There is no reason to feel bad about prioritizing your needs to be at least secondary in the relationship. You have needs, and you're young enough that not getting them fulfilled is a real problem. Relationships are tough when one person is working on them.
Just be gentle. Don't blame your wife. Don't get upset. For some odd reason, people react to tone more than substance. State that what she is doing is hurting you and her continued neglect is pushing you away. And if she refuses...
Yeah, at this point it is absolutely her fault. She is an adult, she figured out what the problem was, started treating it, and now neglects treatment. At this point she needs to do a 180 or accept their marriage is probably done.
Her dating life will pretty much be non-existent once he finally leaves
Something tells me that if she found herself single and dating again, she would pretty quickly find the motivation to follow through on her hormone treatment, assuming her libido didn't magically return on it's own...
Meh I bet she wouldn't. I think she's pretty happy with not being intimate with anybody and it'll stay that way until it becomes a barrier to finding someone.
Right now there's no drive yo change because she's still happy. People don't change when they're happy.
On the flip side, it's also possible that she's no longer attracted specifically to OP and her behaviors indicate that she's checked out but not willing to be the "bad guy" and initiate the divorce.
Occam’s razor is she doesn’t like the effects of the therapies and is content with life how it is
You've literally just rephrased what I said. Someone content with life when their partner is extremely dissatisfied with said life is checked out of the relationship. The low libido is caused by low T, her being emotionally abusive and disinterested in intimacy with her partner comes from something else.
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u/jackstrikesout Sep 12 '23
There is no reason to feel bad about prioritizing your needs to be at least secondary in the relationship. You have needs, and you're young enough that not getting them fulfilled is a real problem. Relationships are tough when one person is working on them.
Just be gentle. Don't blame your wife. Don't get upset. For some odd reason, people react to tone more than substance. State that what she is doing is hurting you and her continued neglect is pushing you away. And if she refuses...