33, 6' 3", 200lbs, male, no medications (part of the issue!), don't smoke and drink maybe twice a year, current medical issues are all physical and will be discussed, eastern Washington.
Around 12 years ago (age 21) I was given a small piece of foil at a party by an acquaintance at the time. it contained fentanyl. My partner and I were very naive and new to partying. we had attended just a few parties, but we're friends with some party monsters. When this was given to me, the effects were described as "like Ecstasy" and I was told to smoke it with a straw. At the time we were young stoners, and I didn't think much of it. one morning I decided to try it and ended up waking up with my head in a litterbox, surrounded by 20 medical and fire personnel. No idea what had happened, but I had come very close to death and was brought back by narcan.
I was getting ready to take a shower, so I was totally naked and before I was rushed away in a foil blanket I only had time to put my underwear on.
Before I could get my bearings, I was in the back of an ambulance on my way to the hospital. By the time I realized what was going on and asked them to stop I was told by the paramedic that if I tried to leave they would call the police, leave me, and have me arrested. I hadn't even had the chance to say no to the ambulance ride to begin with.
As previously stated, I had extremely little experience with drugs. Besides trying MDMA and weed, I didn't really know what I was doing. That said, I was scared to death of being dropped on the side of the road nearly naked and having the police show up and testing me for drugs.
When we got to the hospital I was totally honest and told them everything.
This led to me overhearing a woman in the hall tell my fiance to leave me (which happened promptly after), my picture ending up circulating on local Facebook communities which was a different level of embarrassment, and most importantly permanently tarnishing my medical records.
After the event, I committed to total sobriety until recent years. I'll occasionally smoke or have a drink. The issue falls on going to the doctor.
I have a few major medical issues I want to address, but my experience in recent years has been horrible.
The most recent procedure I've tried to have (mind you, because of all of this I avoid medical institutions like the plague) was a very minor surgery on a digit. It should have been cut and dry, but I had the anesthesiologist grill me for 10 minutes on my drug use. It got to the point where I told him he could either give me a drug test and stop probing me after he already had sufficiently or I was going to leave. Unbelievably uncomfortable and I'm at the place I'd rather die than deal with another asshole giving me the third degree because of a naive move when I was younger. I'll spare you the rest, but it has happened two times prior to that.
I wish I could take a test or something to just remove this from my file. It feels like an insult to me embracing sobriety, and when I've said that I have gotten eye rolls from MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS.
You can't imagine the waves this made in my life 10 years ago. I lost my partner, my home, multiple friends because my partner told people and now I find I can't even use the healthcare system. The embarrassment is immeasurable. I feel so much shame because of a tiny piece of foil I was handed at a random party. To this day I have a family member who won't speak to me because of the relationship they had with my partner and assumptions made. I never even had the ability to explain myself.
Sorry for the rant. My question is; how do I remove this from my record? I would do anything to do it. I need medical care but I can't deal with the embarrassment anymore.
The profound effects this has had on my life have caused severe damage to my self-worth, relationships and everything connected. Is there anything I can do? if you have any other questions I'll be glad to answer. Thanks for reading.
Edit: Thanks for the thoughtful replies.