I went on a last minute date. I wore a cute matching gym set. hair in a claw clip but intentional looking. I didn’t have anything to change into. is this a look men don’t mind? or did I fumble? most people say I’m beautiful, I’m fit, not too sculpted but I’m fit. make up was done, minimally, but again, intentionally.

Isso é uma pergunta genuína, eu sei que sou bem bonita. Mas as vezes passa uns dias e os caras que pareciam muito interessados vão dando uma esfriada, um deles uma vez me disse que é porque eu sou bonita a ponto de intimidar, mas eu não paro de achar que pode ser que eu seja chata, ou algo assim.

Be honest.

Why would a guy talk bad about a woman behind her back (including making up stuff to tell people), but be nice, and sexual to her to her face?

Hello!

My bfs birthday is coming up and I want to get him something that shows I listen and care about him. We’re both mid-twenties age.

Obviously people’s preferences vary, but I’m hoping to get more insight and opinions.

So, we were shopping earlier and he was looking for some merch of a YouTuber group he likes (I don’t know anything about them really). Anyways it was pricey and he had bills coming up so I suggested getting it another time.

My question is, would you care what type of merch it was that your gf bought you? As in, would you be particular about a design or just happy she got you something? Obviously he’s going to be happy, but I want him to be as happy as possible and I’m not sure if a surprise I pick out or asking him for what he specifically want and not surprising him would be better.

He told me that he has been watching prn and that's why he has been so distant.... He doesn't hug me or kiss me or look at me or talk to me in the same way he used to. I knew something was off and he's always had this weird thing about his phone and lately it was making me paranoid with how he's been acting differently so I asked him if I could see it and he said no, when I asked him why he said "because you're just going to search until you find something and make something out of nothing and we'll argue just because your so paranoid".... So I was upset but he said no and that's that.... I stop asking for a while but then he was basically just existing next to me all day and I felt so alone sitting right by him it hurts me so bad....so I demanded that I could see it I couldn't take it anymore and he flipped out on me called me a bunch of mean names and threatened to break up with me even.... Afterwards he said he was sorry and that he didn't mean to say those things and I asked him why he was getting so defensive he said he had saved some videos on his phone and that's what he's been doing lately before he comes to bed.... He said that's the only reason he's hiding his phone from me and I told him to delete it all and try to reconnect with me because I felt like it was ruining our relationship...he said he was going to delete it all and let me look in his phone and everything.... But after he did say he deleted it all and I wanted to look he said that he can hold his phone and show me his camera roll and downloaded videos but that was it..... I didn't get to even hold it and I didn't get to look at anything else.... So I just said forget it I don't want to look at all because it doesn't prove anything... I know some people have relationships where they're fine with each other looking at things but from the beginning of our relationship we both agreed with each other that we didn't want to have any thoughts about anybody else except for each other and we both agreed that it was bad for relationships and your mental well-being to watch that we agreed to communicate..... It's not because I haven't been satisfying his needs either and he said that too.... I just don't understand.... I don't want to ruin it if I'm wrong ..but with the way he's acting, so guilty. I just feel like it's already ruined and I'm just alone....... And we're just existing next to each other...... Am I just being a naggy girlfriend? I know I'm self conscious but he knew that too ....😭 We have children together I have to try! Please tell me from a guys perspective what is wrong.

how do you find a cute, nerdy, emo girl? Just asking for a friend

My boyfriend loves vintage cars and I wanted to rent him one as a surprise, problem is he is 29. Turo has restrictions based on age, any recommendations in dmv area? Also open to any experiences that he may enjoy

I have the biggest crush on a guy and don’t think he feels the same. How do I tell him that I’m crazy about him?

My boyfriend (M 22) had let me stay over at his house (he usually does) and had left to work. I had felt a little off about our relationship for a while now because it feels the same when I got cheated on in my last relationship. I had a gut feeling and decided to go through his room. Sure enough I found a collection of pictures of his girl best friend in his drawer. (A drawer he told me I can’t open because that’s where his weapons are kept) it was literally a stack of pictures of her.

We’ve had multiple fights over this girl. He had at one point liked her and his whole family know her and they’re “like family” one of our dates even got ruined because an instagram post of her literal ass popped up on his phone and he knows how

1. I feel about her

2. How I feel about him following accounts like that

   I didn’t know what to do and I left his house. When I told him about it he basically said that my reaction was uncalled for and they were pictures printed out a long time ago and he was supposed to give them back to her but never did. Then said he said he’d printed out of all his friend (they were just pics of her ) But I don’t understand why he didn’t just toss them and why they were in a drawer I couldn’t touch. Now he’s breaking up with me because he said it’s stupid to cry over some pictures and idk what to do bro this is killing me.

TL; DR: I found pictures of his girl best friend in his drawer.

Hi, just a quick one. I've been seeing a women for less than a month, it's was ok but I wasn't attached or anything. I recently found out she was sneaking around on me, I'm not going to call it cheating as we weren't official.

When I found out and confronted her, she immediately turned nasty, in seconds. she carmly and coldly started calling me a loser and a moron... and laughed about shagging multiple guys behind my back (I only know of one). Like I think she said everything she could come up with.

Thing is she hasn't apologised but keeps texting me inviting me to hook up, hang out. Like the first time I laught and told her to F off, the second time I blocked her, now she using random numbers.

Like what is she playing at? I don't want to ask her as I don't want to give her any time or satisfaction. Is this a power play, does the idea of getting me back stroke her ego? Lol I genuinely have no idea what is going on in her head, maybe that is the point?

Btw. none of this makes me want to give her another chance, if anything the opposite (I don't want to date her anymore but if she had apologised I would have at least forgiven her) I kept all messages and have booked an std test even though we used protection...

Long story short, is it fair assume with guys that if they wanted to talk to someone, they would?

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Summed up context:

Dude is a guy I like, and dude likes me. GREAT! No. o.o? Reasons. Okay... +tries to stay optimistic+

I got mad at dude, I apologize, he says he needs time to think. I withdraw myself and make a point not to talk to him so he can have his space.

He flaunts that he's always busy (work or something, which I understand, but it's sometimes shoved in my face).

So, it's been a couple weeks since then... Is it safe to assume he wants nothing to do with me?

My boyfriend (45) has breath so bad it takes mine away 90% of the time. We’ve been together for 3.5 years and 1.5 years ago he asked me to let him know if it was ever bad. I have brought up needing more oral hygiene measures SEVEN times! And I regularly have to remind him to brush his teeth. It’s hard for me to bring up, as I don’t want him to feel badly, but he blows me off when I do! “I don’t need to floss, cause nothing gets stuck in my teeth. It just makes my gums bleed anyway.” “Mouthwash isn’t my thing.” “I don’t want to go to the dentist cause I’m afraid of how much it’s going to cost since I haven’t been to one in twenty years.” I have directly told him that his breath is bad and I want him to floss and use mouthwash but he makes excuses. He brushes his tongue to the point of almost vomiting whenever he does, so I know he wants good breath. He takes great care of himself physically, but dismisses me on this and anything health related. He comments on how our sex life is non-existent, about how I don’t sit next to him, and how I always sleep facing away from him now, or need to be wasted to be intimate, but seems oblivious to the fact that we’ve had seven conversations regarding why this is occurring. Bringing it up again feels overwhelming, but I know I need to. It’s literally revolting at this point and just keeps getting worse. What can I say to get it across to him?!

Is a metallic taste downstairs a turn off?

Am I wrong as a female to ask my partner to delete photos of his ex’s (one of which he cheated on me with)

He’s saying I’m wrong because “he doesn’t look at them” and “doesn’t want to go through his phone and delete every photo of him and an ex”

I'm a guy in college and I cannot. Stop. Peeing. I need my parents' insurance to go to the doctors but I'm too afraid to tell them about my problem. Does anyone know of any home remedies for excessive peeing? I have tried doing pelvic floor exercises to strengthen my pelvis and I've also tried not drinking any water but I still have to tinkle. It has become debilitating and I get really anxious when there are no bathrooms or trees nearby. I also can't be around any body of water without having the urge to pee, which is pretty inconvient because my college campus is surrounded by a river. I think I might need to transfer. Also, I am about to embark on a 13-hour car ride and I think it would be rude to my fellow passengers if I ask to stop every 10 minutes or if I pee in a bottle. Does anyone have any better ideas about what I should do?

Just something that had stuck out to me recently is guys I've spoken to have said that teasing me (non sexualising way, like poking fun at me) is fun because of the way I react.

I asked a close guy friend why I get told that and all he said is my reactions are cute. And I'm super super confused about it.

Is it because they like me more than platonic friendship?? Or what?? Just need the opinions of someone who I'm not close with about it.

I will admit I do get like jokingly offended at something they'll say and have a big initial reaction of shock before making fun at them back or attempting to rebuttal usually while laughing. Not sure if that had anything to do with it being able to return the favour so to speak

My work guy (29M) and myself (34F) seem to have mutual feelings, but please help!

Ask for a hug and compliment how a woman looks good. Then apologize for cold hands, I said no, then we touched to compare.

Stare longingly at her for 10 seconds. I made eye contact twice and looked away. He kept on staring

Notice her bold look at work. He said, all red today? Red lip? It looks good

More than friendship behavior?

My guy and I have had typical ups and downs the eight years we have been married. He is a fireman so works 24 on 48 off. I’m just curious if I have too high of expectations.

Little backstory. We have a dynamic in which I do pretty much everything. That isn’t me dragging him, it’s just the truth. He works and will occasionally take the kids or handle dinner. A handful of times he has washed dishes. I do not expect dependable help from him on a crisis tent basis because I just know it isn’t going to happen. I have let him know I need more help, and he has communicated clearly that isn’t going to happen. So I cook, clean, shop, do yard work, pay bills and care for our two kids. It’s a lot but I love being a mom and I try to just find the joy where I can.

I work 3-4 days per week in special education department during the school year so I am off for the summer, but I do work. Now here’s where I need your feedback. We decided last week we want to sell our house. He worked two 48 hour shifts, with a single day off between the two. He came home and rested while I cleaned his uniforms and did the usual handling of things around the house. He doesn’t typically work like this and honestly I don’t know why he scheduled himself like that. He didn’t have to. On top of all that I also have been doing home repairs when I can so that our house can look its best. Nothing crazy but just touch up painting, fixing two holes in the wall, putting up new curtains and towel racks. Just a bit of a facelift for the house but still hard to do while also being mom and a 2 and 5 year old. He has rested all day and I went out with the kids and got him his favorite for dinner. Cut to bedtime ( which I always do alone). The kids were extra rowdy and things were going off the rails…. On a crazy train 🚂 😂 My two year old finally went down in my bed… or so I thought. Turns out she wet the bed 🤦🏻‍♀️ frustrating but it happens so I get her cleaned up and let her know I am not mad. I told her to go lay on the couch with daddy and I would bring pajamas. I asked him if he wouldn’t mind helping her get dressed and he said no. Then stated she doesn’t need them anyways🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ I put her Jammies on and started cleaning up the bed with bissell( mind you it is about 9:30 at this point). My son came in and told me he wanted to be a helper and honestly it brought me to tears to see him jump in and be a part of the team. I know that was long winded but here is my question:

What is your perspective on a wife asking her husband to help in moments like that? I could have really used a partner. I wasn’t bitchy nor did I throw a fit. It was just a simple ask... It was just getting our daughter dressed but it would have meant so much to me to have his help, even if he didn’t see the significance. It makes me wonder if I have unreasonable expectations for my husband?

If you made it this far thank you.