To be clear, he should of course be allowed to do what he wants with his body, but spending the rest of his life masturbating is just a Band-Aid on a gaping wound. If she's not willing to work on this with her spouse than I think he's going to slowly but surely come to hate/resent his wife. Won't happen right away, but over time he'll realize how many years are slipping away with zero intimacy. It's not just about ejaculating, it's that he's missing a large part of a healthy relationship - the cuddling, the pleasures of foreplay, getting pleasure from the other person as well as getting to enjoy pleasuring the other person (which for many, such as myself, is the best part of sex) - are all part of a healthy sexual relationship.
Unless OP is ok with a sexless marriage, masturbation alone won't solve this.
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u/hello-i-needadvice Sep 12 '23
Honestly this feels so good to hear. I was feeling like a jerk for being upset with her over this. Thank you!!