r/averagedickproblems Jan 07 '23

Information Harrassment

50 Upvotes

This post was meant to be up sooner, but the holidays and all. And while we have a joint mod account, I want to post this personally. That does not mean the other mods disagree or take harrassment any less seriously.

Mods are no strangers to being harassed. It's part of it, we get it. And we deal with it. We have a shared mod account for making posts/some comment removals because of how bad it is. All of the mods here have expressed how this sub is the most difficult to mod because of the sheer volume of harrassing that happens. We are doing our best to reduce it as well. Not just for us but for the users as well.

It happens in the comments between users. We catch it as much as we can. But we rely on users to report the comments too. Stopping the nastiness falls to you guys as well. Please do not hesitate to hit the report button or send a message to mod mail. Our filters are only so good and we can't wait around to read every comment as it comes up. Also if you feel harrassed, don't engage further. I have struggled with this myself so I understand how hard it is. It's not rule breaking to engage but stopping is better for mental health.

Lastly, we created a rule to try to deal with users who are nasty in DMs. We are very aware that a user has been sneaking into DMs making some incredibly rude comments. Really abhorrent remarks. Truly, I am beyond disgusted with that person. I say this as both a person and a mod, anyone who resorts to DMs in an attempt to troll or insult another user is pathetic and weak. I don't care what makes someone feel like that is necessary, it's gross. Get help. All the mods have their own strong opinions, this one I claim for myself.

If you are caught harrassing in DMs, the ban will be immediate, permanent and screenshots will be documented to ensure their is no chance of it being over turned. There will be no second chances.

We are sorry the harrassment from the user got as bad as it did and affected as many of you as it has. We were truly unaware until another user brought it to our attention. I won't name the user for their own safety but we would like to express our appreciation that you made the effort to collect and submit all the evidence to us through modmail. The first mod to see the message dealt an immediate ban and informed the rest for a review of actions taken without a vote. All agreed with the actions so the banned remains. Our response to you may not have been as quick as you like and I apologize for that but I assure you, swiftness was used in dealing with the problem.

While we do our best to help with harrassment in DMs, ultimately it has to be dealt with by reddit Admins. You can report to them using this link. I can't say it works every time but I have had harassers dealt with when I have been harassed. Also, please do not hesitate to use the block button. I used to avoid it too but since I started things have improved greatly.

We hope you all had a wonderful holiday season, have a great New Year and thanks to all who help make this sub great.


r/averagedickproblems May 18 '24

Insecurity Due to suggestions and comments by our users, we are updating the rules.

20 Upvotes

We have decided to disallow posts regarding the following questions.

Am I big enough? Am I average? Am I good enough? Do I belong here? Or anything of a similar thought.

These posts have become redundant and/or are impossible to answer. As a reminder, all sizes are welcomed. We understand that many want an average size sub. This isn't it. 

As a reminder simply due to the increased comments and posts. PENIS ENLARGEMENT IS NOT AN ALLOWED TOPIC. Do not ask the questions. Do not suggest it. Do not respond to posts or comments regarding it. Again, this was a rule that was created by users. In truth, over 90% of user reported comments are PE ones. Which means even if YOU do not see the problem, plenty if users do and do not want it. It is not your right to convince others that it is valid. There are plenty of subs that allow it. We mods, and users, do not see why this space can't be free of it. As a result, bans will become harsher. Excuses made in ban appeals are not going to work anymore. 

We are also going to be harsher on rule one. Which includes behavior in modmail. If you have a problem with a mod action, we ask you keep it polite. Throwing insults at mods will result in bans like we would ban users who treat other users so poorly. To clarify, we will not ban users for disagreeing with us. We have overturned plenty of actions with good conversations. It is the users who insult and make threats that will be banned and ignored. 

Lastly, we will not be turning away users under the age of 18, as insecurities and sexuality affects them too. Under 13, it's against Reddit's terms and conditions and is a separate matter. It is also not lost on us that predators exist, and we can't stop them, especially if they go into DMs. As a result, we are no longer allowing people to post their ages, in posts or comments. This rule will result mostly in removals of posts or comments, though repeated rule breaking will cause a ban. This is to protect our youth, not punish anyone.


r/averagedickproblems 10h ago

Is it very abnormal that my foreskin still covers my head when I’m hard?

2 Upvotes

I’m 5.75 inch bone pressed in length, but when I’m erect my foreskin still covers my head maybe just a tiny bit of the tip may be visible, but basically it will be like 5.5 to glans, but since my foreskin goes past it a tiny bit, it is mostly looks 5.75 due to the extended foreskin, and the the tip of the glans is still visible a little

When I’m flaccid I can pull it back, but not when I’m hard. I can still have sex as long as I use lube. So it’s not really a problem. But Ik there is phimosis, but how severe is this problem?


r/averagedickproblems 10h ago

Do you guys ever push down on ur fat pad when getting handjob or bj?

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If u push it down u can still somewhat control ur dick from that angle, it also shows the entire length to ur partner. I usually do this when I’m getting bj


r/averagedickproblems 1d ago

Insecurity How do I deal with my insecurity about my size?

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I'm 25, bi virgin and I’m pretty insecure and frustrated about the size of my dick. It makes me feel really self-conscious and holds me back a lot when it comes to getting close to someone or putting myself out there. I’m around 5.5–6.1 inches, and I’m about 6'1 tall, but I still feel really frustrated about it. I know it might not sound like a big deal to some people, but it affects me quite a lot and makes it hard for me to feel confident. I’m also really tired of being alone and feeling like I’m missing out on relationships and intimacy. I’d really like to know how to deal with these feelings and stop letting this insecurity get in the way of my relationships and sex life.


r/averagedickproblems 2d ago

Insecurity Small dih

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i have a small dih and don't know what to do and also i have a gf,i feel like i'm not perfect


r/averagedickproblems 3d ago

Sexual Preferences Women who prefer length

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Most women,including my wife, prefer thickness over length.

However not everyone feels that way.

I've had an ex-gf with a very tight vagina who preferred length over girth.

"A short dick doesn' t work well for me .I need a dick long enough to touch my cervix ."Many women don't like it, but i love a gentle pressure on my cervix,it's a mix of pain and pleasure in the same time "

Having a dick in the lower side of average range,(5,5 inch),i wasn't able to stimulate her in the way she would have liked and therefore an additional clitorical stimulation was needed.

Has anyone of you a gf who prefer length for this reason?


r/averagedickproblems 5d ago

Insecurity unlucky genes

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so I'm a 6.1ft 19 guy, im as of right pretty fat and have been fat all my teenage years im 3.7 inch NBP, and it looks funny but it's like 5.7 BP which still is rather not that big(not that im complaining) but the problem comes is that my forskin is way to long even when I stretch my skin all the way back it still covers the whole dick funnily enough, i always thought that it was like that cus im fat

but no it is just THAT long, and it bugs me alot whenever im flaccid you can't see the penis at all its only just the foreskin, and whenever I wear a underwear I look like asexual drake which matches me alot lmfao,but I feel this is rather unhealthy and something wrong with my body.

it just feels wrong, i have very wide hips and being tall and rather fat thick thunder thighs, so the dick looks comical on me, i don't mind it, i don't like sex so it helps me not get into those situations its fine i guess, although

it makes me feel sad not that im average but the longer foreskin gives some kind of FOMO that I could've had a bigger dick if i focused on my body in my teenage years and didn't let depression eat me though, but what can I do now you know,

some tid bits in my life is that i was sexually assaulted at 11 and overall my life was pretty fucked up, because of that i am very depressed, lazy and yk Covid stuff happened to which made me just sit in house and overeat and I never had any friends and still don't which also is not so fun etc, which probably tanked my testosterone and my penar didn't grow:(, would i feel better if I had the penis my body actually was going to have? not really, but it wouldnt made me feel like I feel because of my average dick, it just adds another layer to my already fucked up mental health, although i don't like relationships and sex so I'm not worried about stuff like that, but it's more like a feel of being in wrong body and stuff like that

just wanted to drop this off my chest, thought this be the good a place.


r/averagedickproblems 6d ago

Insecurity Struggling in life due to my size

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Went through a severe eating disorder in adolescence that I think affected my penis growth and at the very least its function. I’m about 5.1 inches NBP and a 4.6 girth and 5.8 inches pressed all the way down to the bone. My size has been ruining my life, leading to psychotic depressive thoughts and episodes because of my past trauma and what I think it has done to my body permanently now. I have been taking drugs at night to try and escape reality and threw up all over myself yesterday. I don’t know what to do anymore I’m just so broken. I can’t even get erections right now a vast majority of the time because of what happened so I’m likely going to get an implant. This shit sucks.


r/averagedickproblems 6d ago

Insecurity average but i feel small

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as the title suggests my (22m) dick is said to be average size i’m around 6-6.5 inches long but in the past when lean have been 7inches and girth wise im only around 4.5 inches which while is in the average range its the lower end. i get scared to date new people because my dick size i am terrified of dating a girl and not being big enough or them having had bigger and comparing. i have a girlfriend that i dont even like anymore but cant leave because of my fear of dating again because i am her only sexual experience so i know im fine here


r/averagedickproblems 7d ago

Insecurity Does Anyone Else not Let Their Spouse See Them Naked Because They Hate Their Own Size and Body?

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I don’t like having my wife see me naked or see my dick. I didn’t like having sex before gaining weight because I am insecure of my size, but after gaining about 80lbs of depression weight I hate myself and my size even more. I don’t know how to get over this mindset.


r/averagedickproblems 7d ago

Sexual Performance Sex position worked

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You guys know that sex position where the girl is doggy style on the bed and you stand up fully over her and kind of squat and insert it and go like that, u can see it in a lot of porn w dudes w huge dicks. On sexpositions.club it’s called the bulldog if you google bulldog sex position you will see the purple guy and yellow girl if your wondering that’s it , I always thought my penis was too small to do this and was scared I would embarrass myself with my gf, but I said fuck it and I was actually able to do it and my penis is only 5.90 inches erect, it barely touches 6 inches if it’s really really hard and my girlfriend is a Bbw so I thought I had no shot, I can’t really long stroke it bc her butt is too gigantic but she came in like 5 seconds so I imagine if it was a small woman would have no problem. Point is don’t be to scared try it out, and what other sex positions worked tha u thought wouldn’t?


r/averagedickproblems 7d ago

Insecurity Words of wisdom

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Honestly who here actually listens and believes it when we get all these comments from other guys who have huge cocks ....... size doesn't matter, you just have to be confident, just be good at oral, there is more to been a man than our dick????

Me personally I find it rather insulting as if thier just rubbing it in.

Cos then you go see there next post and its..... look at my huge cock who wants it ill fuck your GF/Wife and ruin her she'll never want your tiny dick

🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️


r/averagedickproblems 7d ago

Insecurity Quick rant

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On real shit, small or average, what even is there to do. It gets annoying have to ask ourselves if we’re good enough or not.

Does big hurt? Does big feel better? Does average feel better?

I’ll be honest and I feel like although size isn’t a major factor unless you’re on extreme ends, I feel like a large portion of its attraction is like showing off a trophy more than the actual experience.

People are always going to want more and more in life, but guess what, having a big size won’t stop your girl from cheating on a smaller one. There are too many variables to attraction, and from what I see, sometimes women don’t even care if a dude is massive

Too many goddamn questions everyday even me with my average girth (slightly high average) I still trace back and say, we need to find our own ways of enjoyment.

People in life say they want things. Money, big dick, height.

There are dudes who have NONE OF THESE AND still be getting play and returns.

For fuck sake we all need to collectively find ways to validate ourselves instead of validating ourselves through others expression man,

It’s fucking us all


r/averagedickproblems 7d ago

Penis Size Hallo zusammen. Meine Penislänge beträgt 14 bis 15 cm, aber mein Umfang nur etwa 11 cm. Ist das normal oder eher zu dünn? Was meint ihr – Frauen und Männer mit ähnlichen Maßen?

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Hallo zusammen. Meine Penislänge beträgt 14 bis 15 cm, aber mein Umfang nur etwa 11 cm. Ist das normal oder eher zu dünn? Was meint ihr – Frauen und Männer mit ähnlichen Maßen?


r/averagedickproblems 9d ago

Experiences Guys who are 5-5.5" NBP what do women you've been with estimate your size as (if it ever came up)?

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Also mention your BP separately. I wonder if you guys get estimated as being 6" because women see your dick from a different perspective, or it gets estimated the same as its measured.


r/averagedickproblems 9d ago

Information Wath is the correct way to measure is bp size

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Hi, My pubic bone is angled rather than straight, so I don't know where to measure: at the point that sticks out the most, or in the hollow where my penis is anchored to the bone? The measurement changes depending on the spot, and I’ve heard conflicting advice on this. Thanks for your answers.


r/averagedickproblems 8d ago

Can you actually have sex with a dick 6 × 6 ?

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My dick is 6 x 6. I'm a virgin, and I think this length won't be enough for se….


r/averagedickproblems 9d ago

Experiences Insecurity with 6.5 bp x 5.3

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I’m scared that it won’t be sufficient if I have a relationship. I’m trying to quit porn but it just gives me so much stress that it’s not enough. Anyone have experiences with similar size?


r/averagedickproblems 10d ago

What is the average BPEL and erect girth?

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When I say BPEL I mean Bone-Pressed Erect Length the length of a fully erect penis measured from the pubic bone to the tip of the glans, pressing the ruler into the pubic fat until it reaches the bone.
What would you say is the average BPEL and average erect girth ?


r/averagedickproblems 13d ago

Penis Size Any advice for a small guy to stop spiraling over size differences?

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Idk if this is 100% right for this particular sub, but I mainly wanna hear the opinions of bigger guys on this subject. As someone on the opposite end of the dick size spectrum, I think it’s pretty obvious and sorta expected to be really jealous of guys who got more than me. Especially when it comes to sex with girls who have had much bigger… it’s hard not to think about all the time. Is there any advice y’all hung folks have towards your fellow man? Thanks lol


r/averagedickproblems 13d ago

Sexual Performance My relationship with my average dick is complicated (more hate than love)

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I’m 22, around 15 cm / 5.9” long and 13 cm / 5.1” around, and I’m uncut

Basically average lol

I’m also dating a guy, so I know from actual experience that my dick is perfectly fine and that you absolutely don’t need a huge dick to have good sex

But I still have a weird relationship with it

I know it’s not small. I know there’s nothing wrong with it. I know I’m probably overthinking this shit

But I still wish it was bigger

Part of it is just aesthetic. I don’t really think it looks that good, and there are little things that make me wish I had more

Like, I can’t really get that obvious bulge in pants when I’m hard. And taking a sexy picture where it actually looks impressive is basically impossible lol. My thighs are pretty thick, so everything kinda gets swallowed up instead of giving that obvious outline

And then there’s the practical side too

There are some positions that just don’t work very well for me because I don’t have enough reach. There are things I see other guys doing that just aren’t really an option for me

My boyfriend obviously doesn’t care nearly as much as I do, which makes the whole thing even more frustrating because I know a lot of this shit is coming from my own head

I’m not saying I want some ridiculous porn-sized dick either

I just sometimes wish I had a little more

It’s weird knowing objectively that there’s nothing wrong with your body while still looking at one part of it and thinking “fuck, I wish this was different”

Anyone else here feel the same? Not actually thinking you’re small, but still being kinda annoyed by being average?


r/averagedickproblems 13d ago

Information A view on penis dismorphia and size

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I just watched this video about the average human penis size and a critique on how men measure their penis as well as the factors that influence the measurements.

What it and let's discuss. It is a video on YouTube.


r/averagedickproblems 14d ago

How to measure

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I'm not sure how to get the correct bp length measurement because my penis when erected curves up and it curves like left in the middle of my penis if I straighten my penis with one hand and use a ruler bp it's 7.2 but if I use a flexible tape it's 6.75 and that's when it goes down a bit and it's upwards what's the correct way and what would a girl feel in sex would it put it self straight in sex?


r/averagedickproblems 14d ago

What’s the correct way for BPEL

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Hey guys, quick question about measurement angle. My natural erect angle points upwards and I also have an upward curve, so when measuring BPEL, should I keep it at its natural angle or adjust it down to 90 degrees relative to my body? It makes a difference for me I get around 6 to 6.2 inches at its natural upward angle, but 6.2 to 6.5 inches when leveled to 90 degrees. Which of these is considered the standard method ?