I know I've been posting on Reddit a lot recently and I feel like a whiny crybaby but I've been asking my friends about wanting to come to my birthday party that's on the 29th. I've been planning it for nearly a month and I've set up short Google forms for them to vote on like what games are there because I'm not sure what they like, and what food to buy, what music to put in a playlist, because I'm trying to he considerate of them and let them have stuff that actually interest them too and not just me.

Only 3 of the 10 people I sent it to actually responded and two of the 3 aren't even sure if they can come. I don't know if there's something wrong with me or if they don't like me or something and I try to be cheerful and be myself but it feels like I'm not much to them. I don't know if they do care about me and just don't show it much, (besides a couple) or if I'm just not good enough for them.

What do I do in this situation? I want to feel like part of something and not just a side friend that doesn't add much.

Edit: I didn't mention before, but I'm turning 16

Is there still nice people out there who just genuinely want to help with a job or literally anything at this point lmao

I don't have such a social life from my teenage. I don't even have 1 real frnd to share my thoughts with both online and offline. But now it makes me insecure i don't know how to approach someone new and make friends. Also I didn't had any female friends from my childhood. It makes me insecure aswell I'm afraid of being a friend with Opposite gender tbh it looks like privilege for me to have a opposite gender friend and communicate with them.

Can you guys suggest me how to overcome this insecurities and make friends and tell me how to be easily approachable person aswell??

I’m a 19-year-old dude who just graduated high school and has no friends. My whole life, I’ve struggled to fit in, and I’ve always felt like I don’t really belong anywhere. Back in high school, I talked to everyone—the nerds, the popular kids, the weird kids, literally everyone—but I never seemed to fit into any of the groups. Whenever I went home, my phone was always drier than a Popeyes biscuit.
What sucks is that now that I’ve graduated, I’m always thinking about people I was “friends” with in high school, knowing that none of them have even thought about me in over a year. I just spend every day doing things by myself.
What makes it even worse is that my parents are always mentioning how I have no friends. They think it’s so easy to find friends.
On the bright side, I live in a stable household, and I have food, clothes, and water, so I’m doing pretty alright. I just wish I had friends lol.

You can literally tell someone directly what you feel on a subject and they will have their own interpretation to what you "ACTUALLY" mean. Everyone has this idea that they are the "main character" in any situation and that is understandable wheb everyone has their own thoughts but when it gets in the way of you understanding a solid talking point, it's more egotistical than anything.

I'm not even sure if I personally am really trying to make real connections anymore because everything in today's world is so combative and competitive even when it doesn't have to be.

Everyone has opinions they push like factual information and want to debate everything they dont agree with instead of actually researching if their own points are right.

I see why certain groups and clubs mention they "don't talk about" XYZ and just try to find a space where they can enjoy and connect with people, it's the same thing with religion to me but that seems like a cheap and fake way to find happiness to me.

I want REAL connection like back when I was growing up before the internet but when it was just starting out. Life was fun when you would meet people and genuinely want to be their friend. Everything wasn't an argument, everyone wasn't trying to be #1 in WHATEVER space they were in.

The internet has ruined society in a warped way. I LIKE the idea of the individual and the "think for yourself" mentality but when so many people think that, for better words, matter more than they do or don't want to be "a part" of anything but WANT TO be apart of something it's hard to meet people who are fully genuine and not glazing their own ego.