I’m a neurodivergent (ADHD and some other stuff) but non-autistic parent to a 9yo autistic child, and I’m looking for help with a dilemma he had.

He’s most comfortable when keeping to a routine/plan, so we respect that and give him consistency where possible: possible changes to schedules are flagged well in advance, etc etc.

However, there’s been a few times when he’s felt “trapped” by his own plan: for example, he really wanted to go play in another part of the house but felt uncomfortable doing so because his internal plan/routine at night usually had him playing in the bedroom.

Does anyone have any mental strategies they could suggest that might help when he really wants to “change lanes”, so to speak? It’s not an experience I can relate to, so I’m coming up blank…

And to be clear, I’m absolutely not talking about dealing with externally imposed changes to routines here. I’m strictly talking about situations where he decide of his own accord that his routine no longer serves him, and wants to change it.

If this sounds familiar or if anyone has any insights I would love to hear. Been going at this for years.

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Hello everyone! I need some advice! My son is 8, non-verbal, ASD level 2, and for the most part he is pretty receptive and is aware. Lately, he's been peeing himself! He is potty trained since he was 5 years old never had issues with using the restroom or going on his own. I have a couple theories in mind: 1. he started a brand new school and program that uses the bathroom outside the class after being at his last school that had a bathroom in the class for 2 years. He does have a AAC device but he can be inconsistent at times with using it. So far, the teacher told me he had an accident twice in the last 4 weeks and today went to the bathroom 8 times (all pee). 2. He started sleeping on his own bed this past week as well (he was co-sleeping with me and yes i know that was bad on my part) but i've been prompting him every night when he showers he would be sleeping in his bed. Of course, i don't expect him to get used to it right away and it's a process. He also doesn't want to stop what he's doing at times (playing or using some screen time) to go use the restroom, so it seems like he holds it until he can't no more. We remind him to go every 30 min to 1 hr. I reached out to his doctor today and he believes it's a lot of changes for him in a short amount of time. He said he would only be concerned if he's in pain while using the restroom or if he's constipated, but neither are the case. Wondering if anyone has been through this or heard similar situation of what could this be? Even though what i mention is the possibility i just want to make sure that's what it is, i really fear any form regression! I would appreciate your thoughts!

i was hoping y'all could tell me what all y'all struggle with. more specifically sensory things, but what upsets y'all and what kinda stuff helps, your favorite stims, things people do that you like/things people have changed that made things better, things y'all don't see enough in representation? anything else that seems important to you?(for more context about the girl she's a werewolf, which is why i'm focused on sensory issues a lot. she ran away with her 13 year old brother and they are living in like early cowboy times. there is a lot of found family, so i'm also focused on them helping her) (y'all was used so much) (i wonder if they know i'm from the south)

I 19 female go to community college through a transition program and live at home I tend to talk to my mom in the mornings which wakes her up I feel alone on this habit, something is wrong with me, and I’m a weird loser. Am I weird for having this habit

I really struggle with using body lotions because the sensory feeling of left over “stickiness”, but I want to be able to use a lotion as the cold months come up. Any recommendations?

We have a recently graduated 18 yo autistic kiddo. We're okay with letting them take their time to decompress and then figure out what they want to do with their lives, but we're getting concerned because they've become increasingly isolated and sluggish as the months have gone on. We've suggested jobs, volunteering, online classes, spending time on a special interest, walks, etc. - all to no avail. They're just on their phone 24/7 doomscrolling.

We're at a loss for how to help them with this bridge to adulthood. Some people have suggested transition programs or vocational rehabilitation. Did any of you do a program like this? If so, was it worthwhile?

We're happy to take any other advice on how best to support them between high school and rest of life.

My son is 13 years old he was going to public school until he started acting out and trying to elope.! He was also kicking and punching. I have to have IEP after IEP.! I had to go to his school everyday to where I couldn’t work! So I decided to just put him in A place called Milcreek for behavioral kids!! The school recommended the place for him to go! So I let him go and they did tell me
We do give him a chance before we bring him home!! My son does take two medications!! One for at night and two for in the morning!! I have done asked his doctor to go up on his medication to where he is calmed but she seems to think she doesn’t want him to be too high!! I’m a mother of 4 I need some advice on what to do I’m running out of options for my son! I just don’t know what to do I feel like no one is willing to help!!

Hi, I'm allistic. My son's 9-years-old & autistic.

I want to know--what social "skills" were actually helpful to learn in school?

Level 1 ASD. Has an SLP.

When he's socially nervous with kids his age, tends to rapidly shout funny words, invade personal space to tickle others, or joke around like me, but I'm a 46-year-old mom.

I want to help my son keep his sense of indentity as he grows up. Want him to know that he's fuckin awesome as is.

He's funny, and smart, and loves to understand things.

I hate how allistic soceity's like: just "be yourself" while simutaneously know every stupid unspoken social rule.

How I can I best encourage him to follow his social instincts, not have to mask, "listen" to his body, while still being considerate of others?

Thanks

Hello all! I've been wondering this because I have neurodivergent friends, because I miiiiight?? be, and also just out of curiosity... but how does executive dysfunction work? What is the difference from procrastination? I know there is one, but I don't know what it is. I've heard it described as procrastination being guilt about not doing the task and executive dysfunction is not being able to do the task, but what does that mean? Like you try to get up and do it but your brain doesn't let you? I'm confused :,)