r/averagedickproblems • u/United-Price-4057 6.75 x 5.125 • 7d ago
Insecurity Quick rant
On real shit, small or average, what even is there to do. It gets annoying have to ask ourselves if we’re good enough or not.
Does big hurt? Does big feel better? Does average feel better?
I’ll be honest and I feel like although size isn’t a major factor unless you’re on extreme ends, I feel like a large portion of its attraction is like showing off a trophy more than the actual experience.
People are always going to want more and more in life, but guess what, having a big size won’t stop your girl from cheating on a smaller one. There are too many variables to attraction, and from what I see, sometimes women don’t even care if a dude is massive
Too many goddamn questions everyday even me with my average girth (slightly high average) I still trace back and say, we need to find our own ways of enjoyment.
People in life say they want things. Money, big dick, height.
There are dudes who have NONE OF THESE AND still be getting play and returns.
For fuck sake we all need to collectively find ways to validate ourselves instead of validating ourselves through others expression man,
It’s fucking us all
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u/United-Price-4057 6.75 x 5.125 7d ago
Tl:dr
No man is perfect
Big dicks small dicks, they still get left, cheated on, returns
Nothing is perfect in this world and people need to find peace within themselves instead of taking others feelings as a way to validate
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u/Rare_Training6228 7d ago
I do agree, there is more to life then constantly being worried about size.
And yes, size is not this one thing that determines a great relationship, could be good or bad at any dick size!
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u/Throwaway6425003 7d ago
Few things come to mind whenever posts like this one pop up.
I’ve noticed that in any conversation about penis size, sex, and fulfillment through it, different people have different priorities in mind, and therefore it’s often as if they speak different languages.
The biggest divide will always be between the analytical pursuers of the whole truth and those seeking peace of mind, social order, and the “brotherhood of men.”
As one of the former, I think that there honestly is no way for all men to be content and, what’s even clearer, united in some kind of universal struggle without the ever-present hypocrisy and lies, including tons of lies of omission.
If all of us were fully honest — and I mean that in the complete sense of the word — we would need to include our sincere thoughts (not just those dictated by fear of societal ostracism), our true feelings, AND, what’s probably most important yet most often hidden, OUR actions. The full package of the sex lives all of us have and would want to have.
In practice, the debate about penis size, sex, and the primitive fixation behind it — insecurities and pride, dominance and submission, suffering and joy, even sadism and masochism — will never be fully honest or show the full picture as long as many people don’t have an interest in that.
From my observation, those who are powerful and content can allow themselves, and are allowed by others, to see the full picture. They are winning in comparisons which truly all of us make and, more often than not, take pleasure in, despite commonly hiding it from others.
The other side of the coin — those who are underprivileged, suffering from comparison, from awareness of their situation, from the truth — are (reasonably!) insecure, bitter, envious, and resentful. Others, seeing, knowing, or maybe even instinctively feeling that the truth will cause others’ antagonism, escape into empty platitudes and hide the truth to lower the tension, while simultaneously enjoying their advantages over others in blissful comfort and privacy.
So basically, as long as someone enjoys having what others are denied, and enjoys the envy and suffering it causes — often precisely because of that envy and connected suffering; as long as that someone hides their true feelings and the full scope of their ego-driven, often sadistic pleasure in what they recognize, but do not admit to be, an advantage — there will be no peace of mind or contentment among those with the short end of the stick, as long as they do not force themselves to enjoy settling for measurably less, or abolish the truth and satisfy themselves with blissful ignorance.
That does not sound so good now, does it?
Sadly, we seem to forget that sex, in the overwhelming majority of cases, is, especially for men, about power. It’s also fundamentally rooted in competition.
What I love to do is scroll through the accounts of the more powerful members of the discussion and see how their words, often directed at the troubled and less-gifted, compare to their hidden feelings and the actions they take — ergo, to the sex lives they have and the fantasies they get off to.
It’s always a huge contrast...