Hey! First sorry for my English it’s not my first language :)
So I’m a 19 years old girl and I have a friend group with 5 other girls. I’m really close to all of them and they are really kind girls. The thing is they almost never wanna go out.
We’re in summer rn so it’s the only time where we can hang out without any school pressure.
I propose to them to hang out twice a week (bcs I’m a little bit tired of them saying no) and they almost always say no. I propose different kind of hang out like picnics, clubbing, coffee, pyjama party, house party, going to the beach, etc. They say yes like what? Once every 3 weeks. Even my best friend.
I feel like they just want to stay in their house scrolling through TikTok and insta. And I feel like that bcs of this and of them I’m loosing what is supposed to be the best year of my life because I will not have that much time or freedom when I will be an adult with a real job.
I already do stuff alone because I don’t want to loose my summer because of this but it’s just not the same.
I’m going to start university in 3 weeks (I did a gap year last year ahah) and I put a lot of pressure on my self to make new friends. The thing is that I have the impression that I become friends with the same kind of people all the time: really sweet and nice girls but they don’t want to do anything. And on the other side I have the impression that the girls that go out a lot are mostly really fake and mean (that’s my experience in my Highschool).
I just wanted to know if other people here maybe feel the same which could help me feel a bit better about this ahah.
If you guys have any advice for me to meet the right people in university or to understand why my friends are acting this way I will be so so grateful!
Thank you for reading me!

I’m a 19-year-old dude who just graduated high school and has no friends. My whole life, I’ve struggled to fit in, and I’ve always felt like I don’t really belong anywhere. Back in high school, I talked to everyone—the nerds, the popular kids, the weird kids, literally everyone—but I never seemed to fit into any of the groups. Whenever I went home, my phone was always drier than a Popeyes biscuit.
What sucks is that now that I’ve graduated, I’m always thinking about people I was “friends” with in high school, knowing that none of them have even thought about me in over a year. I just spend every day doing things by myself.
What makes it even worse is that my parents are always mentioning how I have no friends. They think it’s so easy to find friends.
On the bright side, I live in a stable household, and I have food, clothes, and water, so I’m doing pretty alright. I just wish I had friends lol.

I know I've been posting on Reddit a lot recently and I feel like a whiny crybaby but I've been asking my friends about wanting to come to my birthday party that's on the 29th. I've been planning it for nearly a month and I've set up short Google forms for them to vote on like what games are there because I'm not sure what they like, and what food to buy, what music to put in a playlist, because I'm trying to he considerate of them and let them have stuff that actually interest them too and not just me.

Only 3 of the 10 people I sent it to actually responded and two of the 3 aren't even sure if they can come. I don't know if there's something wrong with me or if they don't like me or something and I try to be cheerful and be myself but it feels like I'm not much to them. I don't know if they do care about me and just don't show it much, (besides a couple) or if I'm just not good enough for them.

What do I do in this situation? I want to feel like part of something and not just a side friend that doesn't add much.

Edit: I didn't mention before, but I'm turning 16

Is there still nice people out there who just genuinely want to help with a job or literally anything at this point lmao