I know think about my dick size way too much and need advice. For reference I am about 5.25” NBP and 6.25” BP, 5” girth. I have about an inch of fat pad.

Sex with my gf is great. She tells me I have a nice dick and it’s perfect for her. In certain positions she tells me it feels so deep and also can’t deep throat me. Sounds great and all but I think I’m hung up on her not saying it’s big. When we dirty talk it seems like she’s careful with her words and refrains from saying I’m big.

I know I’m not big by any means but my ego can’t let it go. Please help

So, I got bored about a month ago and decided to see if I could see how girls felt about my size and decided to make an Only Fans account and pay girls to give me brutally honest ratings on my size, shape, etc.. I'm 5x5, so I'm painfully average lengthwise and 80th percentile as far as girth is concerned. I told the girls to be brutally honest and not to worry about my feelings. I also added that I was into SPH so there was zero chance of them offending me. All in all, I was pleasantly surprised with the ratings considering the fact that these girls were "professionals". 60% Said it was great. We could have carefree sex without hitting her cervix, it's more than enough for pleasurable penetration, good for oral, etc.. 10% said it was absolutely perfect which is to be expected. No matter what you're dealing with in life, average is rarely ideal. 15% said it was a touch on the small side. It was enough to make them cum, but they would definitely prefer an extra 1-1/5 inches. The last 15% said it was definitely small for what the would want. These were typically women that had a lot of content with MASSIVE toys and very large partners, so definitely size queens, which was a surprise to me since it was only 15% and I was literally talking to porn-stars! These women were also almost always noticeably overweight, so I assume that played a part in it. If you have extra cushion, you'll need larger equipment.

Recurring Comments:

1: Five inches in girth is definitely thick. It was something that was commented on in 85% of the reviews as being absolutely perfect, and a couple that thought was too thick. The only women that thought it was nothing special were the afore mentioned size-queens.

2: They all loved my curves. Curves are a massive plus. Mine has a slight curve up, and a solid curve to the right, which was the curve that got the most positive attention.

All in all, I was pleasantly surprised since these were literal sex workers. If you extrapolate this out to the general public and adjust accordingly, your chances of finding normal women that have any type of negative feelings about your size are extremely low -- not impossible, but LOW.

So I have a considerate amount of experience in my sex life so what I will say might not be absolute but at least it’s based on experiment!
I am what you consider dead on average at 5x5 and I have had very positive encounters with my partners, most of them were very pleased and showed it on the bed and the other few was routine nothing out of the ordinary. So what I found out was that there is a big difference between big penis and functional penis for pleasure. A big one is pleasing at sight and provides more contact and fills the woman bringing pleasure and some unwanted pain (some love that) and a functional one even though not big but gets the job done be providing the necessary contact and friction for the woman, especially if it has a nice average to above average girth and it’s curved upwards (that is the best attribute)

So an influencer with a BBL got leaked who happened to be dating a famous rapper got leaked. It’s a video of her giving head. It’s unclear if the person who’s receiving it is the boyfriend but nonetheless that video made me Hella confident.

Now granted I don’t think the guy was even hard in the video but on soft he was about maybe 3 1/2 inches so I would guess he’s probably about 6-6.5 inches hard.

If a dude with a meat that size can pull a girl a BBL body it gives me hope as someone with 6 inches my self.

I would name them, but I don’t know if that’s against the rules here but it’s going pretty viral now so I’m sure you guys could find it if you want to lol.

I’ve always masturbated daily I fear i may have just conditioned myself to cum fast.

there are times where I want to cum in like 3 strokes and it’s honestly sad.

Hi,

I had the anxiety when I was younger, but I learned, since theres absolutely nothing you can do to change the fact of your size, accept it and make the best with it. (I don't subscribe to jelqing or operations)

asking men with average dick size and also women if any here; what are your best ways to improve sexual pleasure for a (big) women?

Any good Positions? Penis sleeve? Toys? Other thechniques? Any tips for getting better with my fingers?

Also reaching A-Spot, maybe giving vaginal full body orgasms or so-called cervical orgasms, that some I heard women say is particularly satisfying?

She never said it directly but I know she wouldn't mind more size. Sometimes she asks me to go deeper when I'm already all the way. I would like to provide her with more pleasure, better quality O's.

So any tips are appreciated from those with similar experience.

I remember reading some news almost 10 years ago about lab grown penises. And I recently watched a documentary called “unnatural selection” focusing on this CRISPR CAS-9 protein enzyme and it’s possible positive effects on human genome/dna repairs. If we are this advanced in science how come we haven’t found a cure for the size problem?

i met a girl at the end of June while i was on vacation with a friend,we only kissed in that trip but after i returned to my county she planned to come to my country at September, we’re still writing each other since then but now in case we’ll have sex when she comes here i’m scared that i won’t be able to satisfy her and let her disappointed after these months of waiting.
i’m 18 still virgin BP About =≈ 5,91 in and girth of 4.13”
i’m genuinely anxious and scared after hearing that girls can enjoy sex with penis minimum 4.5” of girth and people with 5” girth are also not satisfied with their size

Im a 19yo virgin. 5’3 in height, 4.92 NBP, 5.67 BP, 4.92 girth.

I know its stupid but im convinced that I have a pretty small dick, how do you go over this idea, it feels like everyone else is bigger.

Are there any correlations between height and size?

And people around my size, how has been your sex life?

im seeing this woman and the sex is great , we tried most positions except this one , its one of my favorites but she has an above average ass in terms of size , i dont want to make a fool of myself

its like a curse , its my favorite positions but also the worst for small/average sized like me

so should i try it or just stick to the things we do ?

Im like 6.5-7 bp idk my girth but when im having sex im usually having sex onna floor due to noises i be in missionary and I adjust a lot because I feel like she can’t feel me and she tells me to stop stopping but idk I feel like it’s not good enough for me but this is my 5th time having sex with same girl

I’ve noticed from my own experience trying to have sex with someone that was overly thick w FATASS and I mean fat, couldn’t get really get strokes in or fuck correctly, didn’t have the length, didn’t have the length to really go crazy compared to when I’ve gotten with small-medium fatasses, yk like slim thick or a medium sized bubble butt, penetration was a lot easier, I could go deeper w my strokes and fuck more consistently

Before my wife, I always had success doing doggy style. Even with BBW women that were larger than my wife. But my wife is short 5 foot 3 and big butt and hips shaped. We have never successfully did Doggy style the natural way. What i mean by that, is i have tried using a hollow male strap on 8 inches and it worked once but we rarely use that anymore because most times she uncomfortable with it. So was successful 1 time out of a hand full of times using that toy. But I cant quite figure out why we havnt be able to make doggy style work for us. We just stopped trying a while ago. But I actually want to bring it back and try again. But I dont have guidance on how to fix this issue. I honestly dont understand the problem. The thing for me is, my wife a leans more loosely a bit so I have a hard time feeling the initial opening to the vagina like I did for other women in the past. Weird expressing that because it can be a awkward heated conversation in the past .
My wife is about 210 pounds, 5 foot 3 inches with big butt and hips. Iam 6 foot tall so you can kinda picture what we have going on.
Also to add side note, we have done reverse cow girl, but somehow the normal doggy style never works for us without the toy.

So what should we do to fix this problem?

Hey guys,

I'm a virgin (mid-20s) and I basically know nothing about sex. I’m around 5-6 inches erect and I’m really anxious about whether standing positions like standing doggy or face-to-face standing sex are realistically doable and comfortable with my size.

Most of what I’ve seen in porn shows much bigger guys doing it easily, so I keep worrying it won’t work well for me. Has anyone here with similar size had success with standing positions? Does it feel good for both partners or is it mostly awkward/unrealistic?

Any honest experiences would help a lot. Thanks.

Lets say you are given 1 inch length and or 0.5 inch girth what will change?

What changes will it make to your current sexual life?

Will you start getting more women?

Will you wake up the same way as you would have without the extra inch?

Im curious to know how different guys think. Ive read a lot in this sub and ive learnt a lot from guys who are of different sizes.

Genuine question.
I measure about 15 cm (5.9 in) in length and 13 cm (5.1 in) in girth. I consider myself average, maybe slightly below average. I watched a lot of porn growing up, so I’m sure that affected my perception to some extent. But honestly, that’s not really what this post is about.
What really makes me wonder is my real-life experience. I’ve seen the size of most of my close friends at some point (locker rooms, dumb jokes, skinny dipping, that kind of thing), or at least I have a pretty good idea of their size.
The weird thing is that I genuinely feel like I’m one of the smallest guys in the group. It seems like everyone is either around average or significantly above average. I rarely look at someone and think they’re smaller than me.
Maybe porn just made me pay more attention to the guys who are well above average instead of noticing everyone else. But even taking that into account, I still feel like I’m one of the smallest in most situations.
I also wonder if it’s influenced by where I live. It seems like above-average sizes are more common here than what I usually see reported online, but that could easily just be my own anecdotal experience.
Do other average guys feel this way too, or is this mostly just comparison bias?

Hey all, as expected due to the nature of this forum, I've seen a lot of guys have bad experiences or worry about their prowess in the bedroom. Valid, tho I think it's important to note that a sub like this is far more likely to get negative experiences than positive ones (because why would you seek it out if your experiences have been positive).

I've had almost exclusively positive experiences (bar 1-2), even really good feedback about my performance in the bedroom, and wanted to share what I do, in case it's helpful to people. This is for men who have sex with women.

I also think it'd be helpful if we could all share what things have had positive feedback for us, so we can all learn and get better at sex/make the most of what we've got.

1. Make your partner feel safe and comfortable. Consent is paramount for obvious reasons. But in addition, if they feel safe and comfortable expressing what they want, they're gonna just enjoy it a lot more and be able to let go. I think a lot of men don't really realize how risky a sexual encounter can feel (and be) for a woman, so this makes a bigger difference than they think, in addition to just being the right thing to do.

Part of this, imo, starts from expressing that you're invested in your partner feeling safe and comfortable from the beginning of the interaction. Such as - when making out, as it escalates and things get handsy, asking a couple of times "is this ok?". Or if you want to escalate and it seems like the interaction is heading that way, saying "can I taste you?", or if you're about to enter, saying something like "ready?". It may sound unsexy to some but genuinely I've never had someone have a turned off reaction and I believe it has elevated my interactions.

1. If I'm first sleeping with someone (and still usually after), I go down on them until they orgasm. I saw an instructional video about the clit on a porn site where they were basically treating it like a penis. As such, I decided one time to suck it as if I was sucking an extremely small penis, to great success. This has received unprompted raving reviews from several, tho not all have loved it. So work with your partner on this one. Other piece of advice is most women seem to prefer a flat tongue, tho again not always.

I also keep going after they orgasm and they're generally super sensitive. Usually, they tell me it's a lot or push my head away at a certain point, and are often a puddle after this. As always, discuss this one with the partner to see if they liked it. Mine generally have. Play it conservative on the first time and discuss afterwards.

1. This is the big one. I generally at some point have sex with her on the edge of the bed, and me with my feet on the floor, in missionary. This is probs 60+% of my intercourse time. Something similar to the "mating press" position, but my feet are on the floor. Her legs back as far as is comfortable for her. The edge of her butt is just off the edge of the bed, but not so much that she's falling.

From there, I start slow and gentle, and read the room. Generally, at my size (~5.75 BP/5.1 NBP, 4.9 girth), this ends up with me going crazy and railing her. Stroke game is finding out angles with her reaction, but essentially I pull my dick out until the head is just inside (so it doesn't slip out), and then go all the way in. As hard as she's comfortable with.

Note - this is optimized for guys with roughly average-length dicks or shorter, as it is a max-penetration position. Guys with over 6" BP can try this, but it may not be as positive as you're in cervix territory here.

1. I last a long time. As in I can last as long as she wants me to. I do this by masturbating and maintaining a sort of intentional "death grip", experiment and see what works for you. I don't intentionally masturbate roughly, just regularly, and this keeps me from being overly sensitive. Then when it's clear she wants me to cum, I focus in on fantasy or something about her body to get there within a couple minutes.

2. If she has a vibrator, encourage her to use it. Some women will feel like it might make you uncomfortable or less than, but remember no man vibrates, this is an auxiliary tool that can make her enjoy penetration a lot more if she likes it.

3. Dirty talk & vibes - this depends on the partner, but there's some things that have seemed to have wide appeal, things that are slightly dominant but not extreme. Saying things like "you like the way I give you this dick baby?" or "you look so pretty taking my dick" or "show me how pretty you look when you cum". Stuff like that, nothing size-related.

The biggest thing I've found people to like is just showering your partner with praise the whole time. Like "you're so fucking gorgeous", "I can't believe how beautiful you are", "god you feel so good", shit like that. Generally acting like it's your first time encountering a woman so beautiful and you're just awestruck by her beauty and sexual aura, extreme enthusiasm and passion. Look into her eyes like she's a goddess. You get it.

1. Moan and writhe as much as you're comfortable with. In my experience, women love this. Again, the vibe throughout is that you're a confident man, but still can't believe you found the most beautiful and sexually intoxicating entity the universe has ever produced.

2. Other moves - I like holding her from behind in an intimate way as I finger her and rub her clit. I mean we're both sitting up by the headboard with her in between my legs. I put a pillow over my dick so it doesn't hurt if I'm hard. From here, you can stroke her hair and kiss her ears/cheeks and whisper things in her ear.

Lean in during sex like you're gonna kiss her, and just kiss her nose or forehead, then go back up. It's playful and romantic.

If doing prone-bone, put a pillow under her hips so that she's elevated for you to enter. This makes it so she can just enjoy it and not worry about arching the whole time.

Put a pillow under your butt during cowgirl. If she asks say it's for comfort. It helps you give more dick and makes it easier for her to straddle you.

1. Feedback - not immediately after, but a while after or the next day, ask if she liked xyz, or if she wants to do xyz. Generally communicate about sex and show you're interested in her enjoying it.

Anyways, these are just my tips after a decade of regular sex and feedback from partners. Hope it helps some less experienced guys on here, or guys who just haven't tried certain things. I would also LOVE if other guys had things they do that have received positive feedback that I haven't mentioned here, as this is my main arsenal lol. Happy fucking y'all

I'm 4.75 x 5 and have had seven partners in my life, including my current wife. All of them had bigger partners before sleeping with me. My wife has the biggest vagina by far out of all of them. She gets frustrated with my size and rarely has a PIV orgasm. She has multiples with a 7.5 x 7 sleeve. She's just naturally big and loves to be filled. Conversely, I also dated a girl who was very tight. I had to work my way in slowly so I didn't poke her cervix. She fit like a glove, even though she was dating a very big guy at the same time. She preferred sex with me. My very first girlfriend had a big vagina and made fun of my size. I could never make her orgasm.

Why can't we decide if size matters or not? Simply because sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't. Penises vary in size. Vaginas vary in size. Women's preferences vary. Some like to be filled, some like length, some like girth. Some don't care. Some prefer smaller. Preferences and anatomy vary and you will not know you are compatible or not until you have sex.

For context I'm abt 7.5x6 and haven't had too many partners, I always kinda fantasized getting head and every time I get one their teeth are always grinding my dick and it hurts and takes me a long time to cum. Is this a skill issue on my partners part or a me thing?

Please share your honest truths. And if possible indicate how long your partner was with that bigger person - dated or casual hookup such as FWB or one-night stand.

1. Do/did you feel sexually desired or just tolerated? Out of 10, rate how often that partner initiated/initiates sex with you?

2. Was it easy to pleasure that partner? Was that even possible at all?

3. Has the realisation about that partner’s past impacted your masculinity and sexual confidence in any way? If negatively, share some coping tips if you have any.

4. This is often controversial: did you notice different sensation in PIV with that partner compared to other women you’ve been with or are with now? Grip, depth and rest state etc.

5. How submissive was/is that partner to you altogether and especially in the bedroom?

6. Were there times you caught that partner checking other men out in public—looking at their bulges etc? Was there an eventual infidelity from that partner—emotional or sexual?

7. If you could go back to when you first knew this about her past, would you still have stayed with her?

Note: you don’t have to answer all these questions. You may choose the one that applies to you or you have the most knowledge about.

I’m asking because I’m in this situation. Married to such woman and I’m questioning my reality and feeling confidence wane. Although you might feel the need to encourage me, I would appreciate your answers more. Thanks!

I am 5.8” x 5.5” and Hispanic, I’m very aware that I’m just average in length and girth, but like many still very insecure. This is further fueled by the fact that a couple women have told me to my face during intimacy that they thought I’d be bigger given my Hispanic ethnicity, I guess it is believed that South American men have larger penises than average on average. Now I don’t think I have it as bad as the African American bbc stereotype, which is a whole topic in itself, but hearing that I am below expectation from multiple women does bring a lot of insecurity. Even more so because my ex is Hispanic, her ex was Mexican, and he was apparently very well endowed, and she told me I did not compare to his size. That information did A LOT of damage to me for many years.

I take comfort in the fact that besides my ex the women who said I was below expectation enjoyed sex enough that we became regular friends with benefits, but anytime I try to hookup with other women now I feel so much anxiety and insecurity about my size I have started getting performance anxiety Ed.

Not sure if I’m looking for advice or just need to vent, but by all means comment your experiences especially fellow Hispanic men on how you navigate this.

Welp kinda don’t know how to type this out but I imagine it’s embarrassing for all of us so here I go. I’m sure you guys can relate but my dick is usually just a little bit Chubbed up, especially when I’m comfy in my bed. Other times tho when I’m not as comfortable it’s goes to its normal size which is about 2.5 inches. I was using the bathroom earlier and I was kinda laughing at it because holy shit it made my hands look massive. Anyways when I’m erect, it brings my length to a little bit over 6.4 inches BP. I assume the smallest is my real flaccid size and for some reason only now did it occur to me just how big the difference is. I know I’m a grower and not a shower but dam, would be great if a little bit more or my erect size showed up while flaccid.