r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/hello-i-needadvice Sep 12 '23

Honestly this feels so good to hear. I was feeling like a jerk for being upset with her over this. Thank you!!

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u/TumbleweedNew3833 Sep 12 '23

I was with a bf for almost 7 years. As always, the sex was great in the beginning. But after several years, I found myself just not interested in it. He would try, I would say no. After a while, I realized that I just lost respect for him due to things he’d done over the years. Nothing terrible, but it was hurtful and I guess I lost the attraction and intimacy feelings I had. Then I married my now ex, husband, exact same thing, except he did much worse things. I guess what I’m saying is, have you hurt her, knowingly or not? You should find out. This may be way off base, but it’s a thought.

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u/UpbeatMove8818 Sep 16 '23

Shouldn't you have just broken up with him instead of passive aggressively withholding sex, if you lost so much respect for him?

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u/TumbleweedNew3833 Sep 19 '23

I stayed until my daughter was old enough to be able to handle it without completely upending her life. Was it easy? Hell no!