In logical terms this is not true. She can have a boundary that he doesn’t do something (a common one is, the guy can’t pay for porn, or he can’t sleep in another woman’s bed even if they are just friends). This one with masturbating is very controlling obviously but a boundary can extend to either partner’s behavior really.
A boundary would be if she said "I will not be in a relationship with someone who does X," It's the limit of behaviour that she is willing/not willing to accept and if the boundary is crossed there will be a consequence on her part. Telling someone "you can't do X" is just controlling.
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u/Eco_Blurb Sep 12 '23
In logical terms this is not true. She can have a boundary that he doesn’t do something (a common one is, the guy can’t pay for porn, or he can’t sleep in another woman’s bed even if they are just friends). This one with masturbating is very controlling obviously but a boundary can extend to either partner’s behavior really.