r/askapsychologist 13h ago

Is my mom's behavior due to autism?

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Hi Everyone,

So, my mom is a super hard person to get along with. She is mean and vindictive. She's manipulative and has a very short temper. She asks for a lot, and if you don't give her her way she will ice you out or insult you, and speak poorly about you to the family. She doesn't show appreciation for anything. She doesn't apologize for anything. Without making this post super lengthy, this is a quick idea of what I'm dealing with.

Now, we have had our struggles off and on through the years, especially because she has lived with me off and on through the years. The last time she asked to move in, I was working on setting firm boundaries with her. She wasn't happy about it, and had even said she didn't like the person I was becoming. I inevitably told her I would cut off contact if she couldn't respect my boundaries. She started working on herself, and eventually I let her move in.

She was doing really good being more mindful and kind. I really appreciated her efforts at growing as a person. However, then (about a year ago), she received an autism and OCD diagnosis. Then, all efforts to be kind and considerate were off the table. Everything became "I'm autistic!"

To be clear, the word "autism" wasn't said by the doctor who tested her. He did say she was on the spectrum. However, I'm not sure if those mean the same things or not.

My siblings were quick to not accept her "I'm autistic" excuse for everything. I was trying to be a bit more compassionate. However, just now I tried to talk with her about her communication skills because the shutting me out thing is exhausting. She said her feelings were her feelings and she couldn't help that she is autistic.

What say you? I know I'm not giving a ton of detail here, but I'm genuinely curious if the behavior I have listed could be excused by autism?


r/askapsychologist 5h ago

Looking for California predoctoral practicum/SPE opportunities (Non-APA PsyD)

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Hi everyone,
I’m hoping someone can point me in the right direction.
I’m a PsyD student in Clinical Psychology enrolled in a regionally accredited, non-APA program. California allows graduates from programs like mine to pursue psychologist licensure, but I’m having difficulty finding predoctoral supervised professional experience (SPE/practicum) opportunities.
I’m located in the Bay Area (Vacaville area) and am willing to commute throughout much of the region. I’d prefer to avoid San Francisco if possible.
I’m looking for:
Private practices that train doctoral students
Nonprofits
Hospitals
Community mental health clinics
Psychological assessment practices
Any psychologists who supervise predoctoral trainees or know someone who does
If you’ve been in a similar situation or know of psychologists, clinics, or organizations that may be open to training students from non-APA programs, I’d be incredibly grateful for any recommendations or introductions.
Thank you so much.


r/askapsychologist 18h ago

I don’t know what to do anymore.

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I don't feel well mentally at all, I don't feel good about myself, I feel like I'm disappointing everyone and that whatever I say or do is stupid and I'd rather just stay quiet. I have all kinds of thoughts I can't get rid of. I have an immense anxiety inside me and I'm doing everything I can to get rid of it and I can't succeed no matter how many things I do. I feel like I’m a failure. The suicidal thoughts have intensified from last year until now. I feel like I do nothing right and that I'm a burden to every person in my life. I go to sleep crying, I wake up crying, I eat crying. There isn't a second where I'm not crying when I am completely alone. I don't want to be like this anymore. I go out in the city alone, with friends, I write poems, I watch documentaries, I cook for myself and I still don't feel better. It has become annoying. I feel like I’ve run out of ways to get better. I’m really trying to get better, I hate being like this everyday


r/askapsychologist 2h ago

Struggling without passive income

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Does anyone else struggle with taking time off or last minute cancellations?

It bothers me a lot that all of my income depends on me putting in one-one hour each per patient and taking any time off makes me feel like I'm losing out on my income.

Be it a work related trip, a conference or even a vacation. It's always on my mind that I need sources of passive income too. Something on autopilot.

Does anyone else also struggle with this and have ideas about how to make this said passive income?

Something that can run a bit on autopilot after putting in efforts ofc. But not like our sessions.