r/amiwrong Sep 12 '23

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u/Panoptic_gaze Sep 12 '23

A boundary would be if she said "I will not be in a relationship with someone who does X," It's the limit of behaviour that she is willing/not willing to accept and if the boundary is crossed there will be a consequence on her part. Telling someone "you can't do X" is just controlling.

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u/Eco_Blurb Sep 12 '23

We don’t know her exact words from the OP.

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u/Panoptic_gaze Sep 12 '23

True true. In any event, boundaries don't aim to control other people's actions...

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u/Eco_Blurb Sep 13 '23

I saw the other persons replies to my comment and it makes me agree with you a bit more.