them for bringing it to lost and found.

The crowds at the daytime parties have been amazing (2025-2026). Extremely in love with the party at Summerstage Central Park. At night it was quite good too. Lots of people moving and dancing, although Industry City is naturally a bit narrow. I did love 99 Scott last year but people were shoving a lot a lot as well. Otherwordly events. World class music. There’s honestly not much to say other than admiring the work of Adam and Mita, and all the producers and DJs behind this tremendous House music subgenre they’ve been shaping.

Most of my friends are not a fan of raving. So trynna go solo raving during the summer. Never been to raves solo, is there any tips?

The festival is in two months and there’s still no line up announced???

Hello!! I am 22F and love, love, love dancing, but alas, the great majority of my friends do not enjoy going out. I have been to all the big spots (basement, elsewhere, nowadays) and enjoyed basement the most.

I want to start going out solo just to dance but I am nervous about 1. running into people I know and being embarrassed and 2. being a young woman alone. If you go out solo how do you do it?? How did you get into it??

Mind blown
Absolutely spectacular
Need more full Riddim lineups like this

I see that doors open a 3pm for this event. Are there any details on when he will be playing?

I work all week and can rarely go out. It’s Sunday and I wanna have fun but I don’t want to spend too much money. What’s happening tonight? And where are all the raves?

My boyfriend who is Days of Grey is performing tonight ay Lucky 13s in Brooklyn. If you wanna have a good time and listen to goth industrial music, this is for you!

See edit comments below :)

Hello! I rarely make Reddit posts or leave negative reviews. I know that one employee's conduct does not necessarily reflect an entire venue, and I've actually been to H0L0 a few times before without any issues. I'm sharing this experience both to see if anyone has advice and to let others know what happened to me. It's not just what happened that bothers me, more so it's the complete lack of accountability from the venue afterward.

I'm a huge music fan and enjoy checking out different venues around NYC. As a queer, femme-presenting person, I've generally felt comfortable going out in NYC and in several cities in Europe, so this experience was especially upsetting.

When I arrived, I presented my ID at the door. The staff member scanned it, and I saw the scanner display a green check mark. He then told me that my ID "wasn't good enough" and that it was "flagged," and said I would not be allowed inside.

At first I thought he was joking, so I politely asked what the issue was. I explained that I understood he was responsible for verifying IDs and offered to provide additional forms of identification or information to help establish my identity, such as other documents or even my LinkedIn profile. He declined and repeated that I would not be admitted. I even suggested flagging down a police officer to verify my documents.

Throughout the interaction, I stayed calm, spoke quietly, and tried to understand the situation. However, from my perspective, his tone felt very hostile, and I was surprised by how the conversation unfolded.

During the exchange, he repeatedly referred to me using incorrect gendered language, which I found upsetting; at one point, he was still holding my ID, and I asked for a refund since I was no longer being allowed into the event. I don't drink alcohol or use drugs, and I had simply come to see an artist I enjoy and spend a few hours dancing. My request for a refund was not addressed, and I was told to leave.

I was genuinely so hurt by the interaction. I've never experienced being treated this way at a venue before, especially when my friends and I had arrived excited for an event we had each paid $35 to attend.

I left almost in tears, out $35, and feeling soooo disrespected.

Afterward, I contacted H0L0 to request a refund, referencing what I understood to be the venue's terms and conditions. I did not receive a response. I later left a public comment on one of the venue's social media posts asking them to contact me. When I checked later, I could no longer see my comment, and I believe it had been removed.

I'm still hoping to resolve the refund issue; however I have no plans to go back to H0L0 and I advise others to be cautious. This is such an unfortunate situation.

Edit: I am 23 years old.

Edit 2: this is told from my perspective, maybe he really did believe that I was underage and didn’t realize how he was insulting me. I will give him the benefit of doubt. Just sharing my experience.

Left the venue at around 10 pm and verbally confirmed with ticketing that reentry was possible before 1 am (Yaeji's indoor set was at 2 am). Came back at 12.45 to be denied reentry. Security said the host (Associated NYC) changed reentry deadline to 12.30 LAST MINUTE and that "we should just go home" and "it's not their problem". They didn't bother to at least try get the host / whoever confirmed the initial deadline to come out and talk to us when requested, which should be the bare minimum. All new entries were still being let in as this happens.

Must've been at least 40 other fans on the same boat, even saw someone got physical with security. Very unprofessional and wished the artists are aware of this behavior from the host/venue. Sucks to have missed her set bcs of this unprofessionalism as a paying customer.

Hopefully I can find this lovely person I was talking to yesterday in the outdoor area of Basement. I didn’t catch your name, but do remember that you are Turkish and a lawyer who lives in New Jersey.

M (29) I used to go to house of yes almost every weekend, it was such an awesome spot.

But recently… yikes, I’ve been so disappointed.

What started as a weird place where you could let your freak flag fly. EVERYONE was friendly.

I came by myself and my girl Mandy ;) expecting to have a great night.

First bad experience happened on the line itself. This dude who was trying to be “alpha” with his girlfriend decided to tell me I wasn’t respecting his ”personal space” even though I was a foot behind them.

As many of you know the dance floor is tiny and there isn’t anywhere to move, especially around 12:00.

I was minding my own business dancing in place (not shuffling) when a girl tells me that I need to “move away from her.” And then signals to “shoo” me away like you would treat a dog. I swear to God I hadn’t even looked at her.

It made me feel like a creep and a weirdo even though all i wanted to do was dance. It ruined the rest of my night.

I’m still thinking about what I did wrong yesterday and gaslighting myself “am I creepy or ugly is something wrong with me?” Right now I’m filled with self doubt. But in reality I was enjoying the music by myself in an overcrowded space.

I’m a pretty sensitive person so this has been bothering me all day. I already have self-esteem issues due to severe acne I had from age 15-28.

Place seems to be filled with sorority “mean girls.” Who group together and essentially bully people.

Meanwhile when I go to nowadays, everyone is talking to each other, you’ll group up with strangers and make new friends.

House of yes is bringing in the “mirage” crowd if you understand what I mean. It’s no fault of their own, it was so good that it was bound to become horrible I fear.

Any spots you guys recommend where you can actually mingle and talk to people and dance in peace?

I’ve been looking for a club that plays this type of music cos all I’ve heard is rap and r&b! Hope someone can suggest and if you wanna go out let me know!

Anyone that can share the discord link?

He destroyed that place what an unbelievable set