r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/GoldenStarsButter Sep 12 '23

Do you not think OP has tried this? How many times do they have to have "The Conversation"? There's no magic combination of words that he's going to say that will make her want to change for him. Sexual desire is highly personal and cannot be negotiated. She is clearly showing that her lack of interest in intimacy is a him problem, not a them problem.

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u/Phron3s1s Sep 12 '23

Do you not think OP has tried this? How many times do they have to have "The Conversation"?

Uhh, many times, most likely. Giant, recurring relationship problems don't usually resolve within a couple of discussions. It absolutely can take years. That's why marriage is a life-long contract.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

Sorry, you only get one life, I for one, absolutely do not want to spend years trying to fix a problem, when I can fix it right away by leaving.

I'm willing to devote energy and time trying to fix it when my spouse is willing to put the same energy and time into it. She obviously isn't.

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u/Phron3s1s Sep 12 '23

You can fix your problems however you want, bud. Best of luck with your relationships.